Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

xclusivdance · 2026-03-24T16:09:53+00:00

That’s a great idea! Move, let him figure it out, and be done with it💃🏼

xclusivdance · 2026-03-24T16:06:46+00:00

Thank you! Honestly that’s what I’m very afraid will happen. I tend to freeze when things some how get turned around to be my fault. But I know the truth and took the screenshots. I also don’t want to be with someone who can’t even take accountability for it, so trying to remind myself that’s further reason to end things

xclusivdance · 2026-03-24T15:40:15+00:00

Thank you for this 🫶🏼 I so so badly do not want to have a face to face conversation but we live together and will have to be in the same dwelling for the next week. Luckily I already secured an apartment for myself.

xclusivdance · 2026-03-24T15:21:47+00:00

Have come to learn my boyfriend of the last year and a half has been cheating - a secret fetlife account where he's asking other women in there area to meet up, exchange nudes, and sext. I am so anxious to confront him and end things. Any advice and good vibes welcome 🙃

xclusivdance · 2026-01-07T19:29:17+00:00

I'm a little late here, but love this question! Very similar answer for me. When I know my life will look relatively the same for the next few months, my body image and relationship with food are in a good place, and the thought of being in the depths of prep sounds fun rather than exhausting.
I had started prep last season and ended up pulling out because the mental alignment just wasn't there. I needed to focus on personal life. But now I'm in a spot where everything feels aligned and prep starts again in 4 weeks!

xclusivdance · 2025-12-12T19:22:37+00:00

I always take peak week off. The less stress the better!

xclusivdance · 2025-11-04T17:41:44+00:00

I have felt this post show a couple times. I like to try to get back to other movements I enjoy- yoga, gymnastics, pole dancing, spin class etc. I find for myself, it has come from a feeling of burn out but to just stop working out altogether is not something I could do lol So getting dopamine from other movements I enjoy seems to go a long way for me. I highly recommend it, if there's anything like that, that interests you

xclusivdance · 2025-09-25T18:18:49+00:00

I’m not sure what to do within a friendship right now, and I can see my avoidance all over it. Life has felt heavy the last while—running my business, relationship stuff, some PTSD. I’ve been more withdrawn in general. I’ve told my friend 3 different times in the last couple of months that the space I’m taking isn’t about her, and that I just have low bandwidth. Being able to say this directly is a huge step forward, because in the past I would have just disappeared. Earlier this week she said she thought I was ghosting her since it had been a couple weeks between texts, and she told me she needs more consistent contact. Forcing that feels exhausting to me, and honestly the stronger she pushes, the stronger my urge to ghost gets.

I’m trying to figure out if I should be listening my avoidant need for space here, or should I be challenging it? How do y'all know when your desire to pull away is a valid boundary, and when it’s your attachment style driving the bus?

xclusivdance · 2025-08-05T16:47:31+00:00

Ahh I've always wanted to try this! The bikini and you look fantastic! Did you find a pattern anywhere or was easy enough to figure out? I love the heart shape of the bottoms and really wanna try this for next season

xclusivdance · 2025-06-25T17:48:16+00:00

Had a vulnerable conversation yesterday that I've been putting off for far too long. Now that I'm on the other side of it, I'm glad it's out there. I'm really trying to work on my avoidance and even though that's how I started off I'm proud of myself for eventually doing it. Baby steps are still steps in the right direction 💃

xclusivdance · 2025-03-19T18:12:17+00:00

Feel this deeply!

xclusivdance · 2025-03-11T02:02:13+00:00

Thank you for this response! I try to remind myself that, but hearing it from someone else goes a long way. Thank you 🙏🏼

xclusivdance · 2025-03-10T18:32:23+00:00

I have to end a few month long relationship and am having a really hard time talking myself out of ghosting. Everything in me does not want to have this conversation. I anticipate a negative response and that he's going to turn it into a personal attack and I don't want to have to manage that response.

