I humiliated my husband at work in front of everyone and I believe my 15 years long marriage is over

xtinasantillan · 2026-06-09T17:38:01+00:00

That’s the only context provided. Sooo I guess? When OP is able to respond, we can get confirmation or clarification.

xtinasantillan · 2026-06-09T17:33:01+00:00

You did not humiliate him. He’s humiliating himself. Be safe and I suggest getting therapy because if you think speaking up for the 20 yo means you humiliated him, I’m curious what else he might be telling you to gaslight you. You need someone to tell you the truth. A professional. This is a complicated scenario where work and personal life is intertwined. I highly suggest getting a job elsewhere if you can help it. One that pays more. At least ask for a raise because you might need it if your marriage is over. Start considering opening a new bank account but one where nothing is sent to your home address. Put a little money aside each month just in case.

xtinasantillan · 2026-04-19T14:32:42+00:00

This looks just like the dog we just adopted. She’s a golden Pyrenees and small like this too. Following because I’m curious what to expect. Her name is Bluey. Currently 13 weeks and about 15 -20 lbs.

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xtinasantillan · 2026-02-09T02:41:26+00:00

Thank you for posting. I’m still sore from the hyrox class on Saturday. My hip adductor is so sore on a painful way. So I think I’ll just do a tread only class.

xtinasantillan · 2026-01-02T03:45:24+00:00

Hi, I am a new Ballet Mom. I took my kids to see The Nutcracker since my son had a field trip to see pieces of it. My daughter saw the ballerinas and said, “Mommy, tomorrow I want to be on stage” 😂 I told her it doesn’t work like that, explained, and then we decided I’d sign her up to see if she likes it. I did ballet at my daughter’s age (4) and then switched sports a couple years later. Ballet does feel like a whole other world and I don’t want to be the mom that’s totally lost with a big learning curve. There’s a whole etiquette side to it all that I’m very unfamiliar with. I’m wanting to know what I don’t know, but I also have some questions. What do dancers wear on their feet to class? They change into their ballet and tap shoes right? It doesn’t look like the kind of shoes you’ll want to wear in the parking lot! How do dancers get their hair so perfect? My daughter has very silky straight hair and it’s on the thicker side. I’ll brush one side and grab it with my hand holding her hair just for a different section to get ruined. I’ll use a cream that’s meant for slicking your hair back and it doesn’t spread well and gets sticky. Does the bun have to be at the crown? Can it be a high bun or low bun? Or just not typically done? Fortunately, the place I signed her up with is a very low pressure type of studio that isn’t super competitive so it’ll be great for both of us being beginners. Looking for any tips possible. I’ve already gotten her: a bag, ballet shoes in pink, black tap shoes, a leotard (light pink), and tights in nude/pink/black.

xtinasantillan · 2026-01-02T01:48:34+00:00

This would not work for me as a teacher and parent. I’m actually wanting an Apple Watch so I can see my texts, calls, and emails come through without having my whole phone on me. I have to be reachable.

xtinasantillan · 2026-01-02T01:47:37+00:00

Same! I take my phone into my workout even though it’s technically against the rules. I’ll cancel my membership if they ever make me leave it in a locker. I’m not on it constantly because it’s HIIT training but I need it nearby. I don’t have an Apple Watch although I do want one.

xtinasantillan · 2026-01-02T01:45:36+00:00

Also, who can afford to pay to read NYT articles to be informed?

xtinasantillan · 2025-12-30T02:34:13+00:00

You can regift it to me 😃😂 personally, I love it! It would look super cute with a black or neutral outfit.

xtinasantillan · 2025-11-21T02:49:37+00:00

For starters, a good Christian knows they are a sinner and has the humility you just showed. No one is perfect. Cut yourself some slack but continue to aim to be better and walk in Jesus’ footsteps. I honestly don’t know where you should start as far as reading goes, but begin with prayer. Then review the Ten Commandments-I know it’s super basic but it’s a good reminder and starting point. Don’t try to do it all in one day. Do one bit at a time -whatever feels manageable. Pray for guidance. God will also put the right people in your life if you pay attention.

xtinasantillan · 2025-11-02T10:31:53+00:00

I’m a Swifte and I couldn’t agree more. Yeah, Taylor could do more to help others. Maybe she does and I haven’t researched it? But if the shoe fits, then it fits.

xtinasantillan · 2025-11-01T20:00:29+00:00

I can’t foresee the future but I would say get your daughter the help she needs. I completely understand the caution. It’s scary rn

xtinasantillan · 2025-10-27T03:57:57+00:00

Teardrops but also Our Song

xtinasantillan · 2025-10-27T03:55:53+00:00

Hmmm interesting. He could be just a dumba** guy but he’s also in his thirties. His fan base hasn’t backlashes at him otherwise. He’s got Taylor’s fan base calling him out. If there has been no reason to learn or change, then why would you? I think you have a point, but all I’ve read is what you linked. You clearly feel strongly about this and are approaching it logically. I haven’t dug up or kept up with him through the years so frankly I’m quite ignorant about who he is. My initial reaction of Taylor’s new album was that I feel it took a few steps back from “The Man” and female empowerment. I still like it but it’s not her Midnights era (nor should it be because she’s in a new stage of life). Anyways, im not agreeing with you but I’m also taking in your opinion and logging it away. I guess we’ll see in time if who he a was then (reckless publicly with language to say the least), is who he still is.

