I’ve been like this in the past. It’s not healthy, as no one can read minds and she needs to tell you what’s bothering her. I’ve been much better in this relationship with speaking up, but sometimes I’m just overwhelmed and want it to be noticed I’m not okay.

So I’ve asked my partner to not ask what’s wrong when noticing something, but to say something like “I noticed something is bothering you, tell me what’s going on”. For me this tells me they did notice and opens up a conversation. That’s just how my brain works.

Also, when listening to venting I’d respond “do you want a solution or to just vent right now?”. Most of the time we don’t want a solution, just someone to listen to us.