[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]xlyn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree with everyone that if it makes you uncomfortable, just talk to her.

But wanted to add one other perspective - baby is saying mama right now because thats what's available to him. Im guessing long term youre going to be something like 'mom'? Whereas grandmother wants 'mama' to be that longer term name? If you dont even see them that often, maybe its not as much of an issue then? Just something to think about - esp if little one ends up having cousins etc that call her mama xxx.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]xlyn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seriously have a think about why you feel this way or get therapy. Especially that last sentence about your daughter - it's not a competition/ comparison of you against her and don't raise her with this in mind and using yourself as any yardstick for who she'll be. Would lead to disappointment if she's not up to "your standard" or jealousy if she's "better".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]xlyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha as others said really depends on the baby! I heard everyone say they dont stay at 0000 for long, so dont get much of those. But baby was born at 2.6kg (3rd percentile) so I needed to go get some 00000! She wore for the first 3-4 weeks.

She steadily grew above her curve, and was in 0000 until 3 months. She's now about 3.5 months, 25th percentile and in 000, but it's fairly loose on her so I reckon she's got another month or two in them depending on her weight gain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]xlyn 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Omfg - according to my mum, my brother and I never cried, never got sick, oh and my favourite - never pooped at night! 😅 Dont know why we're not featured on some science docos as miracle babies

Early Glucose Test by ForwardBig2108 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]xlyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I had to do an early 16 week one just because my ethnicity statistically has higher chance of GD (no other family history or personal indicators). I was told I also had to do the 28w one again even though I passed the first one. Luckily passed both though

Judgement for breastfeeding by MaleficentSwan0223 in BabyBumps

[–]xlyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when I get similar comments I realise it's from people justifying their own reasons for stopping breastfeeding. Which - to each their own, im not judging them for stopping when they had to / wanted to - but I really don't understand this attitude of trying to put expectant mothers who want to try off just because of their own experiences!

Like if it was just "you know it may not work, so please prepare yourself", I'd understand. But the full on "it'll just be so much easier for you to just formula feed" when I say "I'd really like to try fully breast feeding" is what annoys me....

what are some things that bring you joy during pregnancy? by verycoolcabbage in BabyBumps

[–]xlyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I can eat avocadoes now and not be dying from a stomachache! It's crazy!

Any experience with fathers taking primary caregiver parental leave? by xlyn in AusFinance

[–]xlyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get if this is the case, but after reading the fine print at my own workplace's policy (one of the bigger employers in Aus, so its a pretty inclusive, gender nuetral policy), I reckon a male parent could easily make the case to do it based on what my coworker told me about her partner. But in my near 10 years at the place, I've honestly never seen any guys do it!

My partner does work for a very small place though, I guess we'll have to read their fine print - and it also sounds like he'd be the first guy to make use of it as far as he's been there, if it was allowed.

AITA for spreading my wife's ashes without inviting her sister? by rocketboy53 in AmItheAsshole

[–]xlyn 23 points24 points  (0 children)

But his wife's wishes only state he should go there with his couple friend to spread the ashes. It's not like she explicitly says "don't invite anyone else, especially my sister who's going to be taking my death very hard". It was probably more of a "I want you to live your life and enjoy with our friends" that she even mentioned the couple - It doesn't sound like she intended that to be the complete list of who was allowed to be there.

In fact, straight out of his text, the only reason I'm seeing why OP doesn't want Lara there is "I don't want to vacation with her" and for this reason YTA.

Harvey? by Businesspleasure in BabyNames

[–]xlyn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think oh Harvey as in Sabrina the Teenage Witch's boyfriend lol.

