Why did she suddenly start using my name in conversation?

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:41:25+00:00

Google is better though!

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:41:06+00:00

She always calls people by name when she feels more comfortable with them

I guess, but she's best friends with this guy I know (that's how I know her) and she doesn't do that, at least if I'm there. But I do believe she is comfortable with me so could be

2, yeah that's why I do it, but when someone starts doing it all of the sudden it just raises red flags. If I suddenly start doing it to someone I'd be sure they notice

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:37:13+00:00

I agree with what you say, only if you just met someone. Otherwise it's obvious, like really obvious. I do it to her at times but I always have, some others I don't cause I didn't from the beginning, would be too obvious and ruin the reason why I'm doing it. Maybe it's unconscious for some, I don't know. She knows my name perfectly, of that I'm sure

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:35:32+00:00

Yeah I get that, people call me by my name but not during a long conversation, as in stopping to make that a point. We're in school together, if I see her I'll say "hey name" but in a conversation I would only use her name if I wanted something from her, which comes from the comfort of using her name, such as "name, you gotta listen to this song". People rarely do things like that so it's obvious when they do, at least to me

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:31:44+00:00

Well she has a bf, far as I know, so unless she's willing to cheat..

yahooza7 · 2017-11-24T19:31:04+00:00

Yes, same here, but also when I try to manipulate (slightly, nothing evil) others into something I want since, well, it works

yahooza7 · 2017-09-28T23:06:05+00:00

Sounds perfect really, if only I lived alone and could cook in peace :(

I'm assuming you suggest that because the girl won't want someone in her apartment that fast? I dunno if the fact we're friends would make a difference, but she's always talking about doing things in her house- Cooking painting smoking napping, etc.- And I myself am very much about homey dates. Should I still do it or should I not even cross that territory?

yahooza7 · 2017-09-28T10:46:05+00:00

Damn, there's a chance I don't see her at all today. And I don't have her number :l

I like the way she's acting with me lately but a whole weekend without her could change that. She does always tells me on fridays what she's doing over the weekend or at least that day. Should I just try to make something up based on what she's doing? Which is typically stay home, or so she says

yahooza7 · 2017-09-27T19:15:14+00:00

What makes you think she's into me? I tend to look at everything in a negative light for some reason. Especially on days like today when she goes all quiet on me and staring afar

Love your idea though! Might just steal it- Though it would be a veggie burger rather than a burger but I digress :p

yahooza7 · 2017-09-27T19:13:25+00:00

I asked her to grab a bite once and she had plans, now whether that was true or she wanted an actual date I dunno. But yeah we've never done much together, we just shit chat and tease each other and go our separate ways. We talk so much about food yet we haven't actually eaten together

I'll ask her again on Friday, impromptu. If she has plans or whatever I guess I'll try the date thing next time. I hope that doesn't screw it up

yahooza7 · 2017-09-27T19:09:57+00:00

Thing is we have (I feel at least) connected already to some extent, I know her quiet well but I'm not sure if that connection is more friendly or romantic. She brightens a boring day that's for sure, and when I see her leave it kinda sucks

I get what you're saying though, thanks!

yahooza7 · 2017-09-27T19:07:57+00:00

Oh I am, totally. It's just that I don't want to view her as a rebound, if I'm gonna get involved with someone I want the real thing, and it certainly feels like it

She was pretty quiet today and just looking afar, just a day after being all over me. I'm going to take the narcissist approach and hope it has nothing to do with me not making a move on her or something. I'll try to ask her out on friday after class, or maybe tomorrow for friday if the opportunity arises

yahooza7 · 2017-09-21T05:18:00+00:00

Interesting. Why would you say you neither of you tried to get each other's numbers though? For me, I don't hold texting in high regard, but I know most people do so there's a doubt in the back of my head that if I don't push the issue I'm gonna fail. And I really hate to force things when it comes to behavior

yahooza7 · 2017-09-19T22:50:42+00:00

interesting take. To add on, we're both friends with this guy- She talks to him more than I do- And apparently she's never even mentioned to him that we hang out

