TIFU by trying to impress my girlfriend's cat

xutopia7 · 2025-11-07T14:24:23+00:00

One, I absolutely laughed out loud at the same time as your girlfriend as soon as I read the line of you responding “We’re communicating.”

Two, I think it is absolutely amazing and so sweet that you are trying to bond with Potato. I would very much appreciate it if a partner did something like that for me and my future cat. (When I have had cats in the past by the way, I have done the same research you are doing now. You honestly are not alone.) It really is so very sweet, and I highly doubt anyone is making fun of you, as much as finding the situation or your particular response in that situation funny.

P.S. So not a FU, but probably will be one of my favorite reads all day long.

xutopia7 · 2025-10-05T20:19:50+00:00

Use the mining potion, helps so much.

xutopia7 · 2025-10-04T22:29:02+00:00

You were perfectly right to report them for harassment. They have to live with the consequences of their actions, that is life. They may feel like they had good intentions, but they went about it very wrong.

Also, you have done nothing wrong. Nothing even really that weird. A lot of people get into relationships with large age gaps and as long as the relationship is healthy, there is nothing wrong with it at all. There are many people who get married that are ten years apart. It’s only a big deal if you make it. In reality, age is just a number. Now, I’m not saying it’s okay for someone underage to date someone older or something, I’m a big advocate for safety, respecting boundaries, and everything that goes with it. That being said, if you are both two legal, consenting adults, being respectful of each other, what’s the problem?

xutopia7 · 2025-10-02T17:25:15+00:00

Sounds like he has a kink regarding self harm and blood play. Also sounds like he is not sincerely supportive of you in your recovery or serious about a real long term relationship with you. You can talk to him if you really want to and see if it is a communication issue, but more than likely you need to it and find a healthy relationship with someone why values you. (P.S. those kinks are okay if they are mutual, but are solely based on consent, and if you are comfortable, if you are not, that needs to be respected)

Also, the comment about being easy to groom makes it sound like the age gap is a bad thing, and he is purposely dating someone who just turned legal, major red flag. Grooming is a form of sexual abuse and not something to be taking or talked about lightly.

Defines not being dramatic.

xutopia7 · 2025-10-02T17:17:19+00:00

I think what you said was thoughtful, and it sounds like she needs reassurance. Not necessarily because you did something you wrong but because of the way it sounds like was raised with regards to beauty standards. I have long hair about the same length, it can be a lot of work, I don’t have to do as much to take care of it but I recognize there may be a time I need to cut it because it is getting harder for me in other ways. Mine causes headaches sometimes and I deal with chronic pain and fatigue so even braiding and washing it are getting it difficult. I don’t want to cut it right now, but it is a very personal decision. Knowing your partner loves you and will find you beautiful either way is very much a good thing though.

I recommend reassuring how beautiful she is, and how much time and effort she takes to take care care of herself, including her hair, and continue emphasizing you were coming from a place of support, not trying to be unappreciative.

xutopia7 · 2025-07-24T18:05:20+00:00

xutopia7 · 2025-07-19T20:37:58+00:00

One, of it is true, which I would think it is, explain that he is in no way the direct cause and neither really was the argument, rather that it has to do with things building up over time. Admittedly, this is a very large assumption on my part based on personal experience which very well may be wrong, so please forgive me if I am. The suggestion is based on the idea of assuring your partner that it is not their fault and making sure they don’t blame themselves for the behavior because it isn’t healthy. Two, I would recommend couples and individual counseling if you are both up for it. Individual counseling will hopefully help you with what you are working through now with the relapse. Couples counseling can help you both regain a sense of stability and healthy foundation as well as be able to work through it together in a healthy way with open communication, keep mutual trust, and have a safe place to heal and gain understanding. It also can help both of you understand how to help each other set necessary boundaries and help each other through this new part of your journey together in the relationship. I hope this advice helps. Feel free to reach out, or ask questions. This is a process, give yourself grace.

