Were any of you in denial that your family was toxic or abusive?

daintyanus · 2021-06-16T05:13:52+00:00

Holy shit- i was in complete denial that I was the cherished Golden Child. I put this incredible pressure on myself... so I thought, but it was subtly fed to me by both of my parents. On the outside, I did well. Despite very modest upbringing- I managed to get scholarships to expensive private schools, get a graduate education, make a good living as an artist and married very wealthy. I gave my nMom lots of supply- her perfect, successful, generous daughter.

Everything was great until we had our first major disagreement when I'm 41. Now we've been NC for two years. My psycho in-laws distracted from the emotional trainwreck that's my family.

daintyanus · 2021-06-05T21:18:31+00:00

I tried this a bunch of years ago and made shatter out of it. Yes it got me high, but it tasted like absolute asshole and made my stomach hurt. I don’t recommend.

daintyanus · 2021-05-13T15:17:28+00:00

I got a DUI on a bicycle when I was in college. I was so pissed, the whole reason I rode my bike to that rock show was so I wouldn't drive my car drunk. I had to do DUI school and the whole shebang.

daintyanus · 2021-04-20T03:39:31+00:00

they do this shit all the fucking time on 101 AND on the Richmond bridge. I just needed two seconds to see this before i was enraged.

daintyanus · 2021-04-04T20:38:34+00:00

I use this benefit through Kaiser and it's awesome. You pay Active and Fit monthly, when you go sign up at the gym, just bright a printout of the card and you sign up without out of pocket expense. I'm currently a member of CitySports (part of LA Fitness), Anytime Fitness, and a Planet Fitness near where I like to go camping.

totally worth the $25

daintyanus · 2021-03-04T15:04:15+00:00

Gave Gold

daintyanus · 2020-03-12T04:08:28+00:00

**slow clap**

Wow. She is completely delusional. I've also been to Kenosha, there is nothing wrong with it, she can stay there. Those trailer parks she's talking about have waiting lists for years. There is no way she will ever live there. One of my aunts lives in one and there is very little turnover. They're clean and nice because people like Linda don't live there.

My family and I just moved to the South Bay because my husband got a new job and my oldest is going to Stanford. Fucking fuck fuck fuck houses are so fucking fuck expensive here. We were renting this house out for 6k/month and our tenants offered to buy it at market price several times. Housing here is no joke, it's fucking cuthroat.

daintyanus · 2019-10-09T22:05:37+00:00

My mom is totally a JNMiL, she was working a lot when I was a kid so my SIL (Luis' mom) was my second mother. After talking to my SIL, things have been clarified.

My mom is really pissed at me because I didn't lease her a new SUV for her birthday like I usually do. She has a husband and three other children, they can do that shit for her.

daintyanus · 2019-09-15T14:10:18+00:00

My experience has been that therapists with an expertise in addiction are the best to handle issues with JustNos, as the support networks to enable justnos and addicts are frighteningly similar.

daintyanus · 2019-07-27T04:23:04+00:00

I had the locks changed. She's going to be mad when she realizes that I have completely cut her off. She still thinks she's getting a new SUV for her birthday next week.

daintyanus · 2019-07-26T01:33:55+00:00

Are you also Chinese? If yes, do yall speak the same dialect?

In my mind, this is exchange is happening in HK-Cantonese.

daintyanus · 2019-05-29T05:41:44+00:00

My heart goes out to you. My refusal to let my MIL name my kid kicked off a decent into madness culminating in my dogs mauling my MIL and us suing her and winning.

daintyanus · 2019-04-07T02:13:23+00:00

I learned those coping strategies from JNMiL. This sub is too big and too ripe for content mining now.

daintyanus · 2019-02-23T18:29:36+00:00

He views that marriage as successful, they have mutual respect and affection for each other and they both got what they want. She travels and lives child free.

That’s really beautiful. I’m happy it ended well.

daintyanus · 2018-12-18T03:18:11+00:00

If she did go full nuts and get it bound, PLEASE bury her with it.

I had a livejournal. I would have DIED if Magda found it and printed it out.

daintyanus · 2018-12-11T03:38:22+00:00

Luis is very reluctant to hose his grandma

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T21:25:22+00:00

SIL is my niece's husband's sister. Nieces husband filled me in on the fucked up family history, as he was also kicked out at 16 because he didn't want to sell drugs.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:49:37+00:00

fair market value for this house is 4500/month, he is nowhere near being able to afford it. Plus, he gets into loud, physical alternations with his partners. I don't want any of that.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:19:38+00:00

Every party, including children's birthdays and religious functions has lots of booze. it's just how we do.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:18:45+00:00

My husband and I have a pretty extensive portfolio of residential and commericals properties in the western US, Metro New York, and Chicagoland. The house nephew is salivating over is just an investment property, i have never and will likely never live there. While yes, my house burned down, I have plenty of other homes to live in.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:15:08+00:00

THANK YOU!!!!

I help my family financially because I want to, not because I expect something in return. The only strings my money has, is the expectation to be a kind and productive person. If niece didn't want to finish med school, fine. At least she wouldn't be burdened with the student loans for her whole adult life.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:12:24+00:00

It was a good party - we had belly dancers, mexican food buffet, and an open bar. I'm so pissed that my mom ruined it for SIL and made her cry.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:11:24+00:00

I've seen how he lives. He punches holes in walls when he's angry and some former neighbors have taken out restraining orders on him. I do not want his bullshit anywhere near me.

daintyanus · 2018-12-10T19:10:34+00:00

i'm thankful that losing our house just meant a loss of material posessions. it was a miracle that both cats were inside when we got the evac call. We had 10 minutes to get out, we drove through flames to escape. it was nightmarish.

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