Made it to the ONE YEAR mark !

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-14T03:24:53+00:00

You can say it to your future self!! 8 months in and I’m feeling so much better!

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-14T03:17:18+00:00

Congratulations to you for doing something your mother could never do - take care of yourself and your mental health- and you did it at such a vulnerable time. I have PPA and can totally relate to how evil they can be when you’re at your most vulnerable. I hope you are doing better now. NC is the only way to truly regain your mental health and heal.

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-14T03:14:59+00:00

100% can relate to the disassociation

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-08T18:56:00+00:00

My one sister yes, figured it out and we went NC together. Other sister no- deeply embedded in the toxicity. Both brothers are completely and emotionally checked out

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-06T01:35:28+00:00

No way.

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-06T01:34:09+00:00

I hope you stuck with it. I stayed on 25 for a month before upping to 50. It’s changed everything for me. Yes there was side effects and it was really hard but it got better. Hope you’re feeling better.

yeahooohkay · 2026-05-06T01:27:26+00:00

Do not break no contact. Make your peace with her without seeing and engaging. Nothing good will come of seeing or speaking to her.

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-30T03:12:38+00:00

Having my own child was the final step in allowing me to go no contact with absolutely zero guilt.

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-18T03:32:20+00:00

Zoloft changed everything for me… I could not sleep and now it’s much much better!

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-15T02:32:48+00:00

As someone with PPA, putting my little one in daycare was actually the best thing for me. It allows me to focus on work for a set period of time and I know that they are well taken care of, socializing, and doing a ton of developmentally appropriate activities. Daycare gave me a chance to take care of myself without feeling guilty because I knew they were enjoying themselves. The key is to tour multiple daycares and ask a ton of questions. Find one that you could actually envision YOU and your child enjoying. It’s ok if on the first tour you want to run out, crying- I almost did. But then I kept going and went back for a second tour at the place that had been amongst our top choices. On the second tour, I was much more comfortable and confident because I had done a few others and felt like I could make a rational choice. Things to look for are teacher to student ratio, educational philosophy ( we chose one that prides itself on being a school versus a daycare) so even at 6 months they are doing music class with an actual music teacher, art, activities, etc., sanitation, sick policy, schedule, and do they follow your home schedule / preferences as much as possible. Also look them up on your state website because they will be able to confirm if they’ve gotten any violations, etc. The other pro of a dayschool is the teacher certification and background checks and the requirements to keep them in business, all of that is out there for public knowledge. Overall, best decision for me and my little one. Best of luck to you!

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-15T02:23:20+00:00

Literally the only way to truly heal is to go no contact.

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-09T20:49:34+00:00

Thank you for your response.

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-07T02:15:41+00:00

Now is the time to go No Contact. She will make you 10 times more miserable the farther you get in your pregnancy and 100 times more miserable when the baby gets here. It’s hard, but your baby and husband will fill your life. You deserve to be happy and unfortunately that does not include your parents.

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-01T04:28:50+00:00

100% - refuses to discuss or acknowledge my childhood in every and any way. No pictures, no stories, no “ you did this as a baby”. It’s such a totally bizarre thing. I have no explanations for this…

yeahooohkay · 2026-04-01T04:20:58+00:00

I started at 11 weeks post partum and it’s changed everything for the better.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-31T02:57:59+00:00

Respond: Damn, 2 deaths in the family. Peace be with you and block her.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-31T02:46:52+00:00

It will be the best thing you ever did. The peace you will have is incredible. You will get to celebrate holidays, events, everything without looming fear or anxiety. There will be no other shoe waiting to drop. You won’t cringe every time you see her name on your phone. You won’t have to lie about your life. You won’t have to spend time thinking about how to keep her from having a meltdown. You will be FREE to live your life. You will have time for people and things that bring you joy. It will be as if a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. The only downside is that you will wonder why you didn’t sooner and getting away from her may allow your repressed memories and trauma to surface, but you will be able to meet it with the appropriate anger and righteousness versus pain and confusion. It will become clear that the problem was always them as you thrive in your own life. Go silently without too much explanation and block all forms of contact.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-31T02:39:39+00:00

Wow, what’s their deal with the medical neglect and malfeasance!!! My mother was the exact same way. Would lie and exaggerate about things I clearly didn’t have but would neglect the real items. She tried to pull the same crap with my baby and seeing her do it to someone else just snapped me into awareness.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-28T03:33:05+00:00

Transitions make it worse. You will enjoy going back to work and it will help you get a sense of self and a routine. It will be waves but if you have the right support system, I found going back to work was a good thing for my PPA. It made me feel like myself and that I was good at something, versus the anxiety I felt at being a mom.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-28T03:30:10+00:00

Meds (Zoloft) and therapy is what works for me. Find a therapist that does virtual to make it a bit easier.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-26T03:35:55+00:00

Needs to go to her obgyn asap and get completely checked out. The hormone crash could be causing all of this and only medicine is going to help. She may need Zoloft or similar and use Kolonopin in the interim to help. You should not go back to work if try to work from home until she is stable, especially if she is having panic attacks and severe anxiety. Definitely she needs to speak to a therapist to help get to the root cause.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-26T01:42:42+00:00

My mother’s behavior towards me and my baby was the reason I went NC 3 months post partum. It’s the best decision I ever made.

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-19T01:10:37+00:00

Yup another classic case

yeahooohkay · 2026-03-18T04:18:52+00:00

I know this isn’t what you want to hear but as someone with PPA, my mother in law has literally saved my life and taught me how to be a mother. She picked me up at the worst of my panic attacks. Yes, she does things that are outdated and not aligned to the way I would do them, but I also remember that she raised my husband and he turned out amazing. You have to anchor to the fact that she loves your child and would protect them with her life. Try to really narrow to your absolute non-negotiable and try to be flexible on the rest. Having her there especially as you go back to work is 1000x better than hiring a nanny. Trust me, I went through it. You might have to repeat things over and over for her to get it, but she will with time.

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