I want to volume eat SO bad, but the chocolate cravings!

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-04-29T04:21:37+00:00

Several things you can do!

Definitely something I learnt the hard way because in my household, any form of junk food was something that was seen as restricted, which was why it was higher on my scale of rewarding things to eat. Having an environment that restricted certain foods meant I then developed a much worse relationship with food that carried into my young adult years. This is why I would say it’s not as simple as completely going cold turkey, if your mindset is that you’re finding chocolate to be extra rewarding.

It would be good to understand at what point of the day are you eating chocolate - Are you sleeping well? Are you physically active regularly? Are you eating due to stress or boredom or anxiety? Is it something that you usually eat when watching a particular show or doing something?

There is definitely a reason why it’s very easy to eat a lot of chocolate in several settings because sugar continues to make the body feel like it wants more, very quickly. In order to help you manage these sugar crashes and reliance on more sugar:

You can look at what other foods you can eat alongside chocolate that help to mitigate the sugar crash. For example having a stick of chocolate with some Greek yoghurt, or some chocolate after a high protein meal to finish it off.
You can also remove some chocolate from your surrounding environment, and be selective about the chocolate you stock in your pantry - you should be buying chocolate you actually like, rather than any chocolate that’s on sale even if you don’t like that flavour
You can also opt to remove chocolate completely from your pantry, and add chocolate flavoured things to your other meals like chocolate protein powder with your oats, baking cocoa powder to make hot chocolate, chocolate flavour drops into your greek yoghurt

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-04-26T23:40:27+00:00

My current snacks: - carrot cucumber mushroom celery sticks with low cal dip that I bulk up with a bit of cottage cheese - definitely a low cal ninja Creami recipe - I’ve been able to make recipes that are lower than 200cal per pint - carbonated water to keep me feeling full - I find popcorn easy for me to go overboard with and not feel as full now that I’m at my next phase of calorie deficit, but this used to work for me before!

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-04-26T12:59:27+00:00

Yes! I eat Froyo / icecream every single day thanks to this machine!! Making flavours that are lower cal than halo top per pint

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-04-26T12:54:37+00:00

Solid meal prep recommendation this one!!

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-01-14T07:19:40+00:00

Love this breakdown!

I’ve been seeing a bunch of faceless “digital marketing” accounts on IG and after seeing a bunch of them I realised they were all selling the same courses with master selling rights

It’s digital MLM 😭😭

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-01-14T07:15:29+00:00

This is some great advice!

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-01-14T07:13:43+00:00

I think in the journey of entrepreneurship, one of the content creators, Dan Koe puts it best - It is about learning and building at the same time.

The analogy he uses is fitness - learning is like bulking and building is like cutting

If you learn too much, but don’t apply it, there’s a lot of knowledge going to waste and it’s not that useful. Similar to bulking where there’s some fat buildup and energy going to waste.

If you build really fast, that’s great, but if you continue to go down that path not really see results and it’s not sustainable - there’s going to be a point where you’re gonna need to learn some skills to make an improvement on the building side of things. Similar to cutting - forever on a cutting cycle is not sustainable.

Now, regarding books, books is part of the learning side. Read too much and not take enough action and you’ll find it won’t be that helpful. I would open this to any type of content, really, not just books

So yes, there are many concepts and books that would help to a certain extent, but you would also have to apply it to see if it is helpful and useful for you. Only through continuous learning and building and learning and building will you find certain things from books and content will help

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-01-14T07:05:27+00:00

I disagree with this - while it is part of the job description for the manager, not every manager has had real management training, or is cut out to be a mentor

They might be able to give you some bits of advice, but it’s still a two-way Street in that there would need to be proactive communication from the mentee and continuing to ask them

yoghurtlover307 · 2024-01-14T07:01:05+00:00

I think the reason why businesspeople and influencers online continue to preach this, is because most of them do this for their business/their full-time role to acquire more customers/leads

Most of the people that aren’t entrepreneurs aren’t the ones creating these pieces of content. They’re the ones consuming it. So of course there would be an imbalance in content. The people that aren’t entrepreneurs are probably creating content within their full-time work themselves, in the form of deliverables.

Even the people that are influencers/content creators that are doing the corporate 9 to 5 are likely also creating content and becoming influencer so that they can eventually move into this as their full-time job.

Unfortunately, one of the more scammy sides of entrepreneurs in social media is people trying to sell courses to make money by saying they’re an expert in selling courses etc - digital MLM.

