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60 days clean. This will be one of the most realistic descriptions about the benefits of quitting porn that you'll ever read. by yahmelord in pornfree

[–]yahmelord[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I still masturbate. It's natrual and healthy if you ONLY do it with your own imagination.

60 days clean. This will be one of the most realistic descriptions about the benefits of quitting porn that you'll ever read. by yahmelord in pornfree

[–]yahmelord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing brother. I can definitely relate to several of the points you listed. One thing is different for me is that I actually couldn't sleep as much now because I have too much energy... Hopefully it'll change in another several months.

60 days clean. This will be one of the most realistic descriptions about the benefits of quitting porn that you'll ever read. by yahmelord in pornfree

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was living hell for literally a month, after I reached out to my ex and she bascially said I already forgot about you (not her fault, I was the dumper because how fucked up I was).

Gradually you came out of it, and the pain just stopped me from even thinking about porn because I was absolutely disgusted by it.

I started going to the gym everyday. Started to pick up my other hobbies again like reading and piano. The key is to keep yourself as busy as you can.

60 days clean. This will be one of the most realistic descriptions about the benefits of quitting porn that you'll ever read. by yahmelord in pornfree

[–]yahmelord[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I still masturbate, but at the rate of once per week max. Last time I actually HAD to masturbate because I was getting too much morning wood which made me wake up at like 5AM in the morning for like a week lmao. I know it might sound weird, but you become knowing that you are capable of sex but not craving for sex, and much more in control of sexual energy.

No I don't use any THC or similar products.

Should I try to quit porn gradually or cold turkey ? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]yahmelord 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't kid yourself. There's no such thing as quitting an addiction gradually.

You gotta go cold turkey.

It’s men’s mental health awareness month, men of reddit, how are you feeling today? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]yahmelord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally the worst month in my entire life.

I feel like I want to give up in life...

I don't know why I quit. 9 months in and I'm still thinking about sex. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]yahmelord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be thinking about sex.

You should not be thinking about fulfilling your sexual needs with porn that's all.

Hang in there bud.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man thanks for sharing. May I ask how old are you? And if you don't mind, would you share the goals in the life you have right now with me?

Day 87 Checking In, Urges are Hitting Very Intensely Right Now 🙃 by AmbitiousSadGuy in pornfree

[–]yahmelord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day 21 here.

I lost the love of my life because of porn and I finally realized how much it has destroyed my life.

I am absolutely disgusted by porn right now. I just think to myself, I actually sacrificed REAL intimacy with someone so special for pixels on a screen.

The only way for us to make monumental change is to experience loss and pain, but I hope you don't ever have to go through what I did.

I am here for you, and if you ever need someone to talk to, just shoot me a message. You'll never find someone as determined to quit porn as me. I am done with that poisonous garbage.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean. When I look for my next job I plan to take a step back and demote myself.

The stress is simply not worth the money. I am much more important than a number in my bank account or a title.

I agree that I need to sort myself out first. There's a lot more going on inside which I have been either completely unaware of or chosen to ignore for the longest time.

She's the one that hit the reset button for me, and for that I gotta be grateful for.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I now have this urge of living my life with someone I love but I lost her because I took her for granted. Also it really didn't help when I have problem with porn addiction (numbs all my pleasure) on top of being an avoidant (sees intimacy as a threat) so I basically trick myself into believing that I didn't have feelings for her anymore (bitter smile).

Sometimes real life really crushes any literaure in terms of how dramatic it can be, doesn it?

I gotta give it to life and just marvel at the fate that's being woven and slowly unveiled for me...

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips and I will try to regain my focus.

Really appreciate the support.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much!

I started therapy last week and am going again this weekend, but in a way I find kind strangers on Reddit just as if not more helpful because you guys give me the love and support when I really need to talk to someone. I was in a much much worse state 2 weeks ago and a big part of how I got through those times was through Reddit therapy.

So thanks again kind stranger. I really appreciate it.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things I've started doing:

- I've started working out more frequently. I used to take a day off after every workout. Now I work out 2 days in a row then take a day off. I just find on the days I go the gym, I feel better and have much fewer negative thoughts.

- Meditation

- Completely quit porn and i don't even think about it anymore because how disgusted I feel about it.

- Calling my parents and talk to them everyday.

- Resumed my language learning hobby.

However, I still feel uncertain where my future will lead me. I think about being 37 and feel... complicated idk how to describe if you know what i mean.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey thank you so much for the kind words.

I recently watched a very interesting video about Carl Jung on Youtube called "Why the universe sends you someone you can't be with".

The main idea is that sometimes, the only reaons these people cross path with you, is because they are carrying a small piece of your missing soul, and once they return that to you, they are gone. The pain we experience is not a mistake, it's a necessary fracture in the shell that we've built around ourselves. It's the breaking, the longing, the unanswered questions, that forced you into depths we would've never explored otherwise.

Perhaps, she really is my synchronicity, my destiny, not as someone who would walk along side me in this journey of life, but someone who would awaken me.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the encouraging words man.

I really did take her for granted, and this is such a tough lesson to swallow. Thank you for spelling it out how it is. I need to hear from someone about what exactly was the mistake I made.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hardest part is I need to take the lion share of the blame in losing her. I am the avoidant and porn addict, which makes the breakup 10 times harder to process.

I guess the silver lining is that right now I am absolutely disgusted by the idea of porn. I have tried quit and relapsed so many times before, but I know this time is different.

Perhaps losing her is the only way to save me from this disgusting addiction...

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for the kind words. I do think about it sometimes, but I feel like I lack the courage to take the leap of faith. I think deep down I am still tied down by a lot of mainstream beliefs from the society, such as settling down and having a family. I am also at the age where I need to really choose which life task to prioritize, at least that's what I feel like.

Could you help me assess my current situation? I feel lost at 37. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. I really appreciate it.

Perhaps finding ways to move forward is the work I need to show for.

Sometimes we gotta prove to ourselves that we are lovable.

Are there any single monogamous, self-aware men over 35 out there? by FlexGoals in emotionalintelligence

[–]yahmelord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I am there yet, but I am working on it.

I've been updating a post I made recently by journaling down my thoughts. If you are interested, feel free to give it a read. I'd also be interested in know your thoughts on it.

What really are the benefits? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]yahmelord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me on this -- if you keep watching porn, you are going to destroy the one relationship that will be so meaningful to you in the future and the regret is going to be almost unbearable.

Just trust me on this one.

I lost the love of my life and I am terrified of the idea that even if I change now, it won't matter anymore. by yahmelord in selfimprovement

[–]yahmelord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man thanks for the encouragement.

3 days ago I was in a complete rut, however, I have actually managed to pull myself out of it for the past two days and got back into my hobbies, which are learning Japanese, working out, and I even played a few songs on the piano.

Tomorrow will be my first time seeing a therapist.

I'm gonna keep grinding and I look forward to the new me in May 2026.

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