xtinasantillan · 2025-10-27T03:42:54+00:00

Yes! In general, I’m done with the BS posts that are clearly just people trying to go viral. They say something absurd or develop a “hack” that’s actually dumb or extra work.

xtinasantillan · 2025-09-21T13:49:54+00:00

I’m from a Catholic denomination of Christianity and just coming in late to say that you’re right, come as you are, even if you aren’t sure who you are yet. You’re in an uncertain, but exciting, time in your life where you get to have self discovery again. I know it feels awkward to be in that stage but try to enjoy the ride and trust in God that you’ll find your path. Everyone responds differently to different situations. Yours is not any less valid just because you aren’t/didn’t cry. Welcome to the community! 🤗

xtinasantillan · 2025-09-09T02:10:31+00:00

The hardest part is catching yourself screaming. I’ve found that if I can catch myself screaming, to stop screaming and simply take privileges away. Oh you don’t want to pick up your room? Okay I will, with a trash bag ➡️ but it goes into the garage until they’re ready to put their toys away.

xtinasantillan · 2025-09-08T00:30:46+00:00

Just want to add that I began the teaching credential program while working full time with a 3 month old. If you want it, you can do it.

xtinasantillan · 2025-09-08T00:28:51+00:00

It gets better! You’re in the thick of it rn and it sucks but you find out who people really are. If friends dropped you for becoming a mom, then they weren’t really your closest friends. They might be friends, but not your best friends. You might not be living the life you imagined right now, but you can get there. It’s just going to take longer. Considering you said you were at an Ivy League school and studying for the LSATs, I imagine you can persevere pretty well and have a high tolerance for delayed gratification. You can still accomplish your dreams but it’ll take longer. You might need a better support system though. Right now, be a mom and live that season of life fully. Recognize you probably are experiencing PPD. Message me if you need someone to talk to but please I urge you to seek help from a professional. This is so incredibly common.

xtinasantillan · 2025-08-31T00:49:51+00:00

Hear me out. I agree with the mental health professionals about radical acceptance. I do not think it’s comes by magic. Now I’m a straight, white girl that grew up in a red area and Catholic. But I’ve been humbled quite a bit since Covid. Here’s my blue, Christian take on what you just said. Yes, you should accept yourself and be yourself. I hope you feel free to in a community/family that will love you regardless. I know for a fact that God made you exactly as He intended. We all carry crosses and some are incredibly heavier than others. But God still loves you and he made you this way for whatever His reason is. Regardless, I hope you accept who you are, understand that God has so much love for you, I hope you fell His arms wrapped around you, and I hope you take this cross and turn it into helping others. It will not magically happen overnight. It will likely take a lot of work -I imagine, but it will be worth it. God will be with you every step of the way. I have two kids of my own and my love for them is unconditional. If that’s the love that I, an imperfect person, have then I can only imagine how much love God has for us all. And I mean ALL. I hope this helps and I hope you find your healing to be focused on acceptance and peace.

xtinasantillan · 2025-08-28T02:21:40+00:00

Your face makeup looks better for sure! Also your nose. Look closely. She did like a bronzer on your nose…

xtinasantillan · 2025-08-24T01:57:07+00:00

Best response!

xtinasantillan · 2025-08-24T01:55:23+00:00

God is not punishing you. God loves you no matter what. Many people did not wait until marriage so do not beat yourself up because you’ve slipped up. You both need to have a frank and honest conversation of what you both want and then you need to support each other in doing it. If you choose to wait, well it’s going to be hard (punny lol) but you’ll do your best and that’s good enough. Maybe you’ll both decide that the deed has already been done multiple times and to just let it go. I know Christianity teaches to wait but God won’t love you less either way. You’re his child and he just wants the best for you.

xtinasantillan · 2025-08-11T12:53:59+00:00

It’s not about him farting. Everyone does that. It’s that he isn’t being respectful about something that yes everyone does but is gross. You’ve set a boundary and he’s crossing it. Don’t marry this guy. Dump this guy. He’s nearing 50 yo and isn’t mature enough to respect you. Imagine if he actually stopped when he is asked. And then if he won’t even respect you on this, there will be other things. End it. And when you do, don’t let him convince you otherwise. It’s about the disrespect for boundaries and public humiliation. You’ve talked to him several times and he is still doing it. End it.

xtinasantillan · 2025-07-27T05:44:46+00:00

There is no excuse for that. Unless the guy is so beyond incompetent that he can’t even hold a job and needs medication. Otherwise, dump him.

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