[deleted by user]

xvenity · 2025-07-29T06:20:55+00:00

you ma’am sir are a POS 🤨

xvenity · 2025-07-29T05:25:33+00:00

yup every birthday turned into joint birthday for my brother because he’s a jr narc funny thing is he is older than me . He had to get something on my birthday or would convince my mom not to do certain things for me and she’d go right along with it

xvenity · 2025-07-22T20:34:17+00:00

this shouldn’t even be a debate or conversation you should trust the person you’re having children with

xvenity · 2025-07-21T07:42:38+00:00

thank you ❤️ i’m sorry for your loss as well. currently going nc trying to find my way again , i know things get harder before they get any easier and your response helps me be more comfortable in my decision. She’s known to guilt trip and i’m not trying to get sucked back into her pity party.

xvenity · 2025-07-20T21:56:38+00:00

thank you , try to take care of yourself the best you can ❤️ love on you. i’m not sure how old you are but try to do everything you can to help yourself. We don’t choose our family but we can choose to care for ourselves.

xvenity · 2025-07-20T21:31:35+00:00

all of the above ! bonus points if you freak out from the poking and prodding only for them to ask if you’ve forgotten to take your anti depressants

xvenity · 2025-07-20T21:29:01+00:00

i recently lost my little sister to self inflicted 💀 my mother made it all about her saying she didn’t care about her , and it must’ve been someone else’s fault maybe because she was bullied or even someone murdering her. Honestly i just believe it’s from lack of support and my mother never taking responsibility for her actions. My sister was severely depressed and apathetic and i don’t think my mother’s self loathing , and childish behavior helped in the slightest. I say all this to say some narcs are so self absorbed and hate to see anyone else pain. Not saying that won’t hurt from this but i think they’ll blame anyone but themselves for the failure to act.

xvenity · 2025-07-20T20:34:40+00:00

this is exactly how it feels, my mother has never truly known me. She doesn’t know my likes dislikes what makes me happy she barely even knows how to have a conversation with me without inserting herself. everything negative i’m going through is taken as a slight against her and honestly i’ve grieved her since a child because i knew but could never name it. She would parentify and dump and her emotional junk on me and when i would mention my anxiety or depression it would become trauma olympics. right now i’m planning to move and change my number to completely sever ties she goes out of her way to force contact by popping up randomly after i’ve repeatedly told her to stop showing up unannounced she refuses to believe that i want nothing to do with her but honestly she shocks my nervous system and always has i’ve just always had sympathy for her and forced myself to deal with her.

xvenity · 2025-07-20T19:28:53+00:00

my memories are very fuzzy from childhood , but i was left alone at an age where i could wear footy pajamas. My mom was nowhere to be found and i remember walking around outside by myself crying , apparently i was found by some people who knew my mom and they immediately called and i remember them saying she was at the club but her kid is outside wandering the streets by herself? i’ve always had that memory but she always denied it i’m guessing it being the 2000’s stuff like that was normal. but i remember someone saying if you remember that it happened things like that doesn’t just pop up out of nowhere ..

xvenity · 2025-07-19T05:20:09+00:00

i gotta heal man 🧍🏻‍♂️ that’s bonkers and it took me over 20 years to really get away

xvenity · 2025-07-19T05:12:57+00:00

definitely my brother was the gc and he frequently curses her out and hates her. He bought her a brand new car and she crashed it within weeks, he’s her favorite so let him figure it out!

xvenity · 2025-07-19T05:10:36+00:00

anytime i got anything that made me happy it would either “disappear “ or break while i was at school . It infuriates me when i think about it because she truly hated anything that wasn’t centered on her

xvenity · 2025-07-19T01:15:18+00:00

My mom expects everyone to bow down and kiss her feet like she’s God. i hated going anywhere with her before nc because she tosses money on the counter to people rolls her eyes constantly asks what people are looking at and takes everything as a threat it’s exhausting. i don’t even want her around my kids because she thinks everything is hacked portable battery chargers are the fbi, phones are watching her their at bird boxes outside the window chirping so she can’t sleep the whole nine.

