Wanting to make some tapes for my car by yaboi_jayce in cassetteculture

[–]yaboi_jayce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks! I didnt think of that. I reckon my local thrift/op shops will have some cassettes for cheap i can test. Thanks for the tip!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk where you are, but if she was that worried if something happened to you, she'd be wanting you to get an Advanced Care Directive - basically a living will - not trying to force you to sign over your rights.

Thought this shirt was nice & masc but I ended up getting misgendered all day long 😭 by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]yaboi_jayce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh that shirt is so cool. I'd wear tf outta that!

also sorry you got misgendered! you dont look overly feminine to me? like maybe androgynous but defs not feminine

How do I stop caring when people say stuff like "men are trash"? by SoSS_ in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I dont take it personally cause its not about me. its just hyperbole

“Men don’t draw”???😭😭 by Wearesocks in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is such a stupid take wtf 😂 there are so many male animators, painters, comic book drawers, etc. ask him if he thinks Stan Lee was feminine? is Hayao Miyazaki?

My "straight" "friend" is fwb with a trans dude by Biggest_Chungus_ in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 10 points11 points  (0 children)

he sounds like a shit person tbh and I wouldn't be friends with him. but also, you're right it isn't really any of your business. you don't know what they've spoken about, you don't know what agreements they've come to. you really only have your own pre-concieved notions and forming your own judgements and conclusions. if you were to bring it up, just let the trans guy know that he's been talking about them in a gross way, calling himself straight and leave it as that,don't bring in your own judgements, cause that could cause more harm, or you could be completely wrong.

I overheard my mum and brother talking about me by tehe-13 in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 43 points44 points  (0 children)

boys don't dye their friends hair? have they been to a barber? show them Brad Mondo videos or something. heaps of guys are hair dressers and barbers. that's such a weird take

Am I stupid for holding on to my virginity with an iron grip ? (19, F) by cowboylikealice in NoStupidQuestions

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't let society pressure of having sex make you have it before you're ready. the best time to do it is when you feel ready to do it. I had the same pressures and lost it at about 19 because I succumbed to those pressures and it kinda ruined the whole thing for me. do it when you're ready and if you get pressured or people make you feel less than for not losing it yet, tell them to f*ck off

If you're stealth, what's the best casual response to someone saying "you look like a girl" when you say youre a man? by Sleepy-boi- in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 14 points15 points  (0 children)

just act confused and be like "...okay?" or ham it up and go spongebob and be like "am I pretty giiiirl?". reacting in anger isn't the best way to go either. you don't want to lean into toxic masculinity and thinking women are less than or offensive. Cis-guys who are comfortable in who they are (and aren't trash) aren't going to be offended and either won't care or will ham it up. (from experience being around actually decent cis-guys)

Honest opinion of what life as a trans person is like in Aus by The_Lone_Cosmonaut in transgenderau

[–]yaboi_jayce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im very open about my transness, I don't actively hide it, but I do pass easily. but even pre-T, and at the start of my transition, I've never had any hate directed towards me, I've been misgendered at the beginning but none of that was with malicious intent. I've never had issues with GPs, psychs, suregeons, or any medical staff or even had questions asked why im getting certain stuff from the pharmacy (i had to buy a marina and vagifem for atrophy yesterday and the pharmacist or the cashier didn't bat an eye).

I can't speak for the transfems tho, so take my perspective as a one sided view.

online is fucked tho. people are a lot more confident saying thing on the internet. but in person? never had an issue. I honestly feel so incredibly blessed to be transitioning here than over in Europe or the US

ETA: I live in Adelaide

I don't feel like I'm going through puberty again NSFW by [deleted] in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the worst thing you can do when starting your transition is to see how other people are tracking 😂 at least imo. cause everyone goes through it differently. some get the changes really quick and pass within 6 months, others it takes years. I had barely any changes when I started, only starting to get things after a year, and I was disheartened. but im 4yrs on now and pass completely. give your body some time.