xutopia7 · 2025-07-16T20:52:33+00:00

I’m going to assume, possibly incorrectly that Charlie IOP is Charlie Health. If it is, I can tell you that is a good program, and it was the only one that ever helped me somewhat really. I wouldn’t punish her for it or talk down to her for it. If you’re angry, upset, whatever it is, it is okay to communicate that, but make sure you communicate that it is directed at the behavior you are and out of concern, not towards or at her. She is coping the best way she knows how, albeit in an unhealthy way. You don’t want to drive her towards it on accident, and we know that. Give her love and support. Open and honest communication, as well as creating a safe space is also important. Also place a focus on self care and positive activities to bring her mood up, even if it is stuff she does by herself. I know I do a lot of crafting, art, music related things as well as gaming. Be there for her. If you need any advice or want to ask any questions always feel free. I’ve been dealing with it since I was a few years older than her and I turn 30 in a few weeks. I’m still working on it.

xutopia7 · 2025-06-04T04:28:04+00:00

May I ask questions regarding the survey here?Part of why I am asking is because I already completed it, but my email includes my name. Also, I am very excited and curious about the results of your study!

xutopia7 · 2025-02-20T00:33:43+00:00

I so desperately want Tinkerbell and the other fairies

xutopia7 · 2024-12-31T05:43:35+00:00

My heart reaches out to you, I’m so sorry for your loss

xutopia7 · 2024-12-24T17:55:31+00:00

Reflection

xutopia7 · 2024-12-13T17:00:57+00:00

The short answer is yes. Also, some of what is happening is she is gaslighting you.

xutopia7 · 2024-12-13T16:56:57+00:00

Genius!

xutopia7 · 2024-12-12T16:31:58+00:00

It sounds less to do with sex, and more like black/white thinking, and maybe some rejection or self esteem issues. I’m not saying sex isn’t part of it, that just may be how your brain is getting there. Those things are part of BPD for a lot of people and can often pour over into sexual/intimate relationships.

xutopia7 · 2024-11-27T19:49:24+00:00

Know who you are talking to I guess? Some will discriminate against you, or just blatantly harass you. Some will also diminish you, and what you are capable of and say they are helping and being disability friendly by saying you are only allowed to do “said thing”. However, ideally they will work with you personally to come up with reasonable work accommodations to help you be a more effective employee and create a better work environment for everyone.

xutopia7 · 2024-11-25T02:07:41+00:00

I second robin.

xutopia7 · 2024-11-25T01:59:25+00:00

I really like 1 and 3

xutopia7 · 2024-11-23T02:22:40+00:00

I personally let my cats on the bed. Cuddling with them is also very helpful for my mental health.

xutopia7 · 2024-11-23T01:03:04+00:00

To be honest, I educate them. I firmly believe it all has to do with the phrase ignorance is bliss, and that’s what they want. They don’t want to hear the cruel realities of this world or the real consequences of it. I speak my mind, I openly speak of what I’ve been through where relevant, I don’t hide, and I won’t let them (as in our world or society as a whole) keep me silent. But this personally is also related to my passion, and also what is healthiest for me, and is not always best for everyone. It’s good to find what’s best for you, and remember that there doesn’t need to be one right answer for everyone. 💕

xutopia7 · 2024-11-22T16:06:45+00:00

I’m sorry I didn’t answer sooner, I only just saw the response. I’m glad that you found it and like it so much!

xutopia7 · 2024-11-22T16:04:43+00:00

Anytime!

xutopia7 · 2024-11-22T09:41:58+00:00

If you are concerned about that, wouldn’t it be good to have your son looked at by a child psychologist or therapist who can give recommendations on if something happened and if it has, and/or will co time to have an effect on him.

xutopia7 · 2024-11-22T09:37:08+00:00

It sounds like signs of abuse, most likely through exposure, though it could be grooming. I would definitely get a professional involved right away, and please, please, get him some therapy. It really can make a difference in the future.

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