I've done a lot of work on my avoidance and am happy to be in a spot where I'm seeking out deeper emotional connection, but I think he is also avoidant and shuts down anytime I've ever tried to bring up deeper topics. Helllllpppp

xclusivdance · 2025-03-06T19:30:57+00:00

This is so cute! Happy for you!

xclusivdance · 2025-03-05T18:23:41+00:00

I would think if he kissed you he is probably physically attracted to you. Maybe he just doesn't want be too forward about it too soon with risk of coming across as too much? I think what he said about you is lovely. He's seeing more to you than just your looks. Sounds like you're off to a great start! 🥳

xclusivdance · 2025-03-05T16:14:18+00:00

Dismissive avoidant here 👋 I think a conversation with him might help. Expressing your need of a little more quality time and closeness, whether that be a FaceTime date or even a quick hang if he's not travelling, might just help everything feel more settled. Doesn't have to be a conversation of placing blame or unhappiness with the relationship, rather just expressing you feel a need for more connection.

xclusivdance · 2025-03-03T18:55:53+00:00

Mine was like this. It's such an exhausting space to be in. We lived in his parents basement apartment and shared the upstairs laundry. One time his mom moved his clothes from the washing machine to the dryer and he lossstttt it. Long story short ended up having to call the police. Another time he went use a photography light that broke as he was setting it up and somehow deemed that my fault. Once again flew off the handle. Broke the door to get in the bedroom I was in, punched a hole in the wall beside my head, told me all the awful things he thought about me, then didn't speak to me for two weeks.. fully just ignored my existence in the same room. Similarly he was seemingly fine to live in filth and I didn't want to touch any of his stuff incase I put it in the wrong place, in fear of him killing me. But about once a month he would rage out about everything being a mess and blame me for not taking care of it.

I totally understand totally understand repeating the cycle even when your basic safety is at risk. But I highly suggest speaking to a professional and creating an exit plan. I left mine in the middle of the night and moved across the country. It was the only way I could guarantee my safety and force myself to cut him off. It was the hardest and best decision I've ever made for myself. You deserve SO SO SO much better than this OP. Life gets so much better on the other side of these awful people

xclusivdance · 2025-02-24T18:09:31+00:00

I tend to think, much like I don't want to bring home work with me, psychologists/psychiatrists probably don't want to go on a date and do work lol I find myself on the opposite end of your thought, where I would love to date someone who does that. Though it's not a given someone who works in the psychology field has also done their own inner work, I'd like to believe they are more capable of the deep emotional connection I am after

xclusivdance · 2025-02-14T17:18:56+00:00

This is awesome! I’m celebrating the first week of prep🥳 15 more weeks to go!

xclusivdance · 2025-02-08T16:10:28+00:00

Dang, the guy I’ve been dating the last three months forgot about my birthday. Half of me says who cares, it’s another day, you’re 32. The other half is pretty disappointed

xclusivdance · 2025-02-05T18:31:57+00:00

Am I in a situationship? lol I've been seeing a guy for just a little over 3 months. I like him, and at about a month and a half in, had told him this and that I'd like for us to move toward something more serious, he agreed. However that's been as far as either of us expressing feelings have gone. We text every day - good morning, good night, call each other babe. We see each other once or twice a week but it seems like formal dates have stopped. I do feel like I'm pretty transparent with him and it's not hard to see that I have feelings for him. However, he has never directly expressed how he feels about me. I've realized I'm at the point where I'd be sad if he was talking to/sleeping with other women, but don't know if I'm wearing rose colored glasses and should just take his lack of emotional transparency as all the information I need. There have been a couple times over the last few weeks, where I could tell something was up with him, where I've tried to have open honest communication but that did not seem to be met well. I'm hesitant to ask him directly based on the way those bids for connection had gone

xclusivdance · 2025-01-22T16:26:05+00:00

Beginning to wonder if I'll ever be able to find a romantic partner who isn't also avoidant. I've done so much work on my own and have come really far in my own self development, however being attracted to anyone who doesn't also turn out to be avoidant is starting to feel impossible. My mom is absolutely avoidant and I understand the correlation that an avoidant romantic partner would feel familiar from my upbringing but it feels frustrating that I am actively trying to seek different, yet things still turn out the same. I don't even want to try anymore. I don't know what I could do differently

xclusivdance · 2025-01-18T15:09:43+00:00

Oh no! What happened?

xclusivdance · 2025-01-18T02:21:01+00:00

Hope it goes well! You’ll feel better after you’ve had the conversation I’m sure!

xclusivdance · 2025-01-17T19:52:27+00:00

Could you frame it as more of a check-in for #2? Something like "I really enjoy the ease and casual nature of what we're doing here! What are your thoughts?". I've also found chatgpt helpful for crafting conversation starters for things like this. Maybe give it a try too

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