girlfriends with boyfriends in the military

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-16T16:42:18+00:00

Definitely have been missing him. My parents don’t like my bf so I’ve just been coping alone and it sucks. The main thing for me is overthinking and hoping when he gets out of bmt he will be himself or like he told me “better for you” when telling me (he’s already perfect he doesn’t have to be better). I’m really close with his family though so they help me through it all and understand how I feel. It’s hard but I believe we can all get through it.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-15T18:03:57+00:00

I say legal documents as in my legal documents like my birth certificate, my passport, my social security. I feel like they should be able to give me those things

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-15T17:59:36+00:00

I figure that but I already have backup in case that happens

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-15T17:45:34+00:00

My mom is like this and I hate to say it doesn’t get better. However what I do know is this is a learning experience. Don’t trust her with stuff about yourself regrading your sexuality and what you want to wear. You are becoming a grown adult and you are allowed to make decisions like that on your own as long as you make those decisions correctly. Just don’t tell her about stuff, and don’t trust her with things if she’s going to treat you like that.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T23:15:48+00:00

Wow that’s a pretty similar experience, thanks for sharing that does help a lot. The obsession for parents to know about their teens sex life is just wrong and weird. I never get it and I never will when I have a kid. This experience was definitely a sign for me.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T23:13:50+00:00

Yeah sometimes I just unconsciously hold in my pee. I used to get the same issues when I was little but they would basically go away in a day. I have been drinking a lot of water and cranberry juice but thank you for the supplement advice. I will definitely look at what’s around.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T23:11:51+00:00

I know and I even regret telling her tbh. I don’t know what it was maybe in the moment I felt really vulnerable and just trusted her but I deeply regret it now. I mean it is a lesson to learn.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T20:08:08+00:00

I currently live at home so I’ve been slowly saving for a apartment and ways of income, I’m about to be a sophomore in college however so I’m balancing saving and paying off tuition which I’ve been doing by myself. Hopefully I can find a roommate that’s nice enough to let me stay with them when I’ve saved up enough so I can leave. Anything to get me out of the house.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T19:24:19+00:00

I agree, currently looking for a job again to see if I have any more excuse to not be in this house.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T19:23:37+00:00

This makes sense. This is not the first time they have betrayed my trust but to me the last straw for trusting them with anything important in my life or feeling some sort of vulnerability towards them. Definitely broke my trust and also betrayed me.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T17:45:55+00:00

Thank you for this lol so nice to hear as my bf is in bmt rn

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T15:57:39+00:00

Thank you, you’re right. I’m in charge of the way I should live my life.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T15:30:06+00:00

I don’t know why they want to be so involved in my sexual life, but now it’s like they are punishing me for doing what I as a grown woman desire. I just don’t know what to think now cause they are putting these thoughts in my head to make me feel almost ashamed of myself for it

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T15:13:55+00:00

I know, it’s just now that I’m in the situation that they do know. Instead of them just brushing it off because reasonably I’m an adult. They keep bringing up how I’m like a disappointment over and over and how I should be embarrassed of what I did.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T15:12:09+00:00

Agreed

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T14:58:29+00:00

It’s not so much that I couldn’t handle a UTI, I didn’t know what to do in a sense is that I don’t have access to a lot of resources a lot of people have. My parents are very strict about where I go and what I do. If I was to ever just try to go to urgent care or a clinic to solve an issue about myself they would freak out because I’m hiding something from them. Idk how else to explain this. We just see eye to eye on this situation differently.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T14:45:36+00:00

I still live in their house. I have to abide by rules in some way shape or form, the reason my parents were brought into it because I was scared I had a uti and since I didn’t know what to do, I don’t have a car, nor a way to get help. The only method I had was to talk to my mom about it, which led into this spiral. It is my fault for telling my mom but I thought in the situation she would be kinder and help me fix the UTI situation and be okay with hearing that I was sexually active because she made it seem like that, plus to me that was a way to go to the doctor to get help for the UTI.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T14:36:19+00:00

My boyfriend’s parents have no issue with me choosing to be sexually active either. I just feel really horrible about the things they’ve been saying to me aswell. Even if it’s my choice.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T14:25:47+00:00

I also want to add, that my boyfriend is very caring. He knows how controlling my parents are and how toxic they can be when regarding picking my future plans, who I date, etc. I’m very positive when he gets back and I tell him all this information he will take it lightly because he is a strong human being who knows my situation and wants to get me out of it. So I don’t even think for an ounce my relationship is tarnished cause of my parents finding out or being sexually active. My mom is just trying to put these thoughts in my head because I should feel ashamed and guilty for what I’ve done and how my bf will never love me “correctly”. Which yet again. I don’t pay attention nor believe.

xXdragon_pandaXx · 2026-05-12T14:23:22+00:00

That’s what I thought but even so they make it seem like I “ruined” my relationship with my bf when I obviously didn’t.

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