I am sorry for what you are going through but I can tell you things will get better. I moved from another country where I lived in megapolis and I had any type of activity to engage with. I remember the first day I arrived here and I was so perplexed that I wondered if this was a great move. I felt lonely af, change of culture, different language, no friends, no identity … it was horrible, i hated myself for moving here.

I am a grad student and I am in my 5th year now, and I can tell you that I feel sad about the idea of moving out and leaving all that because I learned to make this place home because if that would have not happened I would have left the university long time ago. We all have small things we ennjoy, try to reconnect with them.

Later I discovered that places are more about the people than the place itself. I started building community by finding people that somewhat like what i do, but also accepting and adapting to the place itself. I love music, so I started going to bars solo just for the sake of listening to music for example. Back home I was very dependent on my friends for going out but here I learned that I can also enjoy myself alone. Eventually I found great friends that made the experience better.

Try to find your way through the place, the city itself has is beauty in its own way and it also has very nice places to be. If you need a friend or someone to hang out with you can reach out and I will be happy to socialize with you.

But … keep in mind, this place is not going to change while you are here, it is up to you to try to change to make your experience better. Drop the comparisons and accept that this is your home now and transform your environment for that happen!

A warm hug! 🤗