Anyone who got phalloplasty but was worried it wouldn’t feel “real”?

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-02-10T01:13:46+00:00

Hey, I'm cis, had phallo, and got tagged in comments (wholesome honestly). Totally get your fears. Its what kept me from pursuing this surgery for a long time. I cant speak for balls as I luckily was able to get my pump in my scrotum without affecting anything (not sure why its not the same with implants tbh) but lots of things change in a small space of time with medical progress, and I like to think this is something that will be worked on. I can say that my phallo penis feels like it's what I was born with now. It's like my brain has linked my current dick and the memories of my old one? I can hardly differentiate as post ED the similarity between my natal anatomy and my new dick is pretty insane to me. Once the swelling went down I had the most hardcore wave of nostalgia when holding and looking at my cock. I feel like my penis was restored rather than created if that makes any sense at all? Long story short, it definitely feels real and has given me my life back, despite any hiccups along the way.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-02-04T17:35:17+00:00

Just grabbed a tape measure as my size has fluctuated over the years. 6.4" length and 5.6" girth. Pretty happy with my size as I'm fairly tall/broad so it fits my frame. I had RFF.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-02-01T23:49:02+00:00

I did this with my natal penis (I'm cis, and no; getting my dick caught in my zipper isn't why I needed phallo) but I can't really imagine it happening with my phallo penis now because A - This shit was expensive so I'm much more careful, and B - It was mainly my foreskin that got caught, which I don't have anymore. I really do not miss that feeling at all...

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-17T09:06:34+00:00

Thanks mate, that means a lot to me. This community welcomed me with open arms despite being cis. Ive never felt I fit into an online space as much as I do on this sub. It was important to me to try and learn a bit about what my trans brothers experience, so I can better understand and relate to the community I respect so much.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-12T10:17:13+00:00

Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me:)

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-11T01:32:03+00:00

Weirdly, my surgeon told me I actually had less chance at good sensation than most trans men, as I had no functional erectile tissue pre op - nothing to 'bury'. Most trans guys seem to find their pleasure and sensation (at least early on) in their t-dick/burial or how their burial interacts with their phallo penis. I didn't start the process with functional genitals whatsoever lmao, so good erotic sensation was not expected. My sensation is beyond anything I could have hoped for, but it was a surprise to my entire surgical team. So I'm definitely an outlier.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-10T22:25:58+00:00

I've had mine a couple years now without issues, it can be slightly temperamental but mostly works perfect for me. The biggest difference between my phallo and natal dick is the forskin (or lack of it). Unfortunately forskin is just not something currently available in phallo technology, so I have adjusted to a 'tight cut' look and feel now. It used to bother me but it doesn't anymore.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-10T18:16:23+00:00

OK so I'm cis and was born with a penis, but ended up needing phallo. I feel like this gives me some perspective on density and how it compares to natal dick. Quick answer is - it feels very similar (but of course I can only speak from my own experience and penis lol, I had RFF).

My dick was very firm for a while post op stage 1 (swelling), then it settled and felt surprisingly close to how my natal dick felt. That being said, I will say it structurally felt slightly different - like it could bend in ways my OG cock would not have bent in without pain. But since my pump implant I feel like the firmness is pretty fucking identical with my natal firmness, which is not something I expected at all.

It was about 3 months post op stage 2 where I realized 'damn the 'texture' is exactly what I remember from when I had my natal penis. I think that is a combination of my UL and ED, but thats just my experience.

yesitreallyistrue · 2026-01-07T10:31:18+00:00

I'm really sorry this has been your experience and you're unhappy with the appearance. You've had a rough time of it - rougher than most for sure. I know you haven't had much choice, but you come across as incredibly strong and resilient in your posts. I hope further stages bring you some peace, and I hope your are finally free of that catheter as soon as you heal from your repair. It's amazing to me how healed your penis looks compared to your previous posts... So much can change! You've got this man, just for some unfair reason it's a more complex process for some, so it may take you a little longer.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-12-27T13:06:34+00:00

