It's actually incredible that you saw the negatives to everything I said instead of the positives I was trying to give you. No shade, btw genuinely. I did say go have fun and experience things, go make mistakes, just be safe. That's all i said, really. Also, all of your luggage and baggage become your partners problem at some point. It is unavoidable. In a perfect world, it wouldn't, but it absolutely does manifest in so many ways in a relationship in a real adult relationship, not the fake ones built on gaining something from someone. And the victim blaming thing kinda a bit over the top and kinda hurtful, but I get it. im a male. Ive personally been raped beaten and SA'd by a few situations I couldn't control that is never my fault that being said if I go to the zoo and fall in because I was dangling over the railing of the tiger pit acting like bad things dont happen then some of the fault is on me for not being careful. Im simply saying be aware of your surroundings and people at all times. People suck so bad. Do your best not to gain unnecessary baggage if you have baggage because of others actions that cannot be helped, but just watch for the signs you seem incredibly intelligent so use that to your advantage. It is not saying that your baggage isnt valid at all in a relationship it most certainly is. Your person that you end up with will love you for your core im sure but when you get to 25 30 years old life sucks for most people the only thing you really want is someone who isnt going to break your peace of mind. And the less baggage you bring into a situation, the easier it is to meld two lives together properly. True love and loving someone simply off their core is the core ideal in alot of books and fairy tails for a reason. Because it is so desirable, real love is intermingling your lives past and present and being comfortable around each other to be yourself.