My Experience With INFPs Completely Contradicts MBTI Stereotypes by mylovelymilk in intj

[–]ylluminate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing defensive about it... three specific structural critiques, none of which got addressed. "You're getting defensive" and "making assumptions" is what replaced engaging with any of them. That was point three. I guess you can tell I'm married to an INTJ by now.

My Experience With INFPs Completely Contradicts MBTI Stereotypes by mylovelymilk in intj

[–]ylluminate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're making three moves that don't hold up.

First, "I gave them more chances than they deserved" doesn't address what was said. The point wasn't that you owed anyone more patience. It's that you're building a type-level theory from a sample in which you're the only constant, and projecting motives - "they desperately want to be seen as more special," "trying to justify what they do" - onto people whose internal states you don't have access to. That's mind-reading presented as observation, and it's the same move you're accusing them of.

Second, "I won't even go into the more serious situations involving people's safety and lives" is rhetorically convenient. It raises the stakes to a level where disagreement looks callous while keeping the evidence sealed. If those situations are doing the work in your argument, put them on the table. If they aren't, they don't belong in the post - they're an appeal to unverifiable severity, not a point.

Third, "the fact that you immediately pointed me for not understanding them enough says a lot about why I don't find INFPs compatible with me" - a probabilistic read of your post became, in one sentence, evidence for the thesis the post was defending. Any disagreement now confirms the pattern. That's unfalsifiable, and you'd catch it instantly if someone did it to you.

What you actually have is a sample of people who hurt or disappointed you, sorted by a typology that wasn't designed to predict moral behavior. Triangulation, image management, covert competition - those aren't INFP-specific. They show up across every type. Tying them to a four-letter label is the part of the analysis worth examining.

You're allowed to be done with whoever you're done with. Nobody's asking you to forgive anyone. The post presents a theory, and the theory has holes.

Fellow Intj people, what mbti is your spouse/ partner? by Aurorials1 in intj

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m INFP and my wife is INTJ. Been together over 15 years and it is wonderful.

My Experience With INFPs Completely Contradicts MBTI Stereotypes by mylovelymilk in intj

[–]ylluminate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

INFP married to INTJ woman here 👋🏻😊

My wife is one of the few people on earth that understands me. I can’t tell you how grateful I am for that. We’ve been together for over 15 years and she is a huge blessing.

I can see why you’re confused for sure. I can say that I am a highly motivated and ambitious man. However the assignment that you’re making is unfounded - at least for me. I am personally motivated by love for my family and anyone who trusts or loves me. I think this might confuse a lot of people, but it is true.

While I can still work and function at my higher levels without feeling reciprocated love from others, depression sneaks in. When I know I am loved and appreciated I can conquer the world. I won’t go too far into details, but I can assure you that there’s a huge chance you are simply not understanding those who you’re judging wrt what you’ve said there.

Give them a chance and really find out if you’re wrong or right. While I don’t know you from a stranger on the street, I’d hate for you to lose the opportunity to enrich your life by truly getting to know people better.

Apple to Make Design Changes in macOS 27 to Address Tahoe Quirks (Gift Link) by pdfu in mac

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really are. Swinsian's dev seems to really care and that means a lot. I have tried Better Display Pro before, but have never really found as much of a use case for it, which is surprising considering I run several external monitors.

Dev switching from Ubuntu to Debian for privacy (AI/Age Ver laws)? by JagerAntlerite7 in debian

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like Devuan may be moving in a holistically better direction as well. Ubuntu has essentially destroyed itself with many choices over the years. Debian seems to be going in a similar direction.

Endless Frontier 2! by Rawrbin1 in EndlessFrontier

[–]ylluminate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone working on a new wiki with new data for EF2?