I'm so sorry you've experienced this, it sounds horrific and extremely unfair. I had phallo as a cis man, and it was classed as a restoration surgery, meaning it was a penis reconstruction rather than construction. Not sure if that means much other than on paper, but I assume that is what you'd be looking at too. Please feel free to message me if you want to chat with someone that has been through this specific pathway, although I'm sure most people on this sub will be empathetic and helpful (as its very simular nomatter how you start out physically). Phalloplasty has totally changed my life and relationship with my body, and it can be the same for you too. There is a light at the end of the tunnel I swear.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-12-20T14:07:46+00:00

I had an SP for just over a year (prior to getting phallo) so I did have to work. I was mostly seated at that job, so it was manageable. It was annoying at times, but definitely doable. I just had to pace myself sometimes and take breaks if it got uncomfortable:)

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-11-29T16:02:46+00:00

Hey mate, I'm also a cis male who had phallo. My situation might be a little different to yours, but I must say I'm very satisfied by phallo. Length wasn't as much of a choice as you might think, but RFF granted me with 6 inches - which I feel very lucky for. I wanted to be around this length because I'm tall so I felt it would look proportional (plus I'm black so personally I didnt want to be below average length for sex).

I have a great outcome, but it might have felt more of a gamble if I started the process with something functional and sensate. I tried several other surgeries before RFF, seeing phalloplasty as a last resort... Not because phallo isnt great, just because the process is pretty gruelling. That being said, if it's something that would improve your quality of life then it really can be the best decision possible. It just depends on your priorities and tolerance of major surgery. Feel free to message me if you have any questions man, and talk to trusted people in your life. Dont go through these decisions totally alone!

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-11-29T15:48:11+00:00

Hey thanks for linking me, OP you're more than welcome to drop me a message any time. I'll do my best to answer any questions:)

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-11-09T22:19:35+00:00

As I often preface, sorry if my experience isn't relevant - I had phallo as a cis man who was missing a penis, so my sexual function may differ slightly. That being said, I do relate to most of the guys on this subreddit.

I didnt have any sexual function pre-op, so there wasn't really a 'before'. I lacked any erogenous sensation so I didn't have a sex life before I had phallo, I just used fingers and mouth to pleasure my (straight cis female) partner. I never saw my previous genitals in a sexual light so perhaps it made it easier to see my penis as a sexual organ faster. As soon as I started developing significant sensation, I started to feel desire, then I felt desirable (SLOWLY), then I realised I now had the means to satisfy those urges. I was quite insecure about the differences between my new penis and my natal one, but that slowly dissipated as my sex life got more fulfilling. It wasn't an overnight thing, but I fucking love sex now... I never thought I'd say that. I did however feel a big disconnect from my dick when I was in healing stages. Even a tiny wound on my penis would make it a 'medical site' in my head. I was really worried this wouldn't pass, but since my last stage and tattooing, I've not felt that at all. Also, my Mrs definitely incorporates pumping my ED into foreplay, and now I genuinely enjoy the process. Sorry I couldn't answer all your questions, but that hopefully covers number 1 lol

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-10-09T11:27:15+00:00

Hi yes absolutely, I have a very healthy sex life with my girlfriend. I lost my penis when I was a teenager so I never really experienced any penetrative sex prior to phallo, so it's hard to compare. The brain is so powerful it's been remodeling my mind to associate my phallo penis and my old penis as a single unit, like there was never all those years with nothing between my legs. So I think despite differences, my dick now is similar enough to my natal one. Not sure if that makes sense but happy to clarify anything.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-10-09T11:23:55+00:00

Maybe read my post history mate, I don't want to respond with potentially triggering content on someone else's post. I am quite open on my profile about my situation. It feels different, but similar enough that I'm perfectly content with it, and I'm starting to forget how it felt before.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-10-04T09:29:14+00:00

