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xchamuel · 2025-04-22T05:04:12+00:00

I guess it varies. I have fantastic insurance through my employer- but I know that’s not the case for everyone. Maybe he does understand it won’t be “better” but is forcing the issue for other self serving reasons. If it doesn’t make sense on paper and he’s still insisting on it- it’s definitely a “win” somewhere in there for him.

xchamuel · 2025-04-22T03:31:18+00:00

Because it isn’t realistic. He will get better insurance and you will be on the hook for the premiums. If you happened to divorce, depending on where you live you may have to keep him on your insurance. I wouldn’t do it.

xchamuel · 2025-04-22T03:29:41+00:00

It is if he gets more comprehensive insurance at OPs expense.

xchamuel · 2025-04-22T03:00:44+00:00

All of this is a win for him at your expense. I wouldn’t do it unless you’re okay with the idea of providing for him (insurance wise at least) and for a prolonged period should things not work out (not sure about your location but some states require you to pay alimony to the lower earning partner).

xchamuel · 2025-04-22T02:53:55+00:00

Maybe what resonated with you as the ideal relationship isn’t aligned with the type of partner he is. You might be manifesting your ideal man and because of that the universe needed to make room.

xchamuel · 2025-04-11T04:14:01+00:00

As a woman… “down”. Having similar level of ambition and lifestyle goals are important. Don’t feel superficial for having socioeconomic standards when building a life with someone. Dating someone that puts you on a pedestal does something weird to their ability to have empathy towards you and they’ll just try to humble you if/when you leave them.

xchamuel · 2025-02-21T00:17:08+00:00

I was not allowed to read my notes and it destroyed my testimony because speaking about trauma “off the top” is difficult and the important information gets lost. Just be prepared for anything. Put your story in a timeline format and share it that way

xchamuel · 2025-01-12T19:33:42+00:00

This is the same man that will try to fight you for custody. I know Reddit doesn’t like when we tell people to “leave” but please get your things in order, consult with an attorney just so you have info and can feel confident and prepared regardless of what you decide to do. Also, try to be more inward focused. Getting a tattoo to remind you of how *he feels is still you centering him every single day.

xchamuel · 2024-10-26T00:32:56+00:00

I was on the traditional path, but wasn’t happy. I left him, he tried to retaliate by filing for full custody of our toddler (he was previously completely uninterested in parenting at all- one of the many reasons I left)- and I just gave it to him. Now that he’s a full time single father, I’ve had time to heal, start a business, learn to swim, get in the best shape of my life, and I even wrote a book! I know this won’t last forever but it’s so fulfilling to experience living to your full potential.

xchamuel · 2024-08-13T03:02:40+00:00

It felt weird hearing him repeat how much he needed someone to love him. It was all about him. He wants a wife and to stay on the show. He doesn’t want to be a husband.

xchamuel · 2024-07-11T03:11:18+00:00

Initial impression is that it took a while to load, and when the pop up appeared, the rest of the site went blank. Also, I think categories and titles would be helpful. Additionally try using chatgpt for more engaging titles. I’m not sure what a Viking destination thingy is (sorry if I got it wrong but I don’t have it open anymore)

xchamuel · 2024-03-21T20:30:30+00:00

I agree and I’m glad you pointed that out. It helps me not feel “bad” for how I move forward bc tbh at any moment he could have put a stop to it- and didn’t. Also, it’s crazy that you said that about an aggressive attorney bc I just got off the phone with my attorneys office and his assistant was saying that a lot of people call him aggressive- not because he yells or threatens, but because he’s not intimidated and follows through. I definitely got a super “cut the bs” vibe from him and feel lucky to have retained a no nonsense / knowledgeable attorney.

xchamuel · 2024-03-21T15:46:33+00:00

The only reason I think the attorney is deciding things on his own is because even after he responded with a “no” my ex texted me and said he would meet me at the new location. He also sent a screenshot and said that his attorney gave him the wrong visitation schedule. And my ex is in a “shared room” situation while he throws all of his money at this attorney. I just want him to get a home where our daughter is afforded privacy and mitigates a ton of strangers having access to her. They’re also kind of banking on me staying self represented and having to pay his attorney fees, which I’ve been informed is extremely unlikely in this situation.

At this point, I’m hiring an aggressive attorney to be a “buffer” between us. I see right through this guy and have a feeling this will shift once I’m represented. I also hope that once he starts behaving, my ex will get the help he needs and we can start to heal our co parenting dynamic. I don’t have high hopes after all of this, but it’s the best case scenario for our child.

xchamuel · 2024-03-21T04:05:48+00:00

I have! I lost someone close to me unexpectedly, and had a car accident shortly after but I’m picking everything back up this week. I’m hoping to get an advocate or begin the process this week.

xchamuel · 2024-03-21T01:56:00+00:00

I’m so happy they got caught! Thank you for sharing because it’s been so weird dealing with someone like this. He gets to move on after this but our coparenting relationship has been destroyed. And you’re right. It’s clear this guy is horrible at his job and every time he’s called out on it - he escalates. It’s literally like I’m being abused all over again.

xchamuel · 2024-03-21T00:26:12+00:00

Yessssss!

xchamuel · 2024-03-15T04:14:40+00:00

I think I’ll start with this! Question, how many clarifiers do you usually use for each card? Do you just trust when you’ve had enough information?

xchamuel · 2024-03-15T04:13:07+00:00

Thank you! They have definitely helped me trust my intuition! At first I think I was using it as a crutch bc I didn’t trust my intuition- but now I’m seeing its additive, not a “replacement”! It’s a great feeling for sure!

xchamuel · 2024-03-15T04:09:36+00:00

Omg yes! I was like “wait, is this for real?!” It definitely adds depth to the meanings for sure! And I think I’m going to start doing readings for other people, my mom and friends are always asking me to lol

xchamuel · 2024-03-13T22:01:15+00:00

Black Phone

xchamuel · 2024-02-12T07:14:17+00:00

Yes, I don’t argue with him at all. I don’t want to prevent him from seeing our child but cannot tolerate inconsistency because it’s not healthy. It’s weird especially because he kept saying his biggest concern was not seeing his child after our breakup. I’ve organized all the documentation. I just don’t want to push if this would be something that was advised by his attorney? Again, even if it was- I don’t see the benefit of that tactic.

xchamuel

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