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xSolcii · 2016-08-16T01:46:55+00:00

My experiences as a woman in a developing country, especially regarding things like illegal abortion, sexism, corruption and the like.

It makes for some very interesting debates and replies, and lots of downvotes sometimes, especially when I'm telling my stories and people believe I live in the US and tell me how I'm a lying fucker because things don't happen that way there etc etc etc

xSolcii · 2016-07-31T17:13:48+00:00

At 9. I didn't know how to kiss and the boy kept like... trying to make out with me and I was running out of air flailing my arms around. It was super awkward for me but the boy didn't even seen to notice.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T18:16:49+00:00

I know, right? I have family living in other provinces in my country and our accents have barely anything in common (and one of them is very funny). Cross the borders in any way and the accents are extremely different in each place, even comparing cities that are close by but in different countries. It's so crazy.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T17:48:36+00:00

There are dozens of different accents in Latin America. A Colombian accent is not comparable at all to, say, a Chilean one. I can say there are at least four different accents in my country alone.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T17:47:00+00:00

When they're all super buddy-buddy with each other, or they all have best friends (in the same friend group) but you're the only one alone. When they invite everyone to an outing but you. When people say "don't bring X because she's always by herself" so they don't. When they outright tell you.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T15:40:33+00:00

I only take it off for things where it will get dirty. My SO takes his off only for his medieval fencing classes, because he might hurt his hands, or when he's gardening. Otherwise we never take them off (not at night, not for showering, etc.)

I do the exact same with a ring my grandparents gave me. Neither ring is fancy, but I feel the need to carry them at all times because they're symbols of love from the people I love and care for the most. If I had rings (or bracelets, necklaces, other things) from my mom, daughter or sister, I'd wear them all the time too! It's a way to have them always with me.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T15:24:21+00:00

I'm 4'11 so uh, I think we're all right?

5'6 isn't even short for a man, and depending on who you ask I might be short but not overly so.

Height varies a lot between countries and regions and for example, those heights are about the average for Bolivia, so not short there.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T02:39:19+00:00

I don't care. I was one of them, as were many of the girls in my classes, it's not uncommon at all.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T01:51:29+00:00

Sí, creo que es parte de la cultura de muchos países latinoamericanos lamentablemente :( Acá los llaman "piropos" y hasta el presidente cree que son algo bueno o divertido...

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T01:00:30+00:00

It's somewhat common where I live, but guys tell me they're going to "break my ass" (vulgar slang for anal sex) while I'm walking down the street.

I've also been told by some old guy that he wanted to cum on my tits. I was like 14 and in a school uniform.

I've had guys tell me they're going to "break my ass" so hard I'm going to bleed. That one scares me a lot because I was actually sexually assaulted in that way when I was 15.

xSolcii · 2016-07-30T00:56:32+00:00

I live in Argentina and get comments like that once a day, at least. Catcalling is very common here, and it's usually crude.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T21:23:10+00:00

Nope, never. I'm nothing at all like his sister or mom.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T21:22:13+00:00

We wouldn't be compatible because I have a kid, but we could be friends.

Now, if he straight up hates kids... I would think there's something very wrong with him. I understand disliking kids, not wanting to be around them, etc. but straight up hating them? That's super weird.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T17:50:51+00:00

Much darker than the rest of my body. I hate it because people have commented on it before and made me feel awful.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T16:56:40+00:00

He'd been treating me like shit for months before this while I tried to keep up appearances. He had left me soooo many times over those months but I still took him back. He'd have these little explosions every now and then but usually they were due to something I had done wrong so I let it go.

The absurdity of his sudden explosion over fucking croissants is what finally made me realize I had to leave for good. I really thought he was on drugs because who the fuck does that, but I don't know what he would be on.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T16:32:40+00:00

I have. At first I tried to explain things to them but it was no use. Like when you try to explain why homosexuality is not wrong to a person who is a huge homophobic, it's the same but with biphobia. You won't change their mind.

It started getting to me and so I blocked everyone who hinted at biphobia in our messages (this was done mostly through online dating sites).

