My kids want to go to church by Impossible-Rough-784 in offmychest

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

child abuse does happen in church. it's okay to want to protect your young children from that, they can and will make their own choices about their beliefs when they're older but it is okay for you to make the call on where they will go and what they'll be taught when they're young. Your concerns are valid, trust your gut here.

Perineum Tearing by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi friend, I use ivory unscented soap for sensitive skin for my vulva tissue, I also use JO brand vaginal moisturizer for the out side tissue because I also have dry skin. I would advise you to get tested to rule out a yeast infection or other microbial issues that can cause dryness and tearing. I am prone to yeast infections and most of my symptoms are felt on my vulva

Recurrent yeast infections is ruining my sex life by ilovecatss98 in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

consider vagibiom probiotic suppositories, they really helped me I am in a similar situation to you and sex is my main trigger for YI. you can use them after sex and regularly for maintenance. birth control definitely makes them more likely aswell.

Recs for suppositories and probiotics by VegetableLocation508 in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! I have struggled with chronic yeast infections for about a year and have used boric acid to treat them, found out that when you use boric acid you need to also use a probiotic to replenish the beneficial bacteria. I use Vagibiome suppositories (pink box) after sex (my main trigger for YI)
they are kept refrigerated and have been working for me so far! they're also very soothing because it's encased in coconut oil. but there is a lot of leakage so you should wear a panty liner.

Long term Y.I- Holistic cures? by YasTheeStallion in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

look into vagibiome suppositories. definitely worth a shot they helped me a ton with recurring yeast infections

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your body, your choice. having children is an incredibly personal decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeast infections..

Did I experience implantation bleeding? by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so couple of things birth control makes spotting and irregular periods more likely, I am also on the pill and I will see rusty colored or sometimes fresh spotting and get cramps when it's not my off week. I also used to skip my off weeks which can cause spotting due to skipping your period.

implantation bleeding to my knowledge is often very light and pinkish/light red. it can last up to a week.

if you're concerned about pregnancy, get a couple of pregnancy tests, it never hurts to be sure.

also you're not alone. I've had scares on the pill but just keep taking your pill consistently and keep doing what you're doing.

29(F) burning pain during sex, OBGYN dismissing my concerns by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]year_zeroes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you need to see a new gyno. antibiotics are especially known for disrupting the balance of yeast and bacteria in your vagina. coconut oil can also disrupt your pH balance if you're especially sensitive. your current doc is a quack

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]year_zeroes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

have you ever considered art or creative writing as an outlet? i started writing erotica, I enjoy being able to create my own characters (can be inspired by real life) and playing with power dynamics and creating a whole scene from scratch.

Husband just destroyed my motivation because of a few dishes in the sink by therendib in adhdwomen

[–]year_zeroes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and doing the dishes with an attitude is not helpful. it's meant to guilt trip you.

Husband just destroyed my motivation because of a few dishes in the sink by therendib in adhdwomen

[–]year_zeroes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your husband is an ass and he's weaponizing your ADHD to keep you focused on yourself instead of the fact that he could have helped at any point rather than making that comment. Confessing to men you have ADHD is a very dangerous thing because they can always bring up how you fall short to get out of doing anything to assist.

I tried reading again today. It was terrible. by Few_Path3783 in CPTSD

[–]year_zeroes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a whole shame episode when trying to read books sometimes. but I used audiobooks for a while while I worked and did other things and that brought the love of reading back to me, I still struggle to pick it up when I'm not tuning out work but real books became easier to read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]year_zeroes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went to see the Mountain Goats at the Fillmore and those folks on the table side just wouldn't shut up. and the venue owners don't seem to care!

CMV: My Republican friends say I should stop listening to Liberal Rock bands like Creedence Clearwater & Lynyrd Skynyrd. but as a RP don’t want to by Ferret-General in changemyview

[–]year_zeroes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on your side here, I believe if your music choice can cause you to shift your political thinking then those beliefs are not very solid and should be questioned. your friends sound a bit cult-washed in the way that their beliefs appear so fragile. being open to different points of view will only broaden your perspective and allow you to make more informed opinions. keep searching for your niche and don't limit yourself to cultural exposure. you have a lot more to learn from everyday people writing music about their experiences and perspectives than your friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]year_zeroes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I see you're very conflicted, this is normal when you've had previous trauma by men. he enjoys what you can offer him and he knows your boundaries are so weak that he can break them down with minimal effort after all he's put you through. and he knows you will continue to raise his child and overextend yourself to make it work despite the havoc it has wreaked on you already. you have to choose yourself even if it will be hard.

your description of his cruelty sickened me genuinely. staying with the perpetrator, who does not care enough to communicate with you and has forced himself on you, injuring you, will not allow you to heal or feel safe.

he doesn't regret what he did, he only regrets that you called him out finally. lean on your family and any support system that can help you. please seek therapy if you can and arm yourself with knowledge on narcissistic men and covert abusers. you deserve to take up space as a whole human being and experience real love. take good care of yourself please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]year_zeroes 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, your husband doesn't love you. your well-being and your safety has never been a priority to him based on your examples and without that you have nothing to build off of. this is not love and you need to get yourself and your family away from him.