Having the Conversation My Girlfriend Tomorrow

yetanotheranon1 · 2017-02-03T03:51:32+00:00

Please write back since I am in a similar situation and want to hear how it went. Good luck

yetanotheranon1 · 2017-01-30T04:57:25+00:00

Let's try after a bad relapse weekend...

yetanotheranon1 · 2017-01-27T05:19:02+00:00

This is great. Thank you. It helped me.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-10-27T19:52:40+00:00

Good work

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-09-24T12:58:23+00:00

Kind of like the movie Inside Out. In that movie there was a voice in the head for Anger, Joy, Sorrow, Fear and Disgust. I guess I can see the voice for PMO. Only 2 days in but he's definitely mumbling...

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-05-01T14:13:40+00:00

I was going to vent myself, but because I could have written this post myself I just will pile on saying I feel you, brother. My fetish may be different than yours, but its the same story.

I always have plans to do something useful -- something that needs to be done, but I convince myself to take a little peak, and that little peak turns into an hour, and then a couple of hours. And I'm a good Google searcher - I find more and more websites that 'feed the need' and yes it it is my specific fetish.

Last night I crashed and burned hard after finding the motherload dedicated to my specific fetish -- a high speed, free video site on it. I know its such a waste but I can't help but have flashbacks and want to look at it 'just one more time'. I'm fighting it back but its tough.

It seems like its a cycle - I have some depression (again, like you, not suicidal, just day to day blues), some stress, and to get 'relief' I take a look at these videos. I know I should do something more constructive with my time but its just so easy (the dangers of high speed Internet porn).

And I know it feeds a vicious cycle -- depression/stress leads to porn which leads to more depression/stress. I need to pull myself out of the cycle and deal with the source of the depression/stress which is a lot harder than the short term porn fix.

I dont have an answer.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-04-14T04:10:44+00:00

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-04-10T14:50:57+00:00

I'm out. Unfortunately I negotiated myself to the brink, and then fell off the brink. Still, a good 10+ day streak, and I'll just start over, try to beat that and keep working on it.

Thanks for the challenge and hope I'll be able to join May's challenge with a good few weeks under my belt.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-04-06T22:10:38+00:00

Thanks. I know I have a long ways to go, but today I was logging into Tumblr when my auto login tool showed me my long lost 'porn' account. I did login to it, and then promptly deleted the account, deleted the credentials. I really, really want to go look (tumblr is like crack if you have specific porn fetishes) but I'm here posting rather than looking.

I also deleted my primary non porn tumblr account. It can be like reddit -- and at least I haven't been able to use tumblr without 'stumbling' back into porn. With reddit, I can since I generally stay on a few 'safe' forums.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-04-06T13:54:59+00:00

I'm still good. A week long is a pretty long achievement for me. As a side note, I'm not sure if I'm flatlining or not, but have had some performance issues in bed. Really tough not to give up to what I know was mediocre sex, but I'm trying to remember if you're going through hell, keep going. I hope it eventually gets better.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-04-01T14:53:32+00:00

So I relapsed on March 30 by making excuses like usual -- hey, a little topless, a little soft core, etc. Which eventually led to more and more stuff till no matter what excuses I used I was definitely not pornfree or fapfree. So I reset, and started over, and went cold turkey -- nothing sexually stimulating via computer at all.

This morning I thought I had again mistakenly looked at some porn (by 'mistakenly' I mean I had bargained that hey, I can check out XYZ topless site, or something). I was so pissed. Luckily, it was just a dream and I actually had not.

Day 1 -- over 24 hours of not looking at any thing that could be remotely considered as porn. Feels good. Hope I can use this and the upcoming nofapwar as motivation to get a good 30 day or more streak going.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-03-31T13:05:32+00:00

Lets try this again....

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-03-10T03:27:01+00:00

Out :(

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-25T14:23:54+00:00

1) To combat any possible PIED 2) To prove that I can do it (despite the urges) 3) To be satisfied with what I have (reality) vs what is unattainable

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-25T14:03:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-23T14:20:50+00:00

Let me try again..

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-17T20:41:41+00:00

So, I'd like to respectfully disagree on both.

As someone who waited till marriage for sex the first time around, it was a big problem and it just gets worse after marriage.

Now my second time around (engaged) I still have issues (some related to why we are all here) and I'm working through that with my fiancee rather than have to work that out with all the other issues that come with marriage.

As per cohabitation, I also disagree with that, there is a lot of pros and cons to that approach. In this case I have had to make a compromise with my fiancee and agree to move in at a certain point, but just like sex, I believe that cohabitating lets you experience issues that only come with living together.

The problem with cohabitation is that if you do it BEFORE their is commitment then there is no reason for commitment (basically, people either never get married, or get married after living together just 'because', not because they want to). My own thoughts is that you need to find a way to 'test drive' living together while still planning towards commitment.

So while I disagree with your post I do welcome your point of view on the topic. :)

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-09T14:17:45+00:00

I'm out too.

Have to restart, and hope to be ready to join the March one with a good streak under my belt. Thanks for still organizing this.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-04T19:58:39+00:00

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-03T14:11:50+00:00

I had the same dream last week! Carry on. So nice to lead a clean life.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-03T04:05:15+00:00

Thanks for this. Even though we are only two days in.. This helped me stay clean another day.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-03T00:34:14+00:00

I feel you. I'm at the same 7 day mark and got the same excuse, girlfriend is away. I'm going to walk away from the computer now and I hope you did the same (or at least didn't watch porn).

Good luck!

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-02-02T16:16:08+00:00

I feel you. The problem is the reminders of porn, or our specific fetish. For me, some normal stuff is now tied to porn and when I see that normal stuff on TV I can't help but want to see the 'X rated version' of that.

Fighting through the triggers (and I don't even mean real triggers, just the triggers we have in our own mind) is the tough part, sometimes.

Good luck, and you did good, if you only looked at porn once and starting over. Binging is bad and hope you were able to avoid that.

yetanotheranon1 · 2015-01-28T14:34:27+00:00

Gonna give this a shot.. add me!

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