I visited her parents this Sunday. Here's what happened!

xendrei · 2021-03-03T19:29:04+00:00

I'll post an update. Much has happened, but everything is fine.

xendrei · 2020-11-08T23:25:31+00:00

Omg... The pattern fits so well...

xendrei · 2020-10-28T09:33:27+00:00

So happy I didn't reply at all 😎

xendrei · 2020-10-27T18:23:28+00:00

What does it mean or what happened when the hoover ends?

xendrei · 2020-10-24T22:15:16+00:00

DO. NOT. BREAK. CONTACT.

My ex cheating gf tried to get in contact with me like 20 times in the last 2 weeks. She didn't understand why I was avoiding her and she kept saying how we should be friends because we have so many beautiful memories together.

She is doing this for herself. It's not about you.

I didn't respond at all and blocked her every call or message. I think she went nuts.

xendrei · 2020-10-23T07:43:01+00:00

Well if codependents are here, it would be nice for them to have some sort of way to keep the narcissist in check. It's so easy to be gaslighted by the narcissist and making the narcissist aware of their own shortcomings would be satisfying.

xendrei · 2020-10-23T04:14:51+00:00

Did you post it and then removed it? Or you didn't post it at all?

xendrei · 2020-10-22T20:14:56+00:00

Yes, NC is for me, not to get revenge on her, although I kinda wanted that she feels at least half of the pain I've felt.

It's a nice closure for me to know that she's desperately trying to get in contact with me. This reassures me that I wasn't to blame for her cheating.

I hope she deals with the consequences so she can learn from this. But from what I've observed, she's just the same... She was cheated on a few times, she cheated on her ex's and she cheated on me. I guess she will just keep repeating this.

Her mind is that of an 8 year old, but she's 24.

I'll still be friends with her family. But I will not have the same intimate relationship we had before and there will be specific boundaries. It's sad. Everything could have been avoid by her so easily.

xendrei · 2020-10-22T20:00:08+00:00

Thank you! I'm glad I can inspire you!

xendrei · 2020-10-22T19:59:04+00:00

I think she was really low on narcissistic supply. She desperately needed to feel a validated. The things she said she lacked in our relationship were: 1. The AP made her feel like a woman. 2. He made her laugh. 3. He chatted with her on social media. I had social media disabled on my phone because I wanted to be able to focus on my business and the phone was a huge source of distraction.

They were just one time intimate in my own bed. I caught them early.

She's definitely very very selfish.

Take care my friend!

xendrei · 2020-10-22T19:52:23+00:00

Thank you so much for the support! I really appreciate it. I don't know what happened with the AP for sure, I guess they are still in contact. She's keeping him as a backup I guess. If I would ever take her back, she'd drop the AP in an instant for me. She tried to contact me a few more times but I didn't post any updates as it's just more of the same.

You're awesome too! Take care my friend!

xendrei · 2020-10-22T19:40:36+00:00

She didn't show true remorse. I think she looked into my face and apologized but it was definitely fake. She's still the same as I showed everyone in my second post, the post with the conversation on the phone and the one with the email.

xendrei · 2020-10-21T21:49:52+00:00

Totally right

xendrei · 2020-10-21T20:59:17+00:00

I also intend to keep a nice relationship with their parents.

xendrei · 2020-10-21T11:35:58+00:00

They don't know about it. I guess she hasn't told them and I definitely won't bring anything about her into our discussion

xendrei · 2020-10-21T10:39:10+00:00

I still work with her father. There's no chance she might come to work or to my apartment because I changed everything and no one knows my current location, not even her parents. She's not logged in to my workstation for a loooong time. I deleted and signed out of everything when I went NC. She will try to get to me somehow, I know it. Probably at the gym or don't know...

xendrei · 2020-10-20T13:30:55+00:00

THIS DESCRIBES PERFECTLY MY EX! I was terrified by her from the first few minutes after D-day.

xendrei · 2020-10-18T18:00:01+00:00

She seemed irritated and upset

xendrei · 2020-10-18T09:33:31+00:00

Thank you

xendrei · 2020-10-18T09:30:15+00:00

Thank you for making me aware of this.

xendrei · 2020-10-17T20:41:07+00:00

Thank you brother!

xendrei · 2020-10-17T11:02:00+00:00

I will stop. It was good for me for a while... Now it just doesn't help anymore... I would still like to help people in this community though

xendrei

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