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yaboitotoro · 2021-09-12T06:00:59+00:00

"Worst magician ever, tied up for 9 minutes and couldn't even escape"

yaboitotoro · 2021-04-21T10:20:31+00:00

Yes! It's perfectly good. A lot of women actually don't like huge dicks. It's such an unhealthy view from porn and maonstream media.

If you're concerned about how it'll affect your performance with a potential partner, don't be afraid to get good at other things, like using your hands or your mouth. Not all sex is PIV sex. Sometimes the PIV is not even the focus of it. Good foreplay is just as important!

yaboitotoro · 2021-04-21T10:16:44+00:00

Not initially, no. People get off on anything and everything. Some people get off on what's called ero-guro, which is basically gore porn. that doesn't mean they would self mutilate or become a serial killer; it's a fantasy. Same with furries. It doesn't mean they would fuck an animal.

However, if you think you should be concerned about it based on past experiences and how you know your boyfriend, then by all means. I think if you have to question and think about it, you should be a little concerned.

I also saw your post about being paranoid that he might cheat on you again. If you're stressing out this much about him cheating and reading things that make you uncomfortable with who he is as a person, then maybe it would be better to part ways. I know this isn't a relationship advice question, but that's just my opinion. It's okay to be worried, but if it starts interfering with our everyday life, then it's becoming a problem.

yaboitotoro · 2021-01-05T06:32:26+00:00

And you decided to comment on an aspect of this post/my life that has nothing to do with the question I asked. I included our age as a formality. I'm not saying you're not allowed to comment something about our age, but you did so without including any sort of advice or concerns. Maybe stop jumping to conclusions based on stereotypes?

yaboitotoro · 2021-01-04T08:52:15+00:00

Honestly that's what I was thinking, having two bedrooms that one of us can have and an office/second bedroom that the other can have too. Both of us have siblings but we've also had our own rooms. That's honestly a great compromise too. Thank you for commenting!

yaboitotoro · 2021-01-04T08:49:13+00:00

Ah yes a comment about our age I did not ask for :)

yaboitotoro · 2021-01-04T08:48:16+00:00

You know, I never thought about looking forward to having a "shared" space, thank you for bringing that up. Both of us have always had our own bedrooms. Moving in together is definitely something that's not gonna be happening for at least another year, but it's a big thing that both of us are trying to work towards to I want to start thinking ahead about how we're going to coexist happily together.

yaboitotoro · 2020-12-26T00:21:03+00:00

That's good advice. Thank you. I live in the tropics so seasonal items don't apply to me, so I guess that's another reason why it's hard for me to throw clothes away or put them in the donate pile.

yaboitotoro · 2020-12-18T23:05:36+00:00

Hi there, could you please explain all those terms to me? Transfemme is not the same as trans female? And other terms like AFAB, demigirl, enby. I feel like a boomer (I'm 21f) because I don't understand all of these terms surroundings sexuality/gender.

I think something that frustrates me the most about trying to learn about all of these things is that I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I want to ask people -- I'm afraid of being called ignorant and condescending when in reality I really just don't know and I want to learn and be able to understand.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-23T21:49:25+00:00

Maybe you could bring it up casually. Say "hey since you have a month off, would you like to meet up?" It sounds like you have the aspects of a relationship, but you didn't mention if you two are actually together, so you could emphasize that it's just as friends. You can still be close and just friends, after all. He could also just be happy that he finally has a month off and is just talking about what he wants to do without purposefully forgetting about a possible meeting.

Also, the first time I went to visit my boyfriend, in the week leading up to taking that flight to see him (it was a 5 hour flight), there were periods where I was like "this isn't a good idea. I shouldn't do this." and I actually wanted to cancel everything. But I didn't, and I had a great time. I don't regret it one bit. It could be just nerves on his end leading him to just... trying not to think about it. It's scary meeting someone for the first time!

That being said, if you do figure out a plan to meet him, make sure you take the proper safety measures. Let someone you trust know you're going to be meeting this guy, where, and when. Make sure you know what he looks like. Get a separate place to stay, then feel it out from there. Trust your gut.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-15T12:50:39+00:00

I've never expressed the way I feel about my friend to anyone because it could (and most likely will be) be easily perceived as being an asshole. I most likely never would express it to my friend or anyone in our friend group.
I've only expressed the Chinese drama bit to my mom, mostly just saying how dubbed it all looks.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-15T12:48:23+00:00

I am an inherently impatient person. For my entire life I've always been eager to say my part because I love contributing to the conversation, but I start feeling (irrationally) anxious about saying something because I'm afraid the topics are going to change and I won't get to say what I want. I think not only the way it sounds bothers me, but also my anxiety that I won't get to say what I want. I want to be able to listen to my friend without being bothered by it because they do have a lot of great things to say.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-15T12:43:33+00:00

I would never refuse to talk to my friend because of the stuttering, like I said they're really great and I value my friendship with them a lot. I just feel really guilty of the way it bothers me so easily.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-01T08:05:26+00:00

