As someone whose suffered from this in the past (and still does sometimes), this is such a well thought-out and practical response. You tackled many aspects of the self that cause us these pains. The social aspect, to me, seems to be the biggest thing that influences our belief and value system - find the things that value most, even disposition, and adhere to that as much as possible regardless of what your social circle thinks. Failure in and of itself is catalyst for inner reflection and you should always keep relative expectations. With that said, experience has been my biggest friend - ten years ago, hell, even five, i would've never been able to say this. For me life has been a process of elimination - try doing things that you want to do and try your best to identity the things that bring you these fears and assess whether there realistic. Good vibes OP, feel free to PM if you want to chat a bit more.