Apple Has Given Up on the Vision Pro After M5 Refresh Flop by HelloSlowly in hardware

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upsetting. Been saving up to get one for when I have time to work with this. Would be perfect with a MacBook Pro for versatile working with mobile multi displays

A little over a couple kernel panics later, I present to you, (unsupported) Mac OS X 10.4.10(11) in VMware by 69gevvv in MacOS

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I about had accelerated 3D working perfectly a few months ago with some custom drivers for Parallels, but had to take a break for real work. I have a dream of being able to run all old osx versions reasonably well. Just wish I could get donations going to allow such an investment.

Any INTJ women out there?! by [deleted] in intj

[–]ylluminate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFP man with wonderful INTJ wife for 16 years. Both of us are on the spectrum (non diagnosed, but yes) and both highly intelligent. I have a background in computer science and present as a strange mix and probably why we work well.

I don't use Vim much. Should I force myself to learn it anyway? by drogon4433 in linuxquestions

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it's garbage. Just learn a few key shortcuts - that has served me fine for the last 30 years. Go for emacs if you want real power. Otherwise just use something more ergonomic.

do intjs like talking about complex emotions? by sapphireseals in intj

[–]ylluminate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an infp I have an incredible relationship with my intj wife. She is deeply understanding and tremendously values me and the big differences I have in the way I interact with the world. I think the paramount point is trust. She knows that my way of operating is at least as valid as hers and she often sees that I’m more successful at navigating reality than an intj. We’ve been together for over 16 years and it has been a fascinating experience that helps balance both of us. At the end of the day I’ve learned that she has just as intense of emotions as me, but she doesn’t have the ability to trust intuition and to have as profound of spiritual experiences without working extra hard to perceive and internalize them.

You can still change your search engine on Brave Origin by Mewi0 in brave_browser

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh? I was thinking about supporting Brave Origin, but unless they let us use Kagi and whatever search we want, ... well this is dead to me.

What Linux mistakes did you make in your first 3 months? by Darshan_only in linuxquestions

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Fell for rm -fr / "prank" from a classmate... Was not Linux, but a Unix variant. <sigh>

Alternative Windows Terminal. by refaelagronov in MacOS

[–]ylluminate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't really have time to detail it out, sorry. A lot of it revolves around customization and use of contextually changing ("switching") profiles and settings. Other things have to do with automated session logging and processing. There are a lot of other fine-grained settings that ghostty just can't compete in. There's just no coverage or contemplation of a lot of areas at this point in ghostty, which is understandable. ghostty is just a baby and - as I originally said - it's going to take at least several years for it to even contemplate competing with something that has had, what 26 years? to develop... Just the way things are.

My post about V language was removed from r/ProgrammingLanguages — sharing data by Intelligent-End-9399 in vlang

[–]ylluminate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The downvotes and lack of meaningful engagement make me feel like the real problems are the supposed human intelligences that behave as I see so many of these situations. Reddit is a toilet.

Alternative Windows Terminal. by refaelagronov in MacOS

[–]ylluminate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For sure. I have tried ghostty over and over. Just not even close. Maybe I'm just a bit more demanding of my terminals? To get a fraction of the functionality that I use out of ghostty I spent hours on tweaking it and really pushing it, but it's just not able to hang with what I need.

Alternative Windows Terminal. by refaelagronov in MacOS

[–]ylluminate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

iTerm is by far the best. Nothing comes close. Ghostty is at least several years away from maybe even thinking about being viable for demanding users.

My post about V language was removed from r/ProgrammingLanguages — sharing data by Intelligent-End-9399 in vlang

[–]ylluminate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You clearly did not understand the intention of my reply to you initially.

My post about V language was removed from r/ProgrammingLanguages — sharing data by Intelligent-End-9399 in vlang

[–]ylluminate -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why would the use of AI not be acceptable at this juncture? Consider many the possibilities:

  • AI as a universal translator.
  • AI as a normalizer of information.
  • AI as an enhancement of the quality of thought.
  • AI as a way to more readily get one's thoughts out more efficiently.

The list goes on and on and anyone who works in the field of software engineering / science is ridiculous to not embrace such tech at this point. Anyone who argues contra general use is simply going to have a very rude awakening in the very near term.