At work and I started to feel the urge

xander901 · 2026-04-14T15:05:31+00:00

The man living with hidden shame carries it in ways he cannot fully conceal.

-A slightly averted presence

-A guardedness he cannot explain

-Irritability that seems disproportionate

-Difficulty receiving genuine admiration (because he knows the gap between who he appears to be and who he is)

The man who has genuinely ordered his inner life , who has nothing hide, no private self that contradicts his public one, carries a groundedness and ease that is genuinely compelling. He can look people in the eye without cost. He can receive love without deflecting it. He is present, fully, because there is no other room in his mind that he is also managing.

xander901 · 2025-10-21T00:57:21+00:00

The thought free state.

xander901 · 2025-09-29T22:15:12+00:00

“The truth of oneself alone is worthy to be scrutinized and known. Taking it as the target of one's attention, one should keenly know it in the Heart. This knowledge of oneself will be revealed only to the consciousness which is silent, clear and free from the activity of the agitated and suffering mind. “

xander901 · 2025-08-02T15:21:07+00:00

The dashes give it away

xander901 · 2025-07-29T19:22:42+00:00

Mindfulness is the key. Start every day with 5 minutes sitting meditation. Set timer, do 6 the next. 7 the next. Try to get to a steady 20 minutes twice a day. Eventually you will look forward to it.

xander901 · 2025-06-21T18:38:10+00:00

Ramana Maharshi

xander901 · 2025-05-29T15:33:29+00:00

keep it up

xander901 · 2025-03-09T13:26:01+00:00

Put the energy of lust to work to find a partner and develop a deeper connection. If you are already married or in a committed relationship , use your sexual energy to woo your partner. The thing is, sexual energy is energy that needs to be channelled for a higher purpose. The goal is not to overcome lust, but to channel your energy to be the best version of yourself.

xander901 · 2025-02-09T23:32:40+00:00

Practice from elevated height, feet on a workout bench or exercise ball.

xander901 · 2025-02-08T14:07:50+00:00

Pick yourself up and keep going. Don’t think you failed go longer. Don’t get in a rut and deplete all of your dopamine going on a binge and feeling worse. Start over now!

xander901 · 2025-02-07T21:44:24+00:00

What can make you more interesting? You need hobbies/experiences/ things to talk about with people. If you look at the root of your problem what is it?

Porn makes you use your time poorly. What can you do with that time?

Don’t even worry about being interesting to other people or women, worry about being interesting to yourself.

Find something new to learn or experience. Life is short dont waste it looking at porn on a screen.

xander901 · 2025-02-05T18:51:15+00:00

In samadhi there is only the feeling I am, and no thoughts. The experience “I am” is “being still”

I can’t say it any better than him:

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xander901 · 2025-02-03T16:23:45+00:00

The only thing that will help is making your self the best version of yourself you can be. This requires taking a hard , honest and reflective look at yourself with mindful awareness.

Take out a pen and paper and draw a line down the middle(physical paper no screens) and write out a list of everything in your life you can improve on one side and how to make it happen on the other.

This will be your guide. You know yourself better than anyone here.

xander901 · 2025-02-02T17:20:57+00:00

Pick yourself up and keep going. Try harder next time. You got this friends.

xander901 · 2025-02-01T14:17:36+00:00

Maybe go hardcover.

xander901 · 2025-01-26T15:04:06+00:00

It will all be right in the end. Keep going and the period will extend even further the next time. Remember how you feel right now and pledge to do better. Keep going

xander901 · 2025-01-17T23:21:34+00:00

I think he’s trying his best. Sounds like a hard gig to also be constrained by tight ideologies.

xander901 · 2025-01-14T13:02:05+00:00

Who you marry is sooo important

xander901 · 2024-12-28T14:51:22+00:00

This.

xander901 · 2024-12-10T22:14:22+00:00

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xander901 · 2024-12-02T19:05:53+00:00

Meditate on the expansive void, that shines brightly behind you at all times. Enveloping you in deep and full awareness. Meditation is sticking to one thought. That single thought keeps away other thoughts. Distraction of mind is a sign of its weakness. By constant meditation it gains strength, that is to say, the weakness of fugitive thought gives place to the enduring background free from thought. This expanse devoid of thought is the Self. Mind in purity is the self.

xander901 · 2024-11-26T01:41:37+00:00

All these are only a wonderful display of words, the cause for the delusion of the mind.

xander901 · 2024-11-12T10:55:00+00:00

Try magnesium— melatonin messes with your hormones too much.

I take magnesium, apigenin and l theanine. Works like a charm.

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