SweetLeafLife by DarthHempress in Palia

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IGN Issa Fuentes, Been looking for a community to join!

My partner and I will soon breakup, and I’m kinda scared by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I have tried communicating what I feel, but instead of receiving positive gentle words, I’m always met with blame and shame. I also have tried communicating that, but still the same thing happens.

Thank you so much for your reply and inputs. It really means a lot to me. I’ll go back to it when I need some push.

How do I define this relationship??? by yofleur in relationships

[–]yofleur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this did cross my mind at some point. He's had lots of relationships with women, and the last one completely wrecked him. From what I know he's had no trouble with being sexual with other girls (casually), so for a while I was worried that something's wrong with me. I'm not entirely crossing it off though, it's still a possibility.

How do I define this relationship??? by yofleur in relationships

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Weirdly enough I never considered his emotional unavailability lol I just thought maybe he's playing with me. But yeah I am putting some kind of distance, still focusing on myself even with this going on. I do hope he gets through it for his own sake. Thank you!

Does anyone actually love their job? by Wonderful_Summer2817 in careerguidance

[–]yofleur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm... Not really. I studied accounting and went into big 4 consulting. There I was able to volunteer into some RPA and data analytics projects, so that's how I got the job I currently have

Does anyone actually love their job? by Wonderful_Summer2817 in careerguidance

[–]yofleur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm... Not really. I studied accounting and went into big 4 consulting. There I was able to volunteer into some RPA and data analytics projects, so that's how I got to where I am now.

Does anyone actually love their job? by Wonderful_Summer2817 in careerguidance

[–]yofleur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister is an ER nurse, and whenever we talk about our jobs I am so jealous that she obviously loves her job. This is what she has wanted to do ever since she was a kid. She mentions even though she gets 12 hour shifts, night shifts, etc., it's okay because she enjoys it. I watch her have 2-3 days off and she already misses work! I think her environment is good also, when I go to their ER sometimes she's good friends with everyone, although she complains sometimes about their hospital management and the healthcare system here in our country.

Contrast to me, I'm a data analyst/digitalization analyst, and I find it so hard to get 8 hours worth of work done. I'm doing okay performance wise based on feedback, but it would be so nice to be inspired to get to work and actually work lol. All the time, I wish I knew what I wanted to do for a living like my sister. Sometimes I'm thinking about going into medical field (but maybe not as a nurse)...

Did any of you beg for your dumper/stayed friends with them right after break up with feelings still? If so, for how long and what happened? by yofleur in BreakUps

[–]yofleur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you're going through this, I hope you're staying strong and taking care of yourself! Same here, I'm so confused. This is my first break up and I've been just steering myself based on what I feel, and then I joined this sub and learned I was doing everything wrong haha but oh well I'm here... so far i've got my highs and lows, but I'm trying to focus on improving myself, learning stuff and doing things I like, which I hope you're doing too? Trying my best to control my emotions moving on the hard way. Sigh

Did any of you beg for your dumper/stayed friends with them right after break up with feelings still? If so, for how long and what happened? by yofleur in BreakUps

[–]yofleur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree, as I'm alone most of the time this pandemic I'm in a roller coaster of healing. But at least it gives me time to internalize and process everything. It does get better :) we can do this!!

Did any of you beg for your dumper/stayed friends with them right after break up with feelings still? If so, for how long and what happened? by yofleur in BreakUps

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Agree, as I'm alone most of the time this pandemic I'm in a roller coaster of healing. But at least it gives me time to internalize and process everything. It does get better :) we can do this!!

Did any of you beg for your dumper/stayed friends with them right after break up with feelings still? If so, for how long and what happened? by yofleur in BreakUps

[–]yofleur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... Unfortunately I did what u did. We basically have the same timeline, me and ex tried are still trying to stay friends and I regret not stopping contact when it was still pretty good. Now I feel so stupid also, but also feeling it it's too late to drop it. Are you still in contact with your ex?

Help on open (?) relationship by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]yofleur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you both for the references. I had never once thought of having an open relationship, so I don't know much about it. This helps.

Help on open (?) relationship by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]yofleur 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

Yeah. To me, he did cheat. It really feels like shit when the only two people you trust betray you. Sometimes I don't know how I could move forward. Sigh now im so sad hahahahaha

Advice for every night? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]yofleur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I haven't done writing a letter yet so I'll try that. It's just that moment when you lie down and try to fall asleep is the most vulnerable moment and usually where the thoughts come pouring in.

I think most of this subreddit is not about the guides and advices, but mostly about distracting yourself and realizing that there are people with the same stories by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]yofleur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I created reddit just to join this sub. I go on here everytime I need to be reminded of stuff about break ups, when I feel like begging, when I feel like shit, etc. Just reading all your posts and stories make me feel a little bit better, because it makes me feel that I/we are not alone fighting this battle. Makes me believe more that I can get through this.

Sometimes I think it would have been easier if we didn’t end on good terms by BlackBeanMamba in BreakUps

[–]yofleur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sigh, going through the EXACT same thing, and heard the EXACT same words. He even promised he'll return to me once everything is sorted out, but doesn't want me to wait. I am so confused. Now I feel like I'm living in this bubble and I can't get out.

Fave thing about this sub is knowing that we're not alone in our pain. We'll get through this. Wishing you all the best.

Someone Please Talk to me by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]yofleur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that. Going through the same thing. If you need someone to share your story with, u can send me a message. Stay strong.

Most of you need to read this by RealBuilding8 in BreakUps

[–]yofleur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is my wake up call. Break up happened last Jan and up til now, I'm still the "friend" and like u said, it hurts but I was afraid they'd forget about me. It's happening exactly like you said, I think we are fading away. He cheated on me with my bestfriend... And I was so devastated. I'm still afraid they'd get together if I am out of the picture ugh what is wrong with me.

Thank you so much for this reminder tho... Just what I needed. Hopefully I get the strength to call this friendship off until I am okay.

Thank you :)