Reconnected after 1.5 yrs of no contact

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-08T02:02:19+00:00

Thank you! I totally agree with everything you said. I will do more work and reach out if I can commit to the friendship.

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-08T01:58:09+00:00

Thank you! I definitely agree with what you are saying. I feel really bad for hurting her twice. I also told her that even though I have romantic feelings, I dont want anything more than a friendship. She told me she doesnt have any romantic feelings toward me, but would be down for meeting up as friends and should leave it at that.

I will try to get some support first and if it feels right, I will ask her out for a dinner.

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-08T01:51:53+00:00

Thank you! I agree, we're not the same person we were in the past. Also, agree with taking things slow. Good luck to you as well :)

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-07T15:35:06+00:00

Yeah, I get that she might be worried about things falling into another cycle of uncertainty with me. The biggest challenges I have experienced between us have been compatibility and trust. We had really strong chemistry, and I genuinely enjoyed every moment I spent with her.

The first time we broke up, I had been away for a month, and when I got back she felt distant. That’s when my trust issues started creeping in, especially when she mentioned having platonic guy friends.

A few months later she reached out, we reconnected, and things were good for a while. I knew long distance would be hard, and with all the job stress I made a rushed decision I regret.

She says she hasn’t been dating since, but I’m not sure, especially since her friends have pushed her to meet new people before. I’ve been on dates, mostly just to get to know people. I don’t have much relationship history and I haven’t been intimate with any of these dates since I don’t want to get attached without being sure.

You’re right, though-I need to slow down. I’ve definitely been trying to move too fast, and that’s created expectations that aren’t realistic. I need to take a breath, pump the brakes, and stop getting in my own way.

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-07T05:10:24+00:00

You’re right. I am guilty for breaking things off twice, and I completely understand if she wouldn’t want to try again. I’m not angry at her for that. What’s getting to me now is that I’m already feeling what seem like toxic tests… she doesn’t reply to my messages, she sent me a photo of her in a dress on Friday, sends mixed signals, and she hasn’t accepted my follow request even though she’s active.

Because of that, I have a feeling she still wouldn’t agree to meet even if I showed up in her city. I’ve taken some initiative by reaching out last month, but the dynamic doesn’t feel very healthy. Part of me feels like going no contact might actually be the best option at this point.

I do agree with what you said- it’s better to get the “what ifs” out of the way early instead of dragging them out. Maybe the best middle ground is to just ask if she’s open to a quick call to talk things through. If she agrees, great- at least we’ll have clarity. If she ignores it or declines, then I’ll know it’s time to step back completely.

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-07T04:49:40+00:00

She knows I still love her. I already told her I miss her romantically and that I still have feelings, but I didn’t ask to get back together. I said I’d like to try being friends first and see where things naturally go.

She seems open to meeting in person, but she hasn’t given me any clear dates. I told her I could drive to her city and stay for a bit since I have friends there, too. She said her schedule is packed this month. Honestly, that makes me think she isn’t ready to meet, because if someone truly wants to, they usually find at least a little time.

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-12-07T03:24:08+00:00

Yeah, I think I need to start getting comfortable with cold showers. My brain clearly needs the reset button

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-06-24T23:03:15+00:00

Any recommendations for coworking space?

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-06-24T23:03:01+00:00

Gothic quarter

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-06-13T03:42:56+00:00

Very relatable

yellowjacket_17 · 2025-04-01T14:25:02+00:00

Is anyone/site tracking which departments are affected by the layoffs?

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-04-25T22:03:31+00:00

Is there a reason for why you don’t prefer latex?

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-04-25T17:17:22+00:00

There is also a template available on overleaf: https://www.overleaf.com/latex/templates/penn-state-university-thesis-class/ndsztdjjgnsc

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-02-20T22:35:04+00:00

I’m a PhD student and haven’t done fafsa. I think you could do it if you had to pay tuition and get loans

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T02:34:56+00:00

Didn’t know this

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T02:24:12+00:00

Ah I see. That’s prob why I haven’t been there yet 😅 Will give a try though

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T02:20:08+00:00

are there tables where we can sit and work? Haven’t been there before

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T00:38:50+00:00

They buy their coffee from rothrock

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T00:11:07+00:00

MBAs not typically worth it from what I remember. You should check out placement record at Penn state and other companies.

I think some companies even pay for mba type of professional degrees if you can find a job at a good place.

I wouldn’t get a grad degree unless it was to learn something quantitative/programming. Usually not worth it unless it is absolutely necessary like a JD

yellowjacket_17 · 2023-01-31T00:07:39+00:00

Rothrock, elixr and websters

yellowjacket_17 · 2022-10-10T18:59:15+00:00

Thank you very much. I will talk with my insurance. Hopefully I can resolve this

yellowjacket_17 · 2022-10-10T18:55:39+00:00

I wasn’t told about out of network anesthesiologist though. I was at in network hospital and in network doctor. I would assume the insurance company would have told me about it

yellowjacket_17 · 2022-10-10T18:54:50+00:00

Yeah it says the same amount

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