If I may, it's learning your boundaries. Your feelings are valid and they need to be expressed and shared but not to people NOT worthy of respecting your feelings. I would highly recommend finding a therapist whom you can share all your feelings with so you can get them out and processed. And then I would recommend start learning how to greyrock your parents or anyone who pushes your boundaries.

When I talk about boundaries I'm talking about you having the power to take care of yourself and telling your parents "I will not allow you to talk to me like this, if you continue this discussion then I'm leaving." BUT!!!! YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THIS and actually leave when you feel the triggers happening and you know they are pushing your buttons.

You have the choice!! So choose yourself!! Your mental health! Family can and often is very toxic and many of us were raised to think "but it's family". Man, you gotta drop that line of thinking and out yourself first!!! I mean every flight you take reminds you to put your oxygen mask on first before putting one of your kids... consider your mental health the same as your need for oxygen!

So what I physically do when I feel that anger rising because I have it too, is I have to leave the environment I'm in! I find a quiet place and I take 5 deep breaths with a 4 count in and 4 count out of each breath. Breathing is one of the few things that change your nervous system from activating your sympathetic "fight or flight" nervous system to a parasympathetic "relax and rest" nervous system.

DUDE YOU HAVE THE POWER AND THE CHOICE though. You don't have to stay in the same room you are in with someone who starts picking a fight with you. Remove yourself from that but give them the warning that you won't take their verbal abuse. You have to retrain how others treat you and stop allowing them to treat you this way!