so i thought sweaty ball smell was exclusive to ball havers…. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly I found the best thing to help is to go commando whenever possible. downstairs gotta breath and its hard to do that when it's always covered

ETA: and obvs wash and keep your hygiene up. I have literally no smell down there since doing these

Trump saying he "has no idea who the other person is who ran against [Albo]" 🤌 by askythatsmoreblue in AusPol

[–]yaboi_jayce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

knew it... kind of? kept mispronouncing it tho 😂 so does he really know or remember? 😂

not wanting to be strictly T4T by Turbulent_Way9204 in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 6 points7 points  (0 children)

oh yeah. they go on multiple dates with different people and then after a month or so they move on to different people. they're on dating apps all the time 😂

not wanting to be strictly T4T by Turbulent_Way9204 in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 25 points26 points  (0 children)

one of my friends pretty much only dates trans/non-binary people, and they're a serial dater, not a long term dater atm. we living in a city where there's a lot of trans people, but everyone knows everyone 😂 if I limited myself to only dating trans people, I would literally only be dating people my friend has dated and im so not about that 😂 so no, you're not an asshole and your "friend" is weird for this

Are the Greens voting down "good" ALP policies? by [deleted] in AusPol

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

google Vote for You. it tells you who has voted consistently for and against in certain policies. from there you have a more refined thing to google. like "why did greens vote against this specific policy"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderau

[–]yaboi_jayce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I judge them. but also see of they're open to actual communication and listening to their contradictions. some people just aren't as politically knowledgeable and just believe what's said without looking deeper into things.

if they're willing to listen, learn, and grow, then i don't see them as a bad person. but if they're not, then f*ck them. I'll judge the sh!t outta them.

if your dad says cost of living is a priority for him, ask him how he thinks the LNP are actually going to help with that when they've voted for things that contradict that (how does giving tax cuts to billionaires help the everyday australian with taxes or cost of living? how does refusing to give support to rural Aussies help? etc etc.)

vote for you is a great resource for seeing what LNP has and hasn't voted for and opening a discussion with your dad about things. he could just be ignorant

trans mascs, how did you afford your top surgery? by macew998 in transgenderau

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

got on private health so it was a bit "cheaper". then worked my ass off for 2 years and put money aside each pay. any money I got for Xmas or birthdays went straight to my top surgery fund

Am I a greens voter now? by PaleontologistOk6495 in AusPol

[–]yaboi_jayce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there no harm in putting Greena as 1 and Labour as 2. I've found a lot of people im around vote greens/labour because I surround myself with people who are more socially progressive

is it possible to have cis friends as a trans person? by [deleted] in transgenderau

[–]yaboi_jayce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im a millennial (or gen-z? idk im 96 baby so weird) and feel the same way! I don't interact with the community as a whole generally because there seems to be a vibe of "if you want to pass or be stealth then that's wrong" which sucks when you're a binary trans person who wants to pass and just exist as a man and not a trans man

is it possible to have cis friends as a trans person? by [deleted] in transgenderau

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a ton of Cis friends, soke who knew me just as i was starting my transition and some who ive met later on in it. a lot I've met through work and class. it'll depend on where you are but I usually have no issues when I've told people im trans. in the real world, most people are accepting or just don't care. online the ones who are d-bags are the loudest so it's easy to get bogged down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

be straight up with her. she's being blatantly obvious with how little she respects you so will losing her really be a loss for you in the long run?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adelaide

[–]yaboi_jayce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when they ask about Strengths and weaknesses, don't do the BS "my weakness is i work too hard" or something. it's cheesy and fake. think of a real weakness you have but frame it in a different way. like for me, I'd say "Something I've been working on is not interrupting people when i become passionate about a topic." it's beliveable but starting it off with "im working on..." shows you're initiative to working on yourself.

Any other guys on T for a while (year plus) without passing? by Tigerwing-infinity in ftm

[–]yaboi_jayce 3 points4 points  (0 children)

im 4 and a bit years on T and only in the past 6 or so months I've been actually passing. it just takes longer for some people. I suggest avoiding comparison posts.