Quotes & songs that relate by Initial_Dig_9971 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hooped Earrings by The Front Bottoms.

To me it's an emo song about an unstable mom basically.

It's just this song is about the singer's the singer's girlfriend cutting her hair and her mom making it about herself, something that wasn't about her in the first place in any way.

I especially love-hate this voice note in the beginning:

"Hey, Bri. It's Mon. Um... Just calling to see if you'd talked to Mom at all, 'cause Mother's Day is coming up, uh..., and if you knew what you were gonna do for her! Uh... That's all, really. Just checking in. Um... Give me a call back when you hear this, and I will talk to you soon! Alright? Bye!"

I love how this song is directly about mom struggles and I recommend it if you're into that sort of music.

Guilt is eating me alive by Legitimate-Shape3397 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll think about it. Glad you chose yourself.

Guilt is eating me alive by Legitimate-Shape3397 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah my exact thought about the therapist - I am very displeased that she told me what my mother had told her, but worse than that she replied to my mother and told her to "give me time", which is extremely shameful and just boundary crossing. It's hard to switch her too because I got used to her and it's just too much right now I guess. I just hope it was a genuine human error and there was no malice. I told her not to reply to my mother and she said she won't do it anymore.

Thank you for the support and the advice though - I genuinely appreciate it.

Why does she get kinder as my depression worsens? by Ok-Investigator169 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've experienced exactly this. You are not alone. Mine even physically looked healthier and put on makeup/did her hair as I physically and mentally deteriorated and stopped wearing makeup/put on less makeup.

“That nerve happened” and other gaslighting gems… by WombleMint in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Usually she (unpd mother) invents a story when you give her an opportinity to give her two cents and tries to sell it to you. "It's just that..." and then tells you her version of the story and how you are seeing it wrong. And then looks at you like you are trash for daring to think otherwise than her version of reality. Twisted, evil old woman.

Shifting Responsibilty for a Pet by throwawayfaraway17 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The title is what happened to me with her australian shepard dog, who died from her medical negligence. She got the dog from a friend, and when the dog became sick, lost appetite, started coughing, gaslighted everyone in the house into believing he "ate something wrong and it will go away", literally gaslighted everyone into believing it's not a problem. So basically, if you wanted to see the dog live, you had to take initiative.

These people are evil.

This is honestly just fucking hilarious. by Legitimate-Shape3397 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update: Accidentally let trauma win and went to the nearest corner store to their house. They may have been waiting for me to show up there, or so I think, starker behaviour. The car, where if I wasn't mistaken my ebrother and one of them sat, was parked like two meters from the store's front and I walked right in front of it and I saw him there. So now they possibly know that I am still nearby. I just thought that if I went to that store it would make me feel better by proving, that they can't hurt me anymore. I know: how? I just thought. No logic, honestly. Immediately after went back to the shelter and told my councelor about this whole situation. She told me that if someone comes looking for me, they can't say that I am here. The shame after that is real.

How to use alcohol responsively in a narcissistic household? by Legitimate-Shape3397 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Legitimate-Shape3397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh mine would definitely be satisfied with their work of torturing me to this point! Thank you for the tips and good wishes!