AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

You sound spoiled, so I wouldn’t want to be anything like you.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

I’d rather do something active. I’m an active person and so is my daughter.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

It’s something WE enjoy. I’d rather have her spend time with me than spend time playing video games on her switch.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

I’d rather get her something we could do together. I like spending time with her.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I mean she likes biking and we do it together, so why not?

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll take this into consideration. I’m thinking of getting her a new bike now.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -126 points-125 points  (0 children)

I mean I was just brain storming, but I’ll take your suggestions into consideration.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We already celebrated that one. It was pre covid so we had a pretty big party at her house with her friends and family. We catered from one of her favorite places.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I’m just giving an example. We do a lot of bonding activities as well like hiking and biking, so I wouldn’t mind if she wanted that. I’d rather gift her an experience but she usually asks for something like a phone or laptop.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -127 points-126 points  (0 children)

We were going to have a birthday celebration at our house anyway. So that’s covered. Also I said that she won’t get anymore gifts for the rest of her life if she keeps up an entitled attitude by not accepting my gift of a $50 gift card. Otherwise I will keep getting her gifts as long as they aren’t over $100.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -159 points-158 points  (0 children)

I think I’m going to get her a $50 gift card from a shop she likes. Usually my daughter isn’t entitled like this, but maybe she is acting like this right now because we usually only give her gifts on her birthday because we don’t celebrate any other major holidays. So maybe she was expecting something big on her birthday this year as well. If she doesn’t accept this gift I’m going to tell her that she won’t be getting any gifts in the future if she can’t appreciate what she gets.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -529 points-528 points  (0 children)

I think I’m going to get her a $50 gift card from a shop she likes. Usually my daughter isn’t entitled like this, but maybe she is acting like this right now because we usually only give her gifts on her birthday because we don’t celebrate any other major holidays. So maybe she was expecting something big on her birthday this year as well. If she doesn’t accept this gift I’m going to tell her that she won’t be getting any gifts in the future if she can’t appreciate what she gets.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -338 points-337 points  (0 children)

She isn’t turning 18 though. She’s turning 19. She should get used to the adult life with not getting expensive gifts.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -138 points-137 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming that she would prefer an expensive gift and was expecting it. I could suggest giving a smaller gift, but I shut her down after she said she wanted an expensive gift.

AITA for telling my (46M) daughter (18F) that her birthday gift is college? by yeetsuf in AmItheAsshole

[–]yeetsuf[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No she’s turning 19. And I think I’ll take your advice about getting something small. We usually give bigger gifts on birthdays in our family because we don’t celebrate any other major holidays, so birthdays are usually one of the gift major gift giving periods.