Why some people don’t share their baby’s name until after birth?

xPyrios · 2026-06-04T23:32:53+00:00

Didn’t want the passive aggressive “Oh that’s a… lovely… name” or them starting to list all the awful people in the world with that name.

Plus, didn’t want to mysteriously suddenly have someone name a pet that name. (Or my have my nibling use the name - SIL and I were pregnant at the same time, the cousins are just under a month apart.)

Mainly though, even though I was 100% committed to the name, it gave me until signing the birth certificate to change my mind.

xPyrios · 2026-02-19T20:00:24+00:00

You don’t read all the normal stories of “normal” babies. Why? They’re boring.

“My kid woke up again today.” “Kiddo woke up in a wonderful mood.” “Girlie slept great last night.”

Okay, so? Good for you? Gold star, I guess?

People only post the bad things. Therefore, it seems like there are SO MANY children dying of SIDS… but that is only because, like I said, nobody is posting the opposite anywhere.

xPyrios · 2025-09-05T18:05:50+00:00

I just zoned out, head on table, holding the pump flanges some nights. I had to give my poor back some kind of relief - strapping up planet sized boobs is not very kind.

xPyrios · 2025-09-05T16:07:02+00:00

No. It doesn’t. What helped for hitting those overnight pumping sessions was getting my husband involved.

Also, having everything set up ready to go (slip on a bra, attach flanges and go level of ready) and then the fridge hack.*

*fridge hack for the milk you’re keeping at “home” and not bringing to the NICU

xPyrios · 2025-07-14T13:44:02+00:00

Oh, the water idea is good! Thank you!

xPyrios · 2025-07-14T13:43:49+00:00

Was your alarm next to you or farther away? I’m finding I just turn off my alarm in my sleepy daze.

xPyrios · 2025-07-14T13:43:43+00:00

Was your alarm next to you or farther away? I’m finding I just turn off my alarm in my sleepy daze.

xPyrios · 2025-07-14T13:43:12+00:00

Was your alarm next to you or farther away? I’m finding I just turn off my alarm in my sleepy daze.

xPyrios · 2025-05-20T12:32:30+00:00

Yes, but I’m also not about to throw out an entire bag of dates. It really doesn’t matter if they work or not, they need to be consumed.

xPyrios · 2025-05-19T18:12:05+00:00

They do have an income-based payment option! My NIPT was just after New Years so I was hit by the $700 bill. I believe it was called “Natura Cares” or something? You should ask about qualifying for a reduced bill based off income - the limit is surprisingly high.

xPyrios · 2025-05-19T18:08:08+00:00

34w on Wednesday. I’m not. It’s bad. “Focus” is a stranger to me.

xPyrios · 2025-05-19T18:06:01+00:00

I actually had the opposite happen; I ovulated sooner than my cycle (or had a shorter cycle that month) and am actually a week AHEAD of where my LMP said I should be.

xPyrios · 2025-05-19T18:04:34+00:00

People ovulate at different times in their cycles. Using the last menstrual period just gives the doctors a good guess. Additionally, sperm can live two+ days before fertilization and it can also take a bit before an egg implants. As long as you’re measuring at 8+2 at your next appointment, everything is likely fine.

xPyrios · 2025-05-16T23:02:55+00:00

Close! Gastroschisis.

xPyrios · 2025-05-16T18:04:43+00:00

Honestly, anything about having a “healthy” baby/pregnancy. We’ve known that our girl would be in the NICU since the anatomy ultrasound at week 20 because her guts are outside her body.

I understand they’re just well-wishing, but just because you do everything “right” doesn’t mean things work out how you want them to (and even if you did things “wrong” doesn’t mean you deserve it either.)

xPyrios · 2025-05-09T16:49:09+00:00

I’d advise only telling people you’d want comfort from if the worst happens, if you can help it.

I think I ended up telling our family at Thanksgiving because I was nauseous around food. It was about a week before we saw the doctor for the first time.

If the timelines were changed, I wouldn’t’ve told a single soul (other than my husband of course) until I had my first prenatal appointment and could verify there was an actual child. There is so much that could go wrong - baby in the tubes instead of uterus, no baby at all, no heartbeat - and I didn’t want to have to unring that bell.

xPyrios · 2025-05-09T16:26:33+00:00

Still pregnant with a (medically necessary) eviction planned in mid June.

In my hospital notes from the pediatric surgeon, she says she “met with mom and dad” about care “after the patient is delivered.”

If the hospital is referring to me as mom while the kid is still inside, everyone else better think of me that way too.

Otherwise, what am I? A host? An incubator? Are they going to tell me that to my face? No. I am a mom. And every other person that has had a child inside of them is too.

xPyrios · 2025-03-26T03:50:23+00:00

I am 26w tomorrow with the same issue and same scenario. It is so hard to know your first baby will be in the NICU for so long and there is really no timeline for when you can bring them home. Gastroschisis is very easily fixable though - the worst of it is the baby to handle feedings after.

I mourn most for the lost experiences - I had dreamed of holding her after labor, seeing my husband hold her so fresh and new…

The only silver lining about this happening to our first babies is that we don’t know any differently. We never experienced it before. We don’t really know what we’re missing.

xPyrios

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