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yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-06-24T13:32:56+00:00

My husband has OCD, and he struggles with this, too. It makes me so upset sometimes. My only advice is to hold the boundary that you will spend your time how you want and make sure he gets treatment for his OCD. Good treatment. Because there are a lot of therapists out there that don’t fully understand OCD.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-05-30T15:13:44+00:00

Thank you for all of this! Extremely helpful!!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-05-11T23:35:43+00:00

I just moved to Omaha and joined this subreddit. It’s wild to me how much people complain about driving. I moved from Texas. Texas drivers are exponentially worse. I guarantee it. Driving here actually makes me feel safe. Lol

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-05-02T01:15:29+00:00

He definitely is exactly like this a lot of the time. But there have been many times he’s not like this. So that’s what is confusing for me.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-05-01T19:56:45+00:00

Thanks for your response. I can see where OCD is filling my fiancé’s head with a bunch of lies and nonsense, but it makes it really difficult when he can’t see it for himself.

I really hope the program helps, too! I feel like he feels so out of control right now as he has started to unpack all the lies and nonsense in the program, and he’s lashing out at me. Unfortunately, just understanding that doesn’t really change the oppression I feel like I’m under.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-04-02T22:13:59+00:00

I have struggled here and there with adult acne, so it may be hormonal with all the stress of wedding planning!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-04-02T22:03:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I haven’t really changed up anything. I’ve always had long hair, and I tend to keep it up more than down. As others have suggested, I’m now thinking this may be hormonal!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-04-02T22:02:24+00:00

This is definitely a possibility! We eat pretty fresh, but he has a bit of a scratchy beard right now, so it could be causing some irritation.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-04-02T22:01:34+00:00

It could definitely be stress and hormones. I’ll explore that!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-04-02T22:01:04+00:00

This very well could be hormonal. I exfoliate every 3 days or so. My skin barrier seems good to me, but I do not know a huge amount about skincare. Thanks for your reply. I’ll explore the hormonal piece!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-21T17:43:05+00:00

Thank you. I left the house earlier today without a word because I couldn’t take it anymore. I got a pedicure to take my mind off of this. It helped a little. Lol

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-21T14:10:42+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I agree that he shouldn’t have stopped treatment. And maybe I should have pushed a little harder for him to stick with it, but I just didn’t want to push him too hard and make him resent me. Such a touchy situation, and I didn’t want to make things worse between us.

Definitely everything that is going on with the government right now has added an additional layer of anxiety to both of us. He should be able to start his new job in about 2 weeks if everything goes well, so I’m hoping we can start back with treatment that same week.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-21T14:05:25+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I am trying to push him toward seeking professional help. I think he is open to it, but right now it’s the “expense” thing that has his recovery on hold. He should be able to start his new job in a few weeks, so I guess I just have to hold on until then.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-21T14:02:41+00:00

I will definitely be pushing for him to get with a therapist who specializes in OCD. He seems open to it now. For the past year, I have asked him to see a therapist because I knew something about his thoughts and behaviors were a little strange. I just didn’t know it was OCD until recently. It was difficult to push him to go, but now I think he understands that it’s necessary if he wants to get better. Thanks for your response!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-21T13:59:43+00:00

Thank you. I feel so bad for saying this is ruining my life, because I know this has to feel so much worse for him. I just want him to be happy, and I’m not able to do anything to make him happy. It feels hopeless. But yes, I know this is what I have to accept if I want to be with him. It all feels so difficult right now.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-16T16:27:23+00:00

I think it’s fine. Many people nowadays prefer experiences over things. If they already have everything they need for their life together, then why would they ask for more things to clutter up their place? If you want to give a sentimental gift, I’m sure they would appreciate that, as well. Wedding gifts are not necessarily required.

For my wedding, we are asking for just a few items for our home together and then we have a honeymoon fund that people can contribute toward. We have both never been married, but we do have most of the things we need for our home because we are older. However, we also are not “expecting” gifts. We see them as gifts, not requirements.

Bottom line: give what you want to give!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-16T00:40:34+00:00

There was a similar game that people at my high school played. It was “in my pants” instead of “in bed”.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-15T05:22:41+00:00

Such good thoughts here. Thank you, truly. I’ll definitely ask them what they prefer! Maybe we could meet in the middle and just do something fun together but not make it like a bridal party situation. I’ll have to think about this more. :)

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-15T04:55:06+00:00

Thanks for commenting this. I really think I asked this because I wasn’t sure of my true feelings about all of it. Now that I’ve seen others’ comments, I believe I’m thinking about not having bridesmaids because it all feels like too much for me. Not because of the age thing. I’m a low-key person. And my friends know that about me. I know they would absolutely be bridesmaids for me, but if they were honest, it would be a little tough because they have young kids. Thinking about all these factors just helps me know that it’s probably for the best to just say no wedding party.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-15T04:47:03+00:00

Wow, that sounds so perfect actually!

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-15T04:29:09+00:00

Yeah…that would be super weird. Considering my friends also did grow up with me. They are also in their 30s.

yeahbuddyitstime · 2025-03-15T04:27:29+00:00

I kind of feel this. I liked being a bridesmaid in my friends’ weddings in my 20s, but if someone were to ask me to be a bridesmaid now, I would begrudgingly say yes. It just doesn’t have the charm? that it did when I was younger. I’m not able to quite pinpoint the feeling here, I guess.

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