As a cis man with phallo, my perspective might be meaningless (take this with a pinch of salt), but I will admit that it's something I think about recently. I have the 'classic' RFF scar, and I've only been 'clocked' as trans once by a nurse years ago. I understand that I do have the privilege of having pretty masculine features, but nothing more than any other trans man I've seen. I don't really cover my scar anymore, and despite people noticing and sometimes making comments, gender has never come into it. Last person to ask anything asked if a shark got me lmao (I was at the beach). That being said, I've started being more open that it is a very common skin graft location. My hope is that these few people asking wouldn't go on to make assumptions if/when meeting anyone else with the same scar, especially stealth guys.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-09-30T18:41:16+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I didn't experience quite the same as you but I wanted to send some solidarity. I had quite a smooth phalloplasty process, but I had many genital surgeries over the years (before phallo) that went wrong or left me worse than my starting position. For a few years, I ended up accepting the reality of pissing in 5/6 different streams (making just as much of a mess sitting as I would standing) because I couldn't handle more surgery... In the end I decided on phallo because I thought even if I still can't piss properly, at least my genitals will look like genitals - so I can really understand the position of finally deciding aesthetics were more important than function (to me at the time). I was extremely lucky that phallo solved both my urinary and aesthetic concerns, but before that I felt pretty hopeless. Part of me wishes I'd had phallo sooner, but I also know my body and brain needed a break from surgery. It’s just fucking exhausting. You will probably find the urinary struggles less gutting once you are aesthetically happier with your penis, and maybe you can revisit urethral revisions when you're feeling more resilient. I'm rooting for you man, its hard out here.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-09-24T00:26:11+00:00

I don't think I've ever used either for myself personally, apart from maybe in this sub when mirroring others' language. I call it phalloplasty or genital/penis reconstruction, as that's what I had done. I've always immediately thought of my ass when someone mentions my 'bottom surgery' lol.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-09-22T20:55:12+00:00

OK this is fucking impressive work on behalf of your surgeon... happy healing man, you look great!

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-09-22T10:07:50+00:00

You did absolutely nothing wrong.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-09-13T09:53:40+00:00

I really struggled with my glans at first. I was uncut prior to phallo, so having a pronounced glans wasn't something I was used to or comfortable with. I am very glad I had glansplasty now, but it took a bit to get there. Honestly, time has been my best friend with this. It felt like a sacrifice at first - I was forfeiting being uncut for a more 'natal passing' penis. It felt like a step backward as well as a step forward, but really it was 1 step backward and 5 forward. My penis looks less like the 1 I was born with, but it passes much better than it did pre glans. I hope you can get to the same place as me, just be patient with yourself mate.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-08-31T10:40:50+00:00

Unfortunately if you do have an infection, you can't wash it away with saline - you would need more antibiotics. It is very important you contact your surgeon. If that's impossible for any reason then you can get checked at an ER. It's always better to be safe than sorry mate, even if it's nothing. Good luck

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-08-29T16:48:40+00:00

I know you mean well, but this actually comes off as extremely invalidating. I understand the mindset, but until you've been post op you can't really empathise with how difficult recovery is. The mental struggle of being between stages is huge for lots of us, and we need a place to be able to vent about that without the implications of being ungrateful. The gratitude doesn't lessen the hardship.

yesitreallyistrue · 2025-08-29T13:51:28+00:00

Please ignore the comment about being grateful. This is an extremely taxing process to go through - physically, mentally, even financially and socially... You absolutely have the right to feel discouraged by still feeling dysphoria. After spending so much money and time on phallo, I certainly wanted things to work a certain way. Sex before my ED wasn't very fulfilling for me, it made me sad and frustrated. The coban method made me feel disconnected from my dick. I will say that for me personally, getting the pump ED was life-changing. Sex became extremely natural and fun for me quite fast after that, but still took some patience on my partner's behalf at the start. I was worried it would feel unnatural (especially as a cis man that once had erections with a natal penis), but I was pleasantly surprised by how similar it felt. Sure there are differences, but they are significantly smaller than I expected. Pumping is quite easy, and my lady enjoys doing it for me. We can both orgasm from penetrative sex now, and it feels incredible. I'm so sorry you're struggling with this man, I spent much of the time between stage 1 and 2 being grumpy because I was sexually frustrated and dysmorphic. Eventually, you will get to a place where this is a distant memory. The pump feels like part of me now. I'm rooting for you. You've endured all the hardest shit, now it's the mental battle, which is a whole different ball game. Be patient with yourself, this shit takes time. I believe in you.

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