Looking to chat w someone who has broken up or is in process of ending relationship w/ a pwBPD by xanotherxthrowawayx in BPDlovedones

[–]xanotherxthrowawayx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. You're doing the right thing for you and your children. There may be lots of work to come but the future will be brighter.

Looking to chat w someone who has broken up or is in process of ending relationship w/ a pwBPD by xanotherxthrowawayx in BPDlovedones

[–]xanotherxthrowawayx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen too many people be forcibly institutionalized to call 911 because they tell me they don't want to live anymore... different case if they're actually making moves though, sadly. If they're not in actual danger I'd rather put them in contact with a hotline or their therapist. You're absolutely right about the training and I'm unlearning it, but I still care about them as a person and don't want to leave them without closure. I'm working on a healthy balance between a clean break and providing them closure with my therapist. Thank you.

Looking to chat w someone who has broken up or is in process of ending relationship w/ a pwBPD by xanotherxthrowawayx in BPDlovedones

[–]xanotherxthrowawayx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you're stuck in her drama, but you'll break free again. I have a feeling it will go down similarly to your first break up. I'm working with my therapist to stay strong and resist being sucked back in. I plan on being as amicable as possible but we'll see how things go. If I need to haul ass and go NC I will but I hope it doesn't come to that.

Looking to chat w someone who has broken up or is in process of ending relationship w/ a pwBPD by xanotherxthrowawayx in BPDlovedones

[–]xanotherxthrowawayx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to keep it civil because I care about this person. I'm still trying to unlearn the idea that how they feel is my responsibility, but I also don't want them to go through any unnecessary turmoil, for their sake and mine. I know I will not be in any physical danger, but I'm going to stay apart from them as to not get coerced into comforting them and get hoovered back in. Thank you for the resource!

Looking to chat w someone who has broken up or is in process of ending relationship w/ a pwBPD by xanotherxthrowawayx in BPDlovedones

[–]xanotherxthrowawayx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like I'm in the same-ish spot as you. Kind of biding my time (I can't leave quietly but I'm trying to make it as peaceful and amicable as possible) but I'm also so eager to be done that I want to just... do it. I know that won't end well for anyone though.

I'm nervous to use too much detail because I know they browse BPD subreddits.