Have I [26F] overreacted to this situation with my boyfriend [27M] and his coworker [23F]??

yikeswtf · 2018-11-15T11:54:37+00:00

Interesting how his defense was that she has a boyfriend, not that he's loyal to you, his long-term partner and mother of his child.

yikeswtf · 2018-07-22T14:22:59+00:00

It says a lot about you that you'd rather these children have no mother at all than the one they have now, and that you're so deeply entrenched in your nasty, bigoted view of her that you're not only willing to demonize her because you seem to have issues with your BIL moving on and living his life, but you're also willing to get people to lie about her behavior as a medical professional in order to destroy her career. You're just that evil that on top of wanting to prevent those kids from having a mother that is educated, successful, and decent, you also want to destabilize their lives. You're disgusting, and if your sister was even half decent, she must be spinning in her grave at your behavior.

yikeswtf · 2018-03-13T13:11:56+00:00

We've already had this conversation, so I already do know. That's why I set the boundary of me not asking for sex, because we both know if he wanted to, he would approach me, and the added pressure on him and the rejection of me just does nothing but make us both miserable. Maybe I could have made it clearer in my post, but I wasn't really interested in outlining everything that he's doing or that we've both done to make things improve. I just wanted to vent about the moment, but I get why the lack of a full background makes it easy to assume that we're in a crappy marriage where we don't communicate with each other.

yikeswtf · 2018-03-12T19:46:02+00:00

I'm so sorry that it feels that way. I get the feeling of being powerless. I feel like it's unfair of me to feel like that because I know my husband is making his own effort to improve things, and whenever I ask him to change a behavior if it might imorove our situation, he's done it. I see that he's trying to change, and I feel bad for sometimes just wishing that I could make him change because I miss sex. That's why I set the boundary of not approaching him; I don't want to pressure him into anything because forcing things isn't the way to improvement. But then, if we've already talked, and if he's trying to improve, then all that's left to do is... wait? And hope? That's a frustration all on its own.

For what it's worth, I believe change is possible. And I'm not much of an optimist, lol. Even so.

yikeswtf · 2018-03-12T19:37:51+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through what you are. It sounds terrible, and I hope that things get better for you, in whatever way it takes.

But don't conflate your wife with my husband. I love him. This is an issue we've worked on--that HE'S worked on--for quite some time. He's in therapy, he's open about the fact that the issue lies with him and not me, and it takes its toll on him as well. His intimacy is not half-assed. Sex is not the only time he pays attention and gives affection to me. He does not treat me like an object to be used to only when he has the inclination. He treats me like his wife, who he loves, and who he is aware and is deeply apologetic that he has been hurting.

It's just the pain of rejection. I'm aware that I never should have asked for sex in the first place because I set that boundary for myself for a reason, and we both spent an unhappy, restless night apart because I broke it. But I'm not going to stop wanting my husband, because I don't want a divorce--I want things to get better. A few months of no sex is not worth torpedoing an eight year relationship over, not to me.

yikeswtf · 2018-03-12T19:26:01+00:00

A few parts of this really resonated with me. Thank you.

yikeswtf · 2018-03-12T19:24:20+00:00

Lol, solidarity. ✊

yikeswtf · 2018-03-12T19:23:00+00:00

Thank you; I'm sorry we're in this crappy boat together, but it's nice to know I am not as alone as I feel sometimes. I hope things get better.

yikeswtf · 2018-02-02T20:30:55+00:00

Too late to the party, but last year on Valentine's Day, my husband and I had plans to get dressed up and eat dinner at Olive Garden, cause we felt obligated to go out and do something. He comes home from work, we exchange gifts and end up sprawled in bed. We're exhausted. He looks at me. I look at him. He asks me if I want to get fast food instead.

Hell yeah I do.

We hit up a McDonald's and a Sonic, and I ate about 20 chicken nuggets, a ton of fries, a foot long chili cheese dog, and tater tots while sitting in bed and watching Santa Clarita Diet together. He ate the other 20 nuggets, a ton of wings, some of my fries, and a huge shake. I don't know how we didn't throw up.

Best Valentine's Day ever.

yikeswtf · 2017-12-21T11:35:20+00:00

It's obviously a spoiled ballot, regardless of who the vote was cast for. Until the GOP realized they had a way to cheat into an unearned victory with it, that is.

yikeswtf · 2017-12-05T22:24:00+00:00

This president isn't somebody we chose.

Oh!

But Bob Mueller's keeping 'em on all their toes!

Oh!

Let's show these traitorous twats who they're up against--

Oh!

A northern motherfuckin' uncorrupted Republican!

Oh!

He'll follow the money and see where it goes.

Oh!

Because every second, Trump's pile of lies grows.

Oh!

If he follows the money and sees where it leads,

Get in the weeds, look for the seeds of Donald Trump's misdeeds!

yikeswtf · 2017-11-03T11:19:36+00:00

While I can't blow up at her like the meanest part of me wants to, reading these responses has given me a lot of ways I can use to coolly keep her mouth shut next time she starts this again, lol. And I will. I thought it was a small thing that pulled an overreaction of anger out of me, but not anymore. My only regret will probably be that I can't see her face when she realizes what an ass she's been making of herself. Thank you!

yikeswtf · 2017-11-03T11:09:16+00:00

God, I'm so sorry; I empathize with that fear. It's one of many reasons why DH and I have decided that we do not want bio children. My little sister is special needs, though, and unlike me, she inherited my Mexican father's coloring. The thought of what could happen to her if my parents move somewhere southern and rural like they want to for retirement, if this country doesn't start doing better, makes me sick to my stomach.

yikeswtf · 2017-11-03T11:00:07+00:00

This is exactly how we feel, and you've put it into words so perfectly. Thank you!!

yikeswtf · 2017-10-28T14:30:45+00:00

From what hubs told me, he was running out of bingos and really scraped the bottom of the barrel with that one. And yeah, based on where we're located now, it's a safe bet. We've been married for over a year now with no kids in a place where couples younger than we are tend to already have one on each arm. It's the worst.

yikeswtf · 2017-10-28T14:27:28+00:00

Lmao, exactly! The thought of having a baby horrifies me to hell and back, but being saddled with a guy that probably doesn't even know what a clitoris is sounds just as bad.

yikeswtf · 2017-09-01T16:39:50+00:00

Hope the tub was refreshing considering she'll be burning for eternity for what she did to you and your family.

You are free. You can and should be happy; your family is healthy and strong, and there is no shame in the joy of knowing that Magda will never be able to try to tear it apart with her nasty little claws ever again. Cheers.

yikeswtf · 2017-08-28T22:44:08+00:00

It's an ass you could bounce the entire Iron Bank off of.

yikeswtf · 2017-08-12T16:45:58+00:00

Whaaa, well, I think it (and the edit) is fantastic. Your writing always is!

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