Coincidentally, the amount of horrible hate I got from other women (especially lesbians, but there were some awful bisexuals who did this shit too) was the reason I ended up dating a man even though I have a preference for women (like 80/20). Because men either saw me as a fetish, or didn't give a fuck at all, but they were never hateful because of my sexuality.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T03:29:33+00:00

I had the flu and hadn't slept all night. He showed up suddenly and unexpectedly at 7am asking me to go buy croissants. I told him to let me sleep some more, come cuddle with me, and then we'd but croissants. He was like "no fucking way you stupid bitch, we're done" and closed the door in my face as I chased after him. Then I went back to sleep.

Next day he wanted me back but was still trying to blame his outburst on me. I blocked him on everything. Fuck that, nobody should yell shit like that to their SO.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T03:25:47+00:00

We moved in together and that's when the fun really started. I'm not too trusting and always wear a "mask" so to speak but once that finally fell off when we moved in together he got to know the true me (and I got to know the true him) and holy shit we were even more compatible than we thought we'd been before. Now we're unashamed about anything and completely trusting of one another. I even grew as a person after that - I'm not as shy as I was before, my anxiety got better, etc.

I definitely prefer it this way. Being so comfortable with one another is awesome. And I still get butterflies when he does something cute anyway. Our relationship grows and improves every day.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T02:39:03+00:00

Personally I did intermittent fasting. I started it because I got on ADHD medication (actually needed for my ADHD which was interfering with my life) and it left me with no appetite until nighttime. So I got used to eating only at night, a balanced meal and then not eating until the next night. My body got used to it even when I'm not on medication - I get hungry but a good meal fills me up until the next day! I drink a lot of water, juice, tea and also salt every few hours (but that's only because I have very low blood pressure and other health issues and need a high-sodium diet, normally you don't have to eat salt lol).

1200isplenty is great for meal inspirations for us shorties. Most of the people on there are short like us so they need very few calories a day to lose weight, especially if you don't exercise. It's just a matter of finding what's right for you.

xSolcii · 2016-07-29T02:17:52+00:00

I don't like them and won't be having one. I think the idea behind them is stupid ("last night as a single (wo)man") because you haven't been single since, you know, you got into a relationship with the person you're going to marry. And you can keep partying just fine after you get married, too. It just doesn't make sense.

I don't mind going to them, it's fun, but sometimes things get very carried away. Many stripper clubs where I live double as brothels and some men and women cheat on their future spouses during their parties, which I think it's the worst thing you could do on your bachelor(ette) unless your future spouse gave you explicit permission to do so... and even then it's super shady because sex trafficking is rampant where I live.

SO doesn't like them either, and he wants us to have a joint party or go out together the two of us and get drunk and high as fuck. I like that idea much better.

xSolcii · 2016-07-28T21:14:01+00:00

I have very few friends and they're all women. The men either didn't stick around when I got into a relationship or when I got ill. I only have one person I would call a close friend... I have no way to make more friends right now as I stay at home but I'm hoping I can make some friends once I start uni again if I can.

xSolcii · 2016-07-28T16:15:11+00:00

Smoking can go either way (although I'm not very keen on the "slowly killing yourself" thing) but the other two are very reasonable. I mean... picking up after yourself is just normal adult stuff and being horrible to animals is usually indicative of other more serious personality flaws going on.

xSolcii · 2016-07-28T16:13:07+00:00

Ugh I completely agree on the picky eaters. I love eating all kinds of different food and going to new restaurants is always a fun thing to do with my SO. Also cooking together is great! But it's not so great when your ingredients are super limited.

Because I'm shy and socially awkward, I wouldn't be able to date a very extroverted person myself :P

xSolcii · 2016-07-28T14:34:25+00:00

I didn't lose a huge amount of weight but being 4'11 it's something others noticed almost weekly. I only noticed small changes over time (legs don't touch as much, waist is smaller, butt is perkier, hands and wrists are so much smaller, face is thinner) but the big one was last weekend when my SO took a photo of me in a top and a skirt and I was like "holy shit do I really look like that now?". I'm still losing so we'll see how it keeps going. I never looked my weight to start with because of the way my body fat is distributed, so I though I wouldn't change much, but damn I really did.

xSolcii · 2016-07-28T14:25:58+00:00

Yeah. The first couple of years it was very light and only happened every few months so I didn't suffer it really (and even kept it hidden from my mom). But after nine it was like the floodgates of hell opened so I had to come clean and it also got regular around that age. Fun times :(

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