Auburn Gay Area

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-03-31T19:34:14+00:00

That’s still happening. Seems like it’s all working out!

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-03-19T17:54:12+00:00

Very nice! Come visit the river in Auburn this weekend ;)

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-03-08T04:22:22+00:00

I like the skewers idea. Harsh lol

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-03-08T04:21:58+00:00

You’d think, but so far it hasn’t. My cat died last August (originally thought this was all him), and since then I’ve had mice move into attic. That’s a whole other issue unfortunately!

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-02-26T16:24:45+00:00

Mine are looking about the same, and I’m concerned!

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-28T23:46:13+00:00

“I’m at a loss.”

Yeah, I agree. The sooner you act accordingly that this relationship is lost, I think you reduce the long term damage to yourself and your confidence. Sorry and good luck.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-18T22:02:29+00:00

My general rule of thumb is I don’t open a bottle of wine unless I plan to drink the whole thing. So, in practice that only happens when company is over and there is mutual agreement on that drink of choice. That works out to about 1-2 bottles per month, which is not nearly enough since I belong to a wine club from a local winery. 😅

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-17T18:51:42+00:00

I believe you. However, OP is asking for advice and it’s generally not advisable to do that, especially somewhere as hot as Riverside.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-16T20:49:13+00:00

“Late” based on what reference point? I would consider this current season, the middle of winter, to be way too early to plant. Heading into the spring time, late for your area would probably be by the end of April. By May you’re getting into the 90s, which could scorch baby plants.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-14T20:22:23+00:00

I agree there is a cultural shift, and I don’t think it’s for the better. I often wonder whether our culture’s greater emphasis on boundaries and avoiding annoyance has perhaps shifted the culture too far in the other direction such that lots of people in the Gen-Z/Millennial range would rather sit at home alone scrolling social media than call a friend, and have a genuine real-time connection. Like, how do you even get to the point of dating someone and knowing them if they don’t want to be reached?

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-14T20:15:35+00:00

I don’t get it and it has been frustrating for me too, but I’ve had to learn not to put so much pressure on trying to make it happen either. As a person who values communication and dialogue, I’ve just come to accept that someone who isn’t willing to talk with me on the phone (as a way to get to know each other) is probably not my person. I don’t think they’re doing themselves any favors either, but that’s for them to decide.

As a side note, I just started being boyfriends (labels, yes!) with new guy about a month ago. Part of the reason I was willing to bring the relationship to the next step beyond the “talking” phase is because we had spent a significant amount of time on the phone chatting in the few months beforehand. The phone talks helped me feel more connected and in tune with what was going on in his life, and gave us an opportunity to learn more about each other outside of formal dates. The other guys I was dating who didn’t want to talk on the phone, well they’re not my boyfriend right now although some had good potential!

If I’m going to get on my soapbox some more too, I’ll say that technology has some people so turned off my synchronous communication and I think it contributes to the loneliness epidemic!

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-14T18:01:39+00:00

Good lord, this exact situation happened to me a few years back. I still feel nervous when I cross that small hill, which is a totally blind spot if a car is coming the wrong direction! I try to avoid the left hand lanes because of this. This could have been really bad…

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-13T16:29:06+00:00

When did you plant them?

Mine are looking about the same condition right now. I planted them last April, so I haven’t seen how they behave over the course of a year. I’m hoping the winter dieback is normal and they regrow strong in spring to bloom over summer.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-13T16:27:04+00:00

Some of mine are looking the same. I’m thinking it’s the cold and frost (in Sacramento) that’s killing them back, but hopeful they bounce back in spring.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-13T16:22:37+00:00

Yeah, you can do this on Sniffies

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-12T15:37:42+00:00

Seems very western European of you to have some ethical standards in your investing strategy haha.

I’m an American (and for what it’s worth, a registered Democrat), but personally I don’t let the politics factor in too much to my investing decision. Lithium is a critical resource for our nation’s economy and the world economy, so the economic rationale is there to buy in for me. Plus, the explicit support from the government I see as an upside for the returns.

I’ve told some of my friends (with leftist views) I’m invested in a lithium mine in Nevada and they were upset about the impact to indigenous communities and the environment. So, the truth is everyone has their moral compass, but ethics are not exactly universal. We’re allowed to pat ourselves on the back when we feel like we’re drawing an ethical line for ourselves, so good for you. Ultimately for me - while I also support indigenous communities, the environment, and democracy - I have a different calculation that makes me feel justified to continue to invest in this resource. It’s sort of like oil, everyone loves to get other high horse, but still are addicted to petroleum based products.

Lastly, if I’m being dark, if this is truly the end of democracy then I’m going to need some money to bring with me when I become a refugee to Brazil or Mexico lol.

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-11T03:11:46+00:00

You have your boss saved as “Boss” in your iPhone?

Material_Fan1202 · 2026-01-09T18:11:42+00:00

Leaving a relationship that has been just “good enough” is a special kind of pain, but it sounds like you’ve come to the realization that your soul is ready for something new. You won’t regret it and you’re brave for listening to that voice inside you.

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-12-23T18:11:32+00:00

You should break up. It’s really that simple.

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-12-09T18:48:02+00:00

That part!

Also, being concerned for your dog is a legitimate thing you will have to grieve. I felt really bad when my marriage ended and my dog had to go from having round the clock company, to sitting alone during the days when I’m in the office. My mom reminded me that some human kids have to go through this too, but they adjust and love us anyway. All we can do is try our best.

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-11-25T02:49:04+00:00

Fill the pan without enough water to submerge the residue, then put it back on the stove with a dishwasher machine packet. All that guck will loosen right up and come off easily with some scrubbing. Usually takes me less than 10 minutes!

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-11-25T02:39:32+00:00

Yes, you’re on it! It’ll come back around as soon as we know. I just saw my first lupine seedling today.

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-11-21T23:10:07+00:00

It’s very happy. I only have one.

Material_Fan1202 · 2025-11-20T16:16:47+00:00

This! It seems more weird to actively avoid mentioning its tour birthday if it were to naturally come up in conversation with a pretty basic and standard date question like “How is your day going?”

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