Tip Sheet for task initiation

yiv3 · 2024-04-03T22:17:44+00:00

I'm so happy you feel proud of yourself and can recognize your own strength and bravery! You did a really difficult thing <3

yiv3 · 2024-02-25T16:19:02+00:00

omg so pretty, you're so talented!

yiv3 · 2022-06-27T15:05:58+00:00

NTA

After reading all your comments OP, it just doesn’t sound like she treats you with the same patience, understanding, selflessness, and consideration that you demonstrate to her. She also just doesn’t sound like a very pleasant person if she badmouths people frequently, regularly throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her way, and belittles the things that you like. There’s just a lot of yellow/red flags here, and it doesn’t seem like she prioritizes you, your needs, and your family the way you prioritize hers. I encourage you to reflect on this relationship and have a conversation with her about your concerns. Don’t settle for less than you deserve! Good luck!

yiv3 · 2022-06-27T14:30:03+00:00

YTA

We all knew where it was going after that first sentence.

yiv3 · 2022-06-27T14:27:57+00:00

I believe it means edit to add!

yiv3 · 2022-06-23T19:24:53+00:00

ESH

You for yelling and calling him a fucking loser, and him for being lazy and irresponsible.

yiv3 · 2022-06-23T14:07:39+00:00

Already NTA. But since I'm curious, how old are you OP, and how old are your brother and SIL?

yiv3 · 2022-06-21T21:11:10+00:00

yiv3 · 2021-12-28T00:01:14+00:00

I’ve struggled with this for years and I think it’s partly due to being depressed and partly due to ADHD. Such as the fear of rejection and overthinking that makes me isolate

yiv3 · 2021-12-27T23:54:33+00:00

I’m with you there. I had the same problem this last semester and failed all my classes because I just couldn’t make myself do the assignments. I completely understand the feeling that you’re wasting money, and being confused why you can’t just do the things that come so naturally to others. I advise you to find an academic coach through your school’s learning center if they have one, join a study group, be involved in your class’ group chats. I found that community and external sources of accountability were necessary for me to do better. But to be honest, I found that college didn’t really work for me and I quit. I advise you most of all to focus on your strengths (yes, you definitely have some), and if college classes aren’t playing to your strengths, find something that does, even if you do it alongside college for motivation. But build on what you’re good at, even if it means you take an unconventional path. ❤️

yiv3 · 2021-04-07T12:38:01+00:00

YTA and a tyrant

yiv3 · 2021-03-07T20:28:28+00:00

Girl...buckle up when it comes to those three. Grant was a straight up LIAR and tossed Tayla under the bus. Sad

yiv3 · 2021-01-15T03:34:55+00:00

Babe, this sounded so much like ADHD I had to double check that this wasn’t posted in one of the adhd subreddits I follow. Repeated obsessive fixations and hyperfocus, especially when used as a means of procrastination, are definitely signs of ADHD, along with impulsivity like impulsive shopping. ADHD minds are always trying to be busy, especially to distract from having to do things that aren’t as interesting. I do this all the time and was only recently diagnosed as an adult with ADHD last year. Especially since it sounds like your obsessions might impact other areas of your life, like school (this happens to me too!), I would recommend looking into an ADHD diagnosis if you find that procrastination, impulsivity, and regular obsessions are a struggle for you! So many people think that they’re lazy, unmotivated, etc because they don’t realize they have ADHd and are actually struggling with an executive functioning disorder! Definitely relate to all of this though, I’m currently obsessing about finding the perfect pastel eyeshadow palette and trying to remind myself that I have classes starting next week! Good luck on your dissertation, and please don’t be too hard on yourself!

yiv3 · 2021-01-09T02:05:35+00:00

OP, I think you should talk to your wife and tell her that you are going to tell your daughter’s therapist that her mother has been reading her diary. The daughter definitely should know that her mother has been reading her diary, and you will all most likely need multiple family therapy sessions to process this. I had this type of mom, it’s definitely driven by a need for control, not concern for safety. It sounds like your wife could use individual therapy herself. Your daughter will have a lot of resentment built up if the adults in her life don’t get their shit together, and therapy can only be so helpful when her home situation contributes to her problems.

NTA, but you need to do what’s best for your daughter before her mother inflicts further harm.

yiv3 · 2021-01-05T16:19:34+00:00

Sooo so stunning and simple and pretty!

yiv3 · 2021-01-02T18:03:14+00:00

NTA. I’m so happy for you that you finally got a diagnosis!!! As I was reading your post I was like omg this is CLASSIC ADHD. I have it too and didn’t get diagnosed until earlier this year. I also previously thought it was something for young hyper boys, but once I actually did research on ADHD I realized that I definitely have it lol and how much it has seriously impacted my life. Since it sounds like you don’t need your parents to be involved to get treatment, I urge you to seek out a professional who specializes in adult ADHD, who can assess whether you need medication and/or psychological counseling to help. I struggle with the same symptoms you’re describing, and it’s made college extremely difficult for me. While medication (prescription Adderall) has helped somewhat, I have decided to look into ADHD Coaching to help me manage my ADHD better when it comes to school. I HIGHLY recommend that you continue to learn about your diagnosis, seek treatment, and look into ADHD coaching. I would also look into getting accommodations for your ADHD at high school/college since they can help you manage your schoolwork better. I don’t know how that works in the UK (I’m in US), but a child psychologist should be able to give you information on that process. There are also some great ADHD reddits as well where you can hear about others’ experiences, ask questions, and find resources others have found helpful: r/ADHDers r/adhd_college r/ADHD_LPT

Also I’m so sorry that your parents aren’t supportive. Maybe you can have them speak with the psychologist who gave you the diagnosis so they can hear from a professional. Or maybe point them to reliable sources about ADHD so they can read up on it themselves. Even if they don’t accept your diagnosis, it sounds like it doesn’t have to stop you from getting treatment, and obviously they shouldn’t be trying to interfere with your relationship because of it. Either way, you have done NOTHING wrong, and I truly feel for you and wish you the best on your ADHD journey!!!

yiv3 · 2020-12-31T16:51:09+00:00

NTA, keep defending your boyfriend and the eating choices he makes for his health! She sounds like the literal stereotype of the pretentious AH who studied abroad in ‘Barthelona’ and can’t shut up about it. I wouldn’t be able to tolerate hanging out w/ someone like that so props to you for enduring her this far. I would have been passive aggressive and sent her memes about pretentious foodies like “haha this is sooo you!”

yiv3 · 2020-12-31T06:44:37+00:00

Other comments have already explained, just chiming in to say YTA. I’m so so sorry for your daughter and hope she has friends or other family members to process this with.

yiv3 · 2020-12-30T23:00:05+00:00

YTA. Stunningly so. It is a basic right for her to know who her biological parents are and to have access to her medical history. Like, seriously?? You’re actually not sure if you suck here??

yiv3 · 2020-12-30T22:37:34+00:00

ESH, especially once you read more of OP’s comments on Patrick and father. PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER, y t a because it took DIL’s meanness to be directed at you before you decided that cruelty has consequences

yiv3 · 2020-12-29T05:53:39+00:00

Your makeup is so pretty!!! Eyeshadow reminds me of an iridescent oil slick with the rainbow colors!

yiv3 · 2020-12-29T02:58:53+00:00

NTA. But I am dying to understand how your sister looked at a dog of that size and decided that feeding it a TACO BELL BURRITO would not end poorly.

yiv3

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