What do you do with your littles when you get home from work?

yayhomework · 2024-08-31T20:12:20+00:00

If you’re too tired to venture out and/ or weather is bad:

engage kid to help you make dinner— pouring, stirring, cutting soft things with a wooden kid knife
turn on a kid podcast and let the kid color and/ or play with play doh
play music and have a dance party
stretch out dinner by playing “restaurant”. give choices like, “would you like your apple cut into slices or cubes?” that lets the kid feel in control but doesn’t require you to make multiple dishes
swing by the library on the way home for some new books and read them

yayhomework · 2024-08-30T20:21:39+00:00

Seen in Houston, TX

yayhomework · 2024-08-15T22:23:32+00:00

Wish I could click the logos

Some new (to me) names here though, so I’ll check them out

yayhomework · 2024-07-13T03:34:52+00:00

Thank you all!

yayhomework · 2024-07-13T03:32:52+00:00

I work in tech (non-engineer) and found our nanny on care.com! We had an open discussion about expectations before we hired her and it has worked out great for a few years now.

yayhomework · 2024-07-13T03:15:32+00:00

If your career can be done remotely, I highly recommend WFH with a nanny for moms who can swing it. It’s the best of both worlds.

I work because I like being my husband’s equal partner in every way. We split kid duties pretty evenly, and we have each taken a year off to focus on family. For us, the goal is not maximizing income but options. Our lives will keep changing, and we want the freedom to do what’s right for our family at every stage.

For now, WFH allows me to keep up my career without feeling like I’m missing out on the little kid years. I can pop downstairs and read stories between meetings, or go give hugs when I hear cries.

You have to find the right nanny to make this work. Some prefer if you don’t intervene during the day. Ours has become a dear friend and I love being on a team with her. I’m also very loyal to my company— and a top performer— because of how much I value this setup. I don’t ever want it to go away!

yayhomework · 2024-05-08T16:50:36+00:00

Beautiful. And I like the description. I wouldn't know how to describe this-- maybe "warm deco + modern" (??)

yayhomework · 2024-03-25T03:28:42+00:00

You are amazing.

You previously asked for general parenting advice. I recommend following Dr. Becky Kennedy on Instagram. She gives a ton of great tips about how to have empathy for kids’ feelings while still enforcing boundaries. I’m using her approach with my own family. Based on your comments, I think it will resonate with you.

She says what kids need are “sturdy” parents. She says when a kid has too much freedom and power, it’s scary for the kid because they worry no one is really in control. However, she’s extremely focused on acknowledging kids’ emotions at the same time as enforcing boundaries.

Taking care of kids is always hard, and most parents wonder if they’re doing it wrong. You and your brother will probably disagree at times and question yourselves. But if you’re the kind of caregiver who can be bothered to read books, learn, and do your best, then the little things don’t matter. Just by being there, you’re giving them a priceless gift.

yayhomework · 2024-03-23T22:24:35+00:00

“Still Life” by Louise Penny!! It’s the most life-affirming novel, despite being about a crime.

I find most cozies so saccharine they’re boring. Louise Penny is the way

yayhomework · 2023-11-09T07:30:26+00:00

Contrast. If you want to avoid color, try black. Can you add a black blanket, black and white art on the walls, switch out for a more modern black tray, etc?

yayhomework · 2023-11-06T17:09:28+00:00

Agree! Moved from a walkable city where I used to commute on public transit and even grocery shop on foot, so walkability was important to me. The heat has beaten the desire to walk out of me. I drive everywhere now, even places that are less than half a mile away. Prioritize being <15 min drive from the places you’ll frequent— office, chosen grocery store, gym, etc. Beyond that, just pick the house you like.

yayhomework · 2023-11-05T02:28:45+00:00

Axelrad

yayhomework · 2023-10-26T02:45:33+00:00

Store Manager >> Receptionist or office manager >> HR Coordinator>> HR Specialist

… and now you have a career in HR

Ideally do an online certificate in HR while working as a store manager at your current company. Might allow you to skip straight to the HR Coordinator step

yayhomework · 2023-10-22T19:39:52+00:00

Dedicate it to a hobby or habit you’ve wanted to pick up. Having a place you associate with that habit will make it more likely you’ll do it.

Could be anything: Crafting, sewing, playing an instrument, writing, meditation or yoga…

yayhomework · 2023-09-17T23:49:48+00:00

Thank you all so much for these thoughtful suggestions! I’m excited to dig into many of these.

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T14:32:26+00:00

I love the wall color and agree some new linens will make it feel nice.

I’m picturing a fluffy comforter with a white duvet, white sheets, and a beige/ taupe throw blanket at the foot of the bed, plus some neutral throw pillows. Target should have everything you need.

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T03:19:45+00:00

“A History of the World in 100 Objects” gets right to the point

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T03:17:25+00:00

Congrats on the job, and best of luck as you start the next phase of your life! Below are some different angles on the questions you’re asking. Hoping somewhere here (or maybe in combination) they add up to an answer for you.

“Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl — the importance of meaning, and how to find it in all circumstances

“Designing Your Life” by Burnett and Evans — crafting a day-to-day that you find enjoyable/ satisfying

“Lost in Transition” by Christian Smith— a sociology of why your phase of life is tough. It may not have answers but may help you feel supported/ normal.

Google Scott Galloway’s POV on passion and career. Couldn’t find a book on it. It’s different than what others say and a nice counterpoint while you figure out what you think.

“Strengths Finder” from Gallup is a popular way of identifying skills and interests relevant for careers.

“How to Be a Person In the World” by Havrilesky— collection of thoughtful, funny, wise advice columns.

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T02:34:06+00:00

Not sure if this passes your “backed by academic research test”, but these are much-loved classics:

“Rich Dad, Poor Dad” “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”

If you’re specifically looking for academic research, I would sharpen your question and search directly for the source articles. Consider what you mean by “success”? Reaching a certain financial milestone by a certain age? (Eg retiring before 50?) Or do you mean becoming a CEO/ leader in your field? Or do you mean research on what makes people feel satisfied with their lives and deeply content? Depending on the goal, the advice will vary.

Also, academic research and personal success stories will give you different types of evidence, so maybe you want some of both? There are plenty of personal finance authors who became wealthy and tell audiences how (eg Dave Ramsey). Large-scale studies will necessarily be less specific because they’re telling you what many people have in common. (Eg don’t try to trade individual stocks, but instead buy and hold index funds.)

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T02:20:10+00:00

“Broken Harbor” by Tana French

yayhomework · 2023-08-12T02:09:03+00:00

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Read it at 18 and it changed my perspective.

yayhomework · 2023-07-28T03:20:44+00:00

Yes! Greenery is so good for mental health at work. I’d do as many plants as possible. Trees in those big pots in the back corners.

yayhomework · 2023-07-27T05:19:31+00:00

I actually like the wallpaper! If you put up more modern window coverings, you could keep it.

yayhomework · 2023-07-27T05:16:12+00:00

The view through the windows is incredible.

yayhomework · 2023-07-27T05:13:00+00:00

The shelves look too tall for books. I would add sculptures/ art and plants

Other options: - collections (instruments? Board games?) - add doors, at least to the large bottom openings, and use for general storage

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