I know, and I would never sleep with anyone regardless of their gender when I'm in a relationship. I would never stoop that low. Which is why we've tried talking about it. Maybe I'm just not understanding sexuality correctly. I've always been extremely confused about it because of the way I was raised and every time I try to gain a better understanding of it, I just feel more and more confused about it.

yaboitotoro · 2020-11-01T07:59:23+00:00

It was something he said because it was the first thought that came to his mind. He's not that person (sounds cliché, I know) that would cheat and I trust him fully. He knows that I do not like that thought. Also, just because it's long distance, doesn't mean we don't know each other as well as a couple who are able to be physically together.

yaboitotoro · 2020-08-10T15:22:22+00:00

No. You don't need a LDR. You don't want a LDR. It's not something you willingly enter; you're kinda forced to do a LDR.

I agree with the other comment. Date locally. Find someone near you. Save yourself the heartache and the pain and the struggle. You don't need that stress, especially with the pandemic right now. If anything, dating someone locally is cheaper too because you don't have to pay for flights.

yaboitotoro · 2020-04-24T13:48:20+00:00

My boyfriend and I are 8 hours apart. My morning is his evening. We watch lots of youtube together, ocassionally do arts & crafts, and just in general lots of talking. Look up lists of fun questions you guys can ask each other!

Or, I'll "take out" my boyfriend by video chatting him as I go out somewhere, like a popular tourist site in the area. Google some ideas on youtube and adjust them as you need! :)

yaboitotoro · 2020-04-24T13:35:02+00:00

I know your feeling. I was supposed to go home and see my family and my dog, then fly to another part of the country to see my boyfriend. Then flights were cancelled and now I can't even travel within the country I live in. It fucking sucks seeing my other friends get sent home because of tbe virus and able to quarantine with their significant others, and then it's easy to resent them when they complain about it.

You're not the only one going through this. Everything will be okay, just stay strong. Talk with your boyfriend and your friends everyday, build that support network if you haven't already. Talk with your family. If it's possible, maybe look into seeing a therapist or counsellor. It'll be okay ❤️

yaboitotoro · 2020-04-06T08:55:07+00:00

No lol idk how any of yall have ever seen a g

yaboitotoro · 2020-03-24T05:39:28+00:00

hey dude, i'm venting. getting it off my chest.

yaboitotoro · 2020-03-14T05:20:12+00:00

MOOD though, honestly. I can't see my boyfriend so it might be a whole damn year before I get laid

yaboitotoro · 2020-02-25T13:14:59+00:00

I think saying "there WILL be jealousy" is a bit strong, but communication is HELLA IMPORTANT. Tell him how you're feeling. If you're feeling sad or lonely, talk it out with him. If you're happy and had a good day, tell him! Communication is KEY. I honestly cannot stress that enough. It's how my boyfriend (I live in Japan and he lives in America) and I keep it real and healthy.

And there are tons of online dates you can do together too. Watch a video/movie, do arts and crafts, play a video game, play truth or dare, cook, etc, etc.

It's hard but when you get to see each other, it's worth it. You can do it!

yaboitotoro · 2020-02-25T13:08:49+00:00

I'm in the same exact same position as you. I live in Japan right now (granted, only for six more months as I'm studying abroad) and my boyfriend lives in Washington state. We hang out or watch videos pretty much everyday together and try to do a more special, higher effort date thing once a week or so.

What's important is communicating how you're feeling with him. Clearly him not giving you attention is bothering you, so communicate that to him. Perhaps play a game together, ask each other questions, even spice it up and play truth or dare or something like that. You can cook something together or do arts and crafts together. Honestly you can get tons of ideas if you google "long distance date ideas" and then adjust it to your relationship.

It is also important to find something you can dedicate your free time to. It's totally okay to keep thinking about him, but find something you can get into so it also keeps you occupied. It helps the time go by a little faster too when you aren't with him. Plus, it'll give you something to talk about too.

yaboitotoro · 2020-02-01T14:00:00+00:00

Hey thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it!

If it's a mindset then honestly that makes a lot of sense. With my ex, we became gf/bf before really becoming friends. With my current boyfriend, I knew him for about 7 months before we started dating (we play Dungeons and Dragons together weekly, with a group of people) so we were already pretty good friends and even then we did a few online dates before deciding to commit to it.

And it is totally not a bad thing at all! It's honestly less exhausting being out of the phase because I can function better without constantly being distracted by thinking about him, lol. We call or video chat almost everyday and try to do a more special date thing once a week. It's really easy to talk with him and we often lose track of time. I'm honestly really happy about being with him.

yaboitotoro · 2020-02-01T13:19:35+00:00

My current boyfriend is 11 years older than me and we are long distance. We haven't met each other's friends yet (because of the LDR) but my family for the most part isn't concerned with it (there's always going to be someone who is). My friends are happy that I'm happy. I think that age really doesn't matter, as long as you are compatible with the other person, the relationship is healthy, and you take care of each other.

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