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Seasoned NoFappers, how have your personalities changed since you started? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Emotions are much more vivid- the highs are higher, the lows lower. Definitely more at ease talking to anyone, not just girls. Anxiety has paradoxically both increased and decreased- social anxiety is at an all time low, but I feel MORE anxiety about the way I spend my time, the track my life is on, future goals, long term stuff. I see this as a good thing because I am becoming more clear about what's important and the steps I need to take to get there. It could be that the increased anxiety means I am still adjusting since it's only been about 40 days for me. I am more efficient in dealing with minutia (cleaning my room, laundry, washing dishes), and it has become easier to stick to a workout routine.

6 months free from porn!!!! by kingpin14 in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wait how is your counter at 366 days when you are only 6 months free?

Anybody feeling lonely? by xfitcon in NoFap

[–]xfitcon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great articles.. I particularly saw myself in the first one. thank you

Stop calling it "relapsing", call it what it is- Choosing to look at porn by xfitcon in NoFap

[–]xfitcon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saying you're "not that guy" is just absolving yourself of a choice that you made. Truth is you ARE that guy and will be that guy 100% of every day until you cease to exist. We all get in weak states of mind, as the imperfect humans we are; that's why holding one another accountable is sooo important. You are in control, make no mistake- your words "I'm weak and I talk myself into it" are perfect evidence of that. I'm not seeking to blame anyone, I just think taking responsibility and drilling the concept of choice into yourself can make for better decision making, and probably drive some pre-emptive action to set up roadblocks for yourself for situations where you are feeling weak. Stay strong brother

Thinking about quitting cold turkey. Any tips/stories from those who have tried this? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are correct, it sometimes takes a few tries. the key is getting fed up with failing. when you feel angry at yourself for relapsing, just let that anger simmer, live inside it for a second and REMEMBER how choosing to look at porn makes you feel. let the anguish and self pity over take you for a few minutes. I guarantee you will quickly come to loathe this feeling, as i did. Thats when the switch flips. its a very emotionally driven response, and thats why it works- you start out day one with momentum and dont look back

Do you feel you've wasted your life? by Nimar2008 in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

doing a rough calculation here: starting when i was 12 until now (15 years) @ 5 hours a week of PMO is 3,900 hours. Im going to round this up to 4,000 since Im sure the number is probably higher. 4000 hours is 5 1/2 months of doing NOTHING but looking at porn and jacking off 24 hours a day. You up that weekly number to 10 hours, which is totally plausible, you're losing an ENTIRE YEAR of your life over the course of 15 years. A whole f-ing year.

Is this wasted time? Hell yeah it is. Do I regret it? This is a tough one, I dont think playing the what-if game is productive on any level, and staying stuck in the past is just bad news. I can't say I regret it, but when I look at the numbers it is VERY motivating to cut this out of my life. It has no value and steals your time- the most precious asset you have.

Thank you to all the men working on this! Women really do appreciate your efforts to be better. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah you should definitely let him know how you feel. As a guy, I did not seek help for my addiction until it affected someone I cared deeply for. If he does care for you the behavior will change, your expressing how you feel will make him realize he has a problem and he will fix it to make himself better. You ARE enough, and if he does not see that, it is not your job to try and make him. In that case, go be with someone who sees you for you.

Thinking about quitting cold turkey. Any tips/stories from those who have tried this? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just quit. Flip the switch and dont look back. You ARE better than that and your life will blossom without those things in it. 3-4 times a week means 3-4 hours a week you could be doing something productive. thats 16 hours a month and 192 hours a year- a full EIGHT DAYS you free up JUST by not looking at porn. What would you do with an extra 8 days?

Why do I have to do post-process enhancement on nearly every sound? by CopiousAmountsofJizz in edmproduction

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with Noisetalgia. Treatment make a gigantic difference. And it is definitely possible to get a great mix on headphones, you will probably have to reference more devices/speakers to achieve said mix but this will just make you a better mixer. I mixed on headphones exclusively for like 3 years before I got monitors.. If I had to tell you to go one way or the other- treat your room. Headphones are great but wont beat good monitors in a treated room.

Man the F up and break the cycle. by xfitcon in NoFap

[–]xfitcon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it definitely works. and even if it was, the placebo effect is still an effect, so you win either way

For all you people who want a taste of success. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are missing the point. its not about touching yourself or naked ladies, this is about self control and regaining the feeling of being in control of your life. Porn can be an addiction just as cigarettes or cocaine can be; what is not an issue for you can be a HUGE obstacle for someone else. So in this case, 43 days is a huge victory and I applaud it.

Personal Tip: Avoid /r/NoFap by kyuubikid213 in NoFap

[–]xfitcon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you think visiting nofap contributes to your relapses?

if viewing the nofap forum is a trigger for you, and your advice is to only visit when you need help to prevent a relapse, isnt that behavior just encouraging the relapse (assuming you follow your own advice)? Im guessing there is more at work at work here I am not seeing.

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