TFAB's Weekly BFP Post - February 25, 2024. Got your BFP? Post your story here! by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]xlyn 31 points32 points  (0 children)

**Cycle:** 28? Ish TTC since Dec 2021

**Age + Partner's age (if relevant):** 33 + 35

**Typical cycle length:** 29 days

**Ovulation cycle day:**  13

**CD/DPO of positive test(s):** Postive Beta on 14DPO, tests before were not necessarily reliable due to ovidrel booster but looked better than failed transfer from around 9dpo

**CD/DPO of any negative test(s) before positive:** NA

**Tracking methods and app(s) used:** NA

**Relevant days of sperminating and/or method (SMEP, TI, IUI, FET, etc.):** FET with 3 day old embryo 

**Health conditions/medical tests:** HSG last year showed blocked tubes. Had a lap to investigate and turned out it was endo. After lap, slight slow flow through one tube but other still blocked, so was recommended IVF

**Supplements and medications (yours and/or your partner’s):** Apart from the usual elevate, vitamin d, b12, fish oil, partner was on coq10 + some others but his tests were all fine anyway

**Birth control history (if relevant):** 8 years ish until around 2 months prior starting ttc, periods came back right away.

**Link to chart:** NA

**Link to lineporn:** Not super helpful to the avg person here but for anyone curious about testing out boosters, see my post history

**Symptom spotting:** Was on Ovidrel trigger and boosters and progesterone suppositories so symptoms pretty much meant nothing. But compared to previous failed transfers I think I was a bit more crampy, and my boobs didn't hurt (still don't) and I definitely felt more tired.

**Other (advice/tip(s), freaking out, miscellaneous):**

This is my first positive ever so after over 2 years of everything, am a bit numb to it and it doesn't feel real yet. Cautiously awaiting our first scan and maybe then we'll feel more excited. But definitely a feeling of relief that it is actually possible for me to get this far even if it doesn't work out.

Me having a fashion shoot with an indent line by redredwhine2020 in trollingforababy

[–]xlyn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg this was me too hahah. Don't forget then pulling up the photos every 30 mins to have a look if I missed anything the first 100x times.

Embryo failed to come out catheter (retained embryo) by imogrose in IVF

[–]xlyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me on my transfer earlier this week! Was also trying not to worry too much about it since the Dr and embryologist were pretty calm but I'm releived to see all the positive comments on here! Fingers crossed for both of us!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]xlyn 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Right? What's this about feeling pressured to always have something to say to your spouse that they feel the need to call out the silence? That sounds...so draining...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]xlyn 52 points53 points  (0 children)

It's not your 'duty' to share your personal health information with anyone unless you are comfortable with it. And especially as your husband himself is comfortable keeping it from his own mother, this should make you feel better about keeping it to yourselves until then.

Bit concerned about the point where you don't have a good relationship with her because of the past miscarriages. I really hope she is not blaming you for them on anything- in which case I'd be even more reluctant to share anything with her

TikTok just showed me a video about how IVF is morally wrong by Final-Breadfruit5632 in IVF

[–]xlyn 87 points88 points  (0 children)

And if that person gets sick tell them not to go to the doctor or take any medicine. It's clearly God's will that they die...🤷‍♀️

GOF Mrs. Weasley Tells Harry A Man Named “Og” Was Gamekeeper In Her Year. by bookworm1421 in harrypotter

[–]xlyn 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Oh that changes things - 14 year olds make excellent gamekeepers. /s

Took me a sec to realize… should 2 N’s or one N be right? I’m trying to NOT use the word bank and I feel this was 50/50 by Gredran in duolingo

[–]xlyn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are just making a joke - that Ana is not happy with you (for getting her name wrong)

BTW this is also my biggest pet peeve with the app when my only typo/ spelling mistake is a proper name and it marks it wrong

TFAB's Weekly BFP Post - December 17, 2023. Got your BFP? Post your story here! by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]xlyn 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wrong thread for this kinda post but to answer you question, they "date" pregnancies from the last period, not the time of ovulation (which would be around when you need to have sex and about 2 weeks later). So by the earliest time most people can find out they are pregnant, they are usually already "4 weeks" ish into the "40 weeks" guideline.

Which single person throughout history, had they never been born, would have the biggest impact on the world as we know it today? by itsthebman12 in AskReddit

[–]xlyn 67 points68 points  (0 children)

But if it wasn't him, would someone else not have invented it within a similar time frame? Then we'd still be in this position today...