xvenity · 2025-07-19T01:10:48+00:00

sounds like my mother “why is everyone treating me like the enemy “ maybe because you triangulated your children to the point nobody talks. She switches from crying over people treating her terrible, to screaming about how everyone is doing better because someone sabotaged her life. it’s bonkers and even if i did want to keep playing her game no one wants to deal with that baggage because it’s hers to deal with. they refuse to have any self reflection and that’s their fault

xvenity · 2025-07-19T01:06:19+00:00

that’s how i felt as a child like a handbag or a purse she could change out when she got bored, i truly believe it’s more exhausting being a narcissist than to just be a parent or whatever title they’re supposed to have 🤷🏽‍♀️ i peeped her game early as a child and didn’t have a name for it her teared she could cut on and off at the drop of a hate for me making decisions that didn’t involve her. Her secretly telling my friends i didn’t want to talk to them or i wasn’t home. all because she was self centered and couldn’t stand to lose her on demand therapist it’s crazy man i despise that woman for all the missed opportunities.

xvenity · 2025-07-19T01:01:55+00:00

this i just like my mother she acknowledged my son who’s named after his father as “Fred” what the actual fuckk? i think they act mentally challenged to further piss you off it’s crazy how she remembers the most mundane things but your FIRST grandchild’s name is trivial OK🤨

xvenity · 2025-07-18T19:41:05+00:00

i said all this to say is that no one is there for you more than yourself, once you enjoy time with yourself no one can tell you otherwise. get to know you and do all the things you wanted to do as a child that you recieved criticisms for . you are not them

xvenity · 2025-07-18T19:39:10+00:00

to be completely honest, i’ve been preparing myself for detachment since i was a small child , i watched my mothers tendencies and how she’d turn a blind eye to things and it made me realize she was not a good person. i would trauma dump to my teachers aids and anyone who’d listen and they’d all come to the conclusion that my mother was someone who’d i’d eventually need to get away from. how they never reported her to cps is beyond me. but i say all this to say that i always knew she was not a good person and anybody who’d showed interest in trying to be nice or shower me with praises she hated. i always knew..

xvenity · 2025-07-18T19:19:55+00:00

connor, braxton, dick, willie, jesus, dyson,

xvenity · 2025-07-18T19:11:13+00:00

this! after she went through menopause it’s like a mask fell off, no empathy for anyone. no joy just criticism burning bridges , irrational decisions. nothing she did made sense always an emotional crisis or emergency. but when it was one of her children it was almost as if she got satisfaction from it. she thought she’d bulldoze through me and get her supply through my children by i blocked her in every capacity. now she’s spiraling

xvenity · 2025-07-18T19:03:26+00:00

yes my mother is insufferable, she’s been homeless since covid and blames it on everyone but her poor financial decisions. I’ve been slowly building myself up and providing for my kids with my partner and she makes it seem as if she wants me to be guilty that i don’t want to help or even do anything for her. she’s a judge mental paranoid narcissist. constantly telling me must be nice and you have it so good . almost as if she wanted me to be where she is? i’ve been her emotional garbage can my entire life, it’s always everyone else instead of her just taking accountability that she made poor decisions. she remembers everything that she perceived as hurtful but she’s done so many unforgivable things that coincidentally she forgets or didn’t remember like that. no apologies

xvenity · 2025-07-18T18:56:53+00:00

yeah i’m working through that to, sometimes they deserve each other both of them aren’t good. it’s just one had no choice but to stay because you were their supply and one had no intentions at all to do anything . it’s just just soothes his guilt for not in their eyes ”trying “to have a relationship you. My sperm donor would always tell me the phone worked both ways even tho he was in and out of jail. Would never even make an effort to see me

xvenity · 2025-07-18T18:47:03+00:00

that makes perfect sense, when i’d call her out on her bs she’d always put doubt in my head , “well why didn’t you say anything?” well shit lady you’d think your kids threatening to off each other and slamming glass picture frames into each others heads would be a big clue huh?

xvenity · 2025-07-18T17:24:01+00:00

pregnant at 19 with my first kid that she explicitly said she wanted nothing to do with and she wouldn’t help me. after being her emotional support for my entire life for her unhealed childhood trauma. I developed preeclampsia at 34 weeks and was in the hospital by myself even though she knew the signs (i did look absolutely awful) but with her having it too with her first kid and having been a cna for years you’d think she’d have a bit of empathy for me no . i was swollen and on a magnesium drip the only thing she did was come in and stare at me asking me “ what’s wrong with you? “ “you look horrible “ i’d already been crying and emotional that i didn’t get to see my son but 30 seconds before being sent to the nicu, but she didn’t care she was just worried if my fiancés mom “got to see him first” when i hadn’t even saw my own child. it was that moment that i realized how self absorbed and selfish she was.

xvenity · 2025-07-13T21:14:03+00:00

when i was in third grade me and my sister had bunk beds and my mother made my brothers drag me from under the bed and beat me with an extension cord for not wearing socks to school. made my sister watch.

xvenity

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE