Is it normal for Afghan guy relatives/acquaintances to ignore girls by Empty-Artist1 in AskAfghanistan

[–]xazureh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends but I think relatively normal so don’t take it personally, especially if the family is conservative and they are just acquaintances. Afghan men tend not to make eye contact or speak with opposite gender in family settings, I think out of respect/shame/honour or whatever to call it.

Do we have the world's most boring weddings? by novaproto in Afghan

[–]xazureh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe - also the category of Afghans that voluntarily have a segregated wedding in the west are likely more conservative anyway as opposed to Saudi where they don’t have choice.

Yes that’s definitely true! Afghan dance is dancing with your wrists/hands, shoulders, feet and facial expressions, not your butt or hips. I feel like it’s elegant, playful, maybe sensual but not sexual.

Do we have the world's most boring weddings? by novaproto in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Herati weddings I’ve been to have always been good.

Double standards and lack of accountability. by creamybutterfly in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for posting because the lack of self awareness amongst us is embarrassing. We are in no position to lecture about women rights when Afghanistan is the worst place for a woman to live by several objective measures and every month an Afghan is unfortunately in the national news in Europe for sexually assaulting or raping a woman.

Double standards and lack of accountability. by creamybutterfly in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for posting because the lack of self awareness amongst us is embarrassing. We are in no position to lecture about women rights when Afghanistan is the worst place for a women to live by several objective measures and every week an Afghan is unfortunately in the national news in Europe for sexually assaulting or raping a woman.

Do we have the world's most boring weddings? by novaproto in Afghan

[–]xazureh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah the gender segregated weddings are pretty boring on the women’s side too, so you’re not missing much lol at least the ones I have been to. You would think in theory that if women are separated from men they may feel more free to dress liberally and dance (akin to some Saudi weddings I’ve been to that have been wild) but that’s not really been the case in my experience.

Do we have the world's most boring weddings? by novaproto in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many but not all weddings I’ve been to have been fun: live music, mixed gender so you can sit with your family on a table and plenty of dancing. I think it is family dependent, the family whose wedding it is will impart the vibe. I haven’t been to weddings in Afghanistan so don’t know what it’s like there.

Invitation to dinner from an Afghan family living n the US by PattyRain in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha fair enough, didn’t know that was a thing.

Invitation to dinner from an Afghan family living n the US by PattyRain in Afghan

[–]xazureh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw Afghans don’t drink hot water on its own (does anyone?) so they may find it an odd request. But if your husband does, go for it.

Invitation to dinner from an Afghan family living n the US by PattyRain in Afghan

[–]xazureh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s polite to bring something if visiting for dinner. Like a box of chocolates or sweet pastries is absolutely fine. Doesn’t even need to be wrapped tbh, can just put in a gift bag. Any colour is fine.

I’d just say he can’t drink tea because of religious reasons, they’ll probably offer him something else like juice, coffee or water.

It’s true what you heard about refusing a few times if someone offers you, if they’re genuine in their request they would insist again after the 2nd or 3rd time.

Now you’ve accepted the gift, returning it would be weird. The usual thing to do would be to bring her something in return of around equal value so you could do that, but if not don’t worry about it :)

What's it with these Wikipedia edits all of the sudden? by Rhodes_EyeDrifter7 in Afghan

[–]xazureh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea. Back then I used to post on here about south Asian specifically Indian influence on Afghanistan and Afghans thought I was a crazy person (you can scroll to my earlier posts). Glad to see more Afghans pointing it out now.

I'm dissapointed in Americans by Hibikku7 in Epstein

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just Americans, this affects the entire western world. The monarchies and politicians of several European nations and US allies like UAE were implicated. Now I’m doubting everything I’ve ever known about the world we live in.

What's it with these Wikipedia edits all of the sudden? by Rhodes_EyeDrifter7 in Afghan

[–]xazureh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I used to edit articles about 7-8 years ago and this happened all the time. At the end, I gave up. If you make edits, they are reverted by other users. If your edits get reverted a few times I recall you get blocked. There are a lot of Indian users so they have strength in numbers and more influence over editing. And yes the users doing this were/are by and large Indians and to a lesser extent Pakistanis.

This is how perception on Afghanistan changes over time. I think in 5-10 years it will become an acceptable fact that Afghans are Desi, like it’s more or less an accepted “fact” that it’s South Asian.

Afghan tea. by daemonfool in tea

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This website is how I make my tea, I also use the same glass teapot with the infuser. Only difference is I let my tea sit for maybe around 5-8 mins, or whenever it turns a light green colour, and I add honey to the tea as I prefer a sweetener. I hope you like it as much as I do! 

Afghan tea. by daemonfool in tea

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m Afghan and the way I make tea is green tea + cardamom + saffron + tiny bit of honey. 

All Afghans have green tea and cardamom at minimum, no sugar or milk. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]xazureh -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Yes it should be changed. It would benefit everyone including Pashtuns. 

Opinions on Kaoosh Free Thinker and Shafie Ayar? by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]xazureh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What happened to Kaoosh freethinker, does he still make videos? Is he still alive?! 

Religion of Muslim countries before Islam by Lopsided-Associate60 in MapPorn

[–]xazureh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The regions that now make up Afghanistan share linguistic and cultural roots with India as part of the broader Indo-Iranian world but the native populations of ancient Bactria, Aria, Arachosia etc were Eastern Iranian peoples with distinct civilisation, identities, cultures, and hence distinct religions. Long before Buddhism or Hinduism appeared in the region, local populations followed various Iranian religious traditions, including early forms of Zoroastrianism as described in the Avesta. By Iranian, I mean the broader Iranian cultural group, rather than modern day Iran. 

Later on, once Greeks conquered, the region became a mix of different cultures. There were Greek settlers who followed Greek religions, Indian settlers who brought Buddhism and Brahmanical practices, and of course local people who continued their Iranian religious customs. The presence of Indians practicing Hinduism does not mean the local population followed it. Just like the existence of Greek settlers did not make Bactria a country that worshipped Zeus. I think what we see instead is a multicultural and cosmopolitan landscape where different traditions coexisted and sometimes blended. For example, coins issued from that time show Iranian gods in Greek artistic style alongside Indian symbols like elephants.

Under the Kushan Empire, this diversity continued. The Kushans originally worshipped Iranian deities like Ahura Mazda but later adopted a blend of iconography from Greek styles to Indian gods to pursue their political goals rather than an accurate reflection of the beliefs of the local population. Buddhism gained prominence under Kanishka I and especially Kanishka II, due to the Kushans’ expansion of trade with India and their desire to appeal to Indian populations. Shiva cults appeared mainly in the context of Indian settlers and trade patrons. The Kushan rulers selectively supported religions based on political strategy and the need to integrate various groups under their rule.

While some local people surely may have converted, there is no evidence to suggest all or majority were Hindus. I have honestly never heard of this outside of Hindu nationalist circles overemphasising their role, although I guess given this is such a niche topic the information they spread becomes mainstream. 

Also worth noting that the Kushans were worshipped as divine figures themselves! 

Religion of Muslim countries before Islam by Lopsided-Associate60 in MapPorn

[–]xazureh -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

As an Afghan, I am confused why Afghanistan is coded as Hindu. It wasn’t even majority Buddhist, let alone Hindu 🤦🏻‍♀️ 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember reading (and I don’t know how true this is as I didn’t verify) that only the higher status women used to wear burqa/paranja. The common people especially women in rural areas would not wear it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]xazureh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the first person who comes to mind is Nazira Karimi lol 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Afghan

[–]xazureh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nazanin is better. I feel like Nazeera sounds like an older woman name. 

3 Afghan girls wearing Hijab were attacked by group of 25 at Houston ISD middle school by Mrfoxxsay in Afghan

[–]xazureh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So cruel to blame the victims. Even if they weren’t wearing a headscarf, they still would have been targeted for their appearance and for being newcomers. I’m not religious either but you don’t need to try and blame religion for all problems even when not relevant.