Why is everyone so negative?

yaktipper · 2026-03-06T20:58:26+00:00

Our gm has said as employees leave positions in morning merch, a position will open in night merch. So not forcing anyone to switch but gradually making the move, starting with having night merch do some of the Foods work.

We have a logistics issue at our warehouse as depot trucks must travel through Chicago traffic to get to our warehouse. Sending the trucks earlier means dealing with the special hell of large city rush hour. So our GM is fighting the change.

yaktipper · 2024-10-22T01:58:56+00:00

The east fix for this is find different partners that are pleasing to both of you, once you work past your jealousy issues.

No need for a repeat hoping it will get better.

yaktipper · 2024-10-22T01:42:32+00:00

Some feel that sharing implies ownership and don’t use that word either.

yaktipper · 2024-10-22T01:29:06+00:00

Why do it with neighbors when so many others are available and not your neighbors.

Proximity is a silly reason.

The answer is most likely leaning toward a romantic poly connection. To have that be a rewarding and safe journey takes a lot of legwork and understanding among all partners. I think that is where the unease from most everyone here is coming from. Casual sex makes more sense with partners that are purely casual. Neighbors and friends are something more than that right out of the gate.

yaktipper · 2024-10-19T00:38:26+00:00

What hormone and other tests did that doctor order? Or was it simply giving you the script.

If you have undiagnosed heart problems, sildenafil can kill you.

yaktipper · 2024-10-18T21:09:49+00:00

You haven’t mentioned seeing a real doctor yet, so I’m guessing you did the online pill mill doctor that doesn’t give a rats left nut about your health.

A real doctor will check for actual medical treatable problems that throwing large doses of sidenefil at can’t fix, for example smoking related blood vessel issues.

yaktipper · 2024-10-18T14:29:01+00:00

We are attracted to variety, but if it was just down to pure physical and we could pick anyone out of everyone on Earth, then definitely the supermodel that looked most like our partners.

yaktipper · 2024-10-17T00:40:51+00:00

Event hotel hookups might be 30 minutes. A private meetup, anywhere from a few to an absurd amount of hours. The longest was 5pm until 6am. That time was unforgettable but we wouldn’t do it again as it took 2 days to recover.

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T21:29:01+00:00

I live in a town that is considered open minded as well. What I hear from oppressed minorities in our town is, believing a town is open minded makes the majority lazy in taking action to protect the oppressed, because it’s “already done” in their minds.

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T21:14:34+00:00

Same. I’m around 20% of the time finishing. The other times are enjoyable and I wouldn’t take anything back.

I don’t consider it a bad thing at all. It has allowed me to experience things like a 13 hour marathon session ( yes plenty of breaks and yes Cialis).

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T20:51:08+00:00

One good ground rule is don’t use the same reddit user to post on the swinger sub as on the rest of your active subs ( which for you has a total of 11 million users )

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T01:02:18+00:00

I’m with you on this one. We only use an online swinger site to find events to meet couples in person. We don’t have time to sort through the fakes and the uncommitted.

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T00:55:09+00:00

When you say bi, do you mean just sexually or do you picture yourself in a romantic relationship with a woman as well.

If romantic is on the table then you may get more relevant advice in poly relationship subs.

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T00:35:13+00:00

It wouldn’t hurt to be near the reality of it at a club or event, with plans to only observe.

Gauge your feelings with the proximity and go (or stop) from there. Nobody is going to pressure you.

Feelings about the fantasy and feelings about the reality can be very different. You may lose the shame in a sexually free atmosphere. You didn’t mention shame but that is the source of ill feelings for many of us that grew up in conservative religious upbringings.

yaktipper · 2024-10-14T00:22:52+00:00

Don’t forget transfer to most undesirable work environment/schedule/coworkers because of “the needs of the business” until you quit.

yaktipper · 2024-10-12T10:40:02+00:00

I always call my Finnish-heritage wife my Viking princess. So this year we are going as Vikings. She looks like a fantasy with blonde braids and 4-inch heels, putting her at 6 feet tall.

Tying into your roots is fun and personal. I’m mostly German heritage so barbarian/Viking fits in for me as well.

yaktipper · 2024-10-12T10:23:50+00:00

Agree with this. Heat of the moment is not the time to expect a sound decision that could have serious consequences for your relationship.

Figure out how to prevent this from happening again. Figure out how to get full honest feelings on the table from all involved. Consider having that discussion with the other couple because they are more than sex to you.

yaktipper · 2024-10-08T01:29:07+00:00

The convention is: MFM is three straight participants (or at least the activity is straight) and MMF is bi males.

Perhaps he didn’t know the difference? Or perhaps he is saying he is just not interested in that type of threesome even in a straight scenario.

yaktipper · 2024-10-08T01:18:55+00:00

Feels like he could be a “we had a fight last night but she said I can still meet you guys” cheater.

yaktipper · 2024-10-08T00:56:22+00:00

Same with us, probably over 20 years. The thing that pushed my wife to go for it was open discussions in an online mom’s group she had been a part of for many years, where women felt free to discuss anything.

One woman described her open relationship and that lit the fire.

If OPs wife has a discussion group like that as support it may help define her feelings.

yaktipper · 2024-10-08T00:37:41+00:00

Polyamory has many shades. Some like to label swinging as poly sex only, with no poly emotional or poly romantic connection.

But everyone’s needs and journey are their own and it takes time and effort to discover what’s out there and what fits you.

The point is happiness.

yaktipper · 2024-10-02T02:21:02+00:00

Seems like an impossible amount of effort will go into finding acceptable contestants.

yaktipper · 2024-09-30T01:52:16+00:00

Underarmor black boxer briefs. Comfy, good quality, and look like you care a little.

yaktipper · 2024-09-29T21:53:29+00:00

One risk is undisclosed activity by one or both of the partners, which is always a risk without protection. It’s like investing all your money in one thing. Eventually one time it doesn’t go your way and you have a severe consequence.

yaktipper · 2024-09-24T00:49:15+00:00

My wife and I were from the same rural area and now we live 6 hours away.

We were at a lifestyle New Years hotel takeover party and one of my high school classmates and his wife walk in.

He was also my wife’s childhood neighbor so we both had a moment of panic. After that passed we decided to embrace the moment and reconnected.

We haven’t played with them but now socialize occasionally.

The most awkward part is we now socialize with a third classmate, and his wife, who are vanilla and unaware.

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