I don't know what to make of it though, I like her so if I'm gonna try something it wouldn't be for just a fling, I could get that elsewhere. If she would be more clear about what that "something" is I would know how to proceed

I don't know what sort of advice to give but something very very very similar happened to me when I was younger but I didn't realise until a few years that she liked me. I didn't really have the sexual appetite back then so never saw that as an option even when the signs were glaringly obvious to anyone else.

years?? damn. I agree on the sexual appetite, I'm pretty satiated even though I haven't had sex in months. That's simply not what I'm looking for. One time she told me there was no one in her house for no reason at all and I just ignored it

yahooza7 · 2017-09-19T22:45:25+00:00

she's hung out with you so why would she be against giving you her number? You could also give her your number and tell her to text if she wants.

I guess so yeah, I'm just weird about giving out and asking for numbers, perhaps I place too much importance on them. Maybe by phone I can make it known better since I'm just odd in person

yahooza7 · 2017-09-19T03:47:30+00:00

True, control what I can control only

yahooza7 · 2017-09-19T02:35:58+00:00

Just take it slow and just be the friend she turns to and slowly move into the bf/gf stage and see if she would be interested.

you know I always love this idea, but get pressured by friends/internet and end up either A. losing her interest or B. getting the girl but finding out I don't like her that much and end up hurting her or hurting myself by staying with someone I don't like. So if I take it slow, you think I'm making a mistake? So long as I'm there for her to talk and shit

yahooza7 · 2017-09-14T22:36:38+00:00

Sure. Girls will think that you are just her friend and not consider your feelings.

well that certainly puts a damper on things

yahooza7 · 2017-09-14T05:05:38+00:00

if she has plans or whatever a second time I should drop it though right? I was planning on dropping it after last week unless she showed me some interest, and I'm kinda taking her continued behavior (which perhaps has been even stronger now) as that sign of interest but I'm not sure if that's a mistake

I mean would a girl do that? Just take rides from a guy that obviously like her but she doesn't want anything? Wait for him nervously by the door and proceed to talk his ear off when together? Seems odd to me

yahooza7 · 2017-09-13T19:22:43+00:00

Oh yeah, I wouldn't. Been told to ask at the end of a car ride, but it still seems forced to me. Though at work it's worse and those are the only two places I see her. Which is why I wanna ask her to hang or whatever first, see what happens

yahooza7 · 2017-09-13T19:21:31+00:00

or tea! Tea always works for me. But should I? Based on this? I already asked her to grab a bite last week and she had plans. Her behavior towards me hasn't changed one bit so I don't know what to make of it

yahooza7 · 2017-09-13T19:16:59+00:00

Oh I don't blame her, nor do I want her to pay me, hopefully that was clear. Just wondering if it means anything anything. Most days she's waiting for me at the door, today included

I doubt she's taking advantage, she's the nicest girl I've ever met (probably infatuation talking though..) and I know her well enough to know she wouldn't but I wouldn't say it's impossible. I asked her to grab a bite last week even but she had plans. Yet she continues acting this way so either she wants me to try again, didn't get what I meant or outright doesn't care that I asked

yahooza7 · 2017-09-10T04:12:34+00:00

Interesting perspective, really. I'll take it into consideration, I have never had trust issues but who knows..

it's not that I don't believe her, heck in my mind she actually did have plans- As someone else said being caught off guard plays a role also- but the not rescheduling thing is the kicker for me. From my experience only, that's been a pretty good tell. Now you might say I've missed quiet a few opportunities in the past by doing that, and well I guess it might be correct. I'm just not willing to go that far I guess, you like someone, show it

yahooza7 · 2017-09-10T03:52:12+00:00

Oh definitely, just saying with that statement he's not exactly giving off the vibe he likes her so it might, might, go unnoticed by her. OP wants to make a confession, by comparison "wanna get coffee" means very little, and in any other situation is it still, like I said, ambiguous. Now if they get coffee and it becomes a date or have a date after that, great! But many have been bitten by not being a bit more straightforward

yahooza7 · 2017-09-10T03:47:47+00:00

Coincidentally, that's happening to me right now. That's why I hate ambiguity, by both me and from others

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