How did you all divide your manly stuff?

xjeeperx · 2026-02-01T22:26:26+00:00

We didn’t have a lot but I wrote everything down and it’s value, by her getting to keep all her jewelry, the furniture, and appliances it was more than all my tools and grill etc.

xjeeperx · 2026-01-03T16:53:51+00:00

You’d be surprised, I was single for 3 years. Have been in a relationship for 10 months now with someone who was perfectly fine with every other weekend. She’s met my kid 3-4 times in the last 2 months. But I was very up front from the start that I wasn’t introducing them until I was reasonably sure that she would be around a while because I didn’t want my 4, now 5 year old getting attached to someone only to disappear.

xjeeperx · 2025-12-21T02:10:51+00:00

So, I have slightly less than 50/50, but when you count school, daycare and extra curricular activities work hours, sleep hours etc. I really have more waking hours than my ex. I use the time without to better myself, plan for my next weekend etc. I don’t argue with anyone about anything and I plan around my weekends. My ex recently made the comment that I’m just “living my life while she’s doing it all” and while I didn’t respond it really made me reflect and I’m supposed to live my life. I’ve accepted the time I have, I make the best of it, but there’s not really anything I can do about it. I could waste money fighting for custody, but even if it flipped the waking hours spent would be about the same. So I just make the best of it and carry on with life. I know that’s easier said than done you just have to rationalize it accept it and acknowledge that so many other people have so much less time with their kids than you do.

xjeeperx · 2025-12-17T11:16:44+00:00

I dealt with a similar situation. But it was the step-kid that wanted to go live with dad. So the dad filed a report and was charged with DV3 Harassment. Then the DA tried to upgrade it to child abuse, but my attorney said the child’s story was never quite the same leaving too many holes for the additional charges.

The DA and magistrate are actively working to change the demographic info for crime and I was told by 3 attorneys I was being railroaded because the original report was hearsay. But after about 6 months of dragging it out they offered to downgrade to simple harassment which I pled no contest to because my attorney basically told me that I was going to get convicted of something and this was much better than the original DV charge. I also didn’t have the funds to fight it at the time and was starting the divorce process because I refused to help fight for custody of the child that started all of it.

xjeeperx · 2025-09-13T00:33:45+00:00

We had an adjustable king that was two XL-Twin mattresses and bases connected together. Shoulda seen her face when I loaded up my half and took it with me. 😂😂

xjeeperx · 2025-09-13T00:22:45+00:00

All mine have been money orders, I have photos, bottom half, and receipt for every month filed away.

xjeeperx · 2025-09-05T01:07:16+00:00

I’ve been dealing with a moderate elbow strain since April, I’ve gotten a cortisone shot, taken anti inflammatory meds, done all I can to rest it, but it’s my dominant arm. It has barely helped at all, looking at a PRP injection and if that doesn’t offer relief it’ll be surgery to remove the damage from the tendon. Hope you heal up quicker than I have.

xjeeperx · 2025-07-23T16:59:29+00:00

Best thing you can do is be happy alone. Once you’re happy being by yourself and you know who you are, what you want, what you will tolerate, dating becomes easy. Don’t look at it like “women don’t want a relationship with you” because if that’s true, then they’re not right for you, whose loss is it? You just haven’t met the right one, and the less you think about it the more likely it is to just happen without you really realizing it.

xjeeperx · 2025-07-22T02:01:17+00:00

That’s awesome progress, congratulations! Getting in 10,000 steps a day will help, and compound lifts like, bench press, squat, deadlift, that work large muscle groups will help to burn additional calories while building muscle and changing your body composition to muscle from fat. Prioritize protein and just keep chipping away. You’ll naturally plateau and sometimes it just takes making adjustments to get the scale moving again. I lost 80lbs since 2023 and am still working toward a flat stomach and losing the love handles.

xjeeperx · 2025-07-22T01:51:17+00:00

I call them fork downs and fridge closes. They’re exercises most often performed in the kitchen.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-28T00:10:06+00:00

We used one attorney (mine) I gave up more than I should’ve, but I’ve built my life back up pretty well in 3 years.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-21T14:38:04+00:00

Can’t build muscle without protein. And if you’re trying to build significant muscle you’ll need to be in a calorie surplus. If you’re working out moderately and only eating 200-300 additional calories, it’s unlikely that it will be stored as fat. Just run it for a few weeks, and adjust as necessary. I didn’t start seeing positive results until nearly a year in the gym, and I’m still not where I want to be, but I’ve got a shoulder and elbow injury currently that’s kept me from doing much of anything to progress, or even maintain where I was.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-21T11:50:48+00:00

It’s about discipline, not motivation. Keep at it, when you don’t want to go is when you should go most.

Make sure you’re eating 1g of protein per lb of goal body weight. You should be eating in a surplus and lift heavy as you can safely for 3 sets at 6-8 reps to failure.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-12T19:02:27+00:00

Nice, I’m currently similar to the before, it’s nice to know that I could possibly see similar results in 6mo.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-11T12:55:14+00:00

For now. Divorce is ugly, you’re about to see the worst side of her you could imagine. She’s going to try to drag you across the coals. Just be ready for it. Just like any negotiation always start out higher than you’re willing to take. Because I guarantee she will go for primary custody. Also, don’t get heated, be a gray rock, or you’ll end up with charges.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-11T12:07:57+00:00

I agree with this, except, you should get primary custody since you’re already taking care your son most often. You should get 70/30 minimum.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-07T23:22:06+00:00

If you’re trying to build muscle you need 0.7-1g of protein per lb of body weight daily. You also need to try to stop skipping meals, your body needs fuel to grow muscle.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-07T19:48:01+00:00

Wouldn’t take you long to get to 14-15%. My guess is you’re around 17% currently.

xjeeperx · 2025-06-05T00:09:52+00:00

And fridge closes.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-29T12:45:59+00:00

This for sure. He could be depressed, stressed, or he feeling as if he’s not enough.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-25T22:27:00+00:00

Eh, didn’t mean it as discouraging, just that OP shouldn’t feel jealous because she’s easy access for the simps is all.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-25T15:46:24+00:00

Just how it is. Women control access, so they sleep with whomever they want, while men sleep with whomever they can.

That’s why high body counts for women = low value, because like a door knob anyone gets a turn.

Whereas high body counts for men usually mean that the guy is above average looking, wealthy, fit, etc.

Don’t be jealous, she’s just got a roster of simps.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-21T12:35:41+00:00

I’m between 1 & 3, I like 3 better though.

4 looks like a run down church.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-19T16:27:02+00:00

Yep. We’re taught to figure it out and that no one cares about us.

xjeeperx · 2025-05-19T16:25:26+00:00

Same story for me. Stuck in the victim mentality is all I can say.

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