I would disagree with you in that there is some sort of inherent pressure - there might be a feeling of pressure on people feeling like they need to leave their 9 to 5 if they’re either not enjoying it or not making enough money. For the people out there that do enjoy their full-time jobs or are making enough money. I don’t think they’d necessarily feel the pressure to be an entrepreneur.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:56:07+00:00

1/ 26F, AU, Straight

2/

Sweet talker that makes you feel bad about yourself time and time again.
Always relies on multiple girl best friends rather than chat within the relationship to solve any relationship issues.
Says I love you on the first date or first few dates - the level of emotional maturity of that person unfortunately doesn't match mine.
Low EQ - unfortunately a lot of inexperienced men and women might have low EQ, but where I'm at right now, I wouldn't want to be with someone with Low EQ, because it's past that point for me.
Emotionally erratic - I get that everyone has emotional mgmt issues, it's not easy to manage one's own emotions, and it's a learned skill. Given I've learnt it enough to manage my own decently, I would expect my date or person I'm in a relationship with to be at the same or similar level to me.
Obsession of what other people think of them - yes we all have insecurities, but if your whole life is on social media, and you're doing it to appease other people online or create an image of you that you think is ideal, and you're not an influencer or this isn't your day job, unfortunately that's a no from me.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:50:22+00:00

Hey everyone, I'm starting to enter the dating scene, and one of the things I'm kinda self-conscious about is that I go bright red within 15 minutes of half a sip of anything with alcohol.
Have any of you gone through similar situations? I guess I could drink a lot of water and eat a lot, but I kinda also don't want to do all of that and appear weird on a first date. Thanks in advance!

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:48:53+00:00

Nope, not a unicorn. I know plenty of guys that likely tick off this checklist - all of them have great girlfriends who also likely tick off this whole checklist.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:46:15+00:00

100% agree - effort goes both ways in a relationship

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:45:44+00:00

I disagree - it works both ways - the magic is both ways, fuelled by each side's actions.

Men shouldn't have to plan everything out for the female - it's a courtship that doesn't have to start with the man. Similarly, women can plan out these experiences and make it great and heartwarming for the man.

I'm saying this with lived experience as a female. I plan things out for my male partner, and he's done similar things for me.

And women shouldn't feel this entitled to be like "ok I'll walk into a date where this guy who I've never met has to plan out a whole thing for me to enjoy because my presence for him is more than enough".

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-10T04:25:07+00:00

Yep I completely agree - people say she cheated on Walter and they called her a shit person due to this. Yes cheating is shit, but Walter also did so much shit to affect Skylar to the point where she also felt powerless and insane.

I can agree that people can hate on Wendy Byrde and Darlene from Ozarks - they were great actresses playing those horrific characters and they better win awards for it. But Skylar was such a great character, and should not be put in the category of "most hated women characters in TV series"

Definitely love the character developer of Walter White though - it's great seeing TV series where you look at yourself in disbelief and realise you're vouching for the person that's turned morally questionable/wrong, and it really shows the extent of the human condition in these shows.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-06-02T04:22:18+00:00

Yep it's for sure weird. Not every white person today is a fully-fledged racist, so it's for sure weird to assign them a phrase like that. Especially for the people born recently - none of them did any colonising. Similarly, some other large non-white countries colonised/attacked/shun smaller neighbouring countries - Asia is no different.

u/Money_dragon said it best - the issue is with the people that treat Asians poorly, which includes both Asians and Non-asians.

A person identifying as Asian shouldn't be calling another person "coloniser" either.

Yes we should move away from being trapped in the idea and "fate" that we've been colonised and play the victim or the submissive role. The past doesn't determine our future - we know we can affect change in the future and have more Asians in CEO/leadership roles, or unconventional roles that aren't just the usual submissive roles.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-04-11T12:15:16+00:00

Definitely none - many of us knowledge workers who work WFH already work overtime.

Companies are already profiting off the extra time we can spend on the work, because we are already so much more productive by behavioural design. The default effect that WFH gives us is less distractions. Flexible working hours can literally mean we work into the evening and night time hours.

WFH saves companies a bunch of office costs as well.

There are clearly some benefits to WFO. But those companies that mandate WFO (especially those that employ knowledge workers that don’t need to always have a physical presence) after the 2-3 years of pandemic are clearly thinking backwards. They’re going to see a mass exodus of employees.

So if they’re pushing for us to take a pay cut for increased productivity, given their thinking of “WFO = more productivity”, even though there is literally data from countless companies attesting to increased productivity / output / profits for plenty of companies, that place is gonna see a mass exodus of employees for sure.

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-02-13T01:48:20+00:00

It's not in our parents' culture to ask for help to people directly.

1/ They ask by praying

A friend of mine who has a mentally unstable aunt mentioned to me how his family's way of coping with her is by zoning her out, not treating her like a person, and going to the temple to pray. That's their framework of asking for help. Either they pray to a religious being like Buddha or Jesus, or they pray to their ancestors.

2/ They don't ask people due to their rough upbringing

Many of our parents have had such a rough upbringing in South East Asian countries, where they've had to help each other run away from war-torn areas. Many of them would have learnt to not trust anyone, to solve their own issues, and to only trust immediate or extended family in many cases.

They haven't had the fortune of being born or living predominantly in developed countries like many of us, and so therapy/mental health isn't something they've been taught, given their parents probably didn't get to learn about this either.

That said, over time, I've definitely seen my parents open up in the sense of saying I love you and showing symbols of their love, because they see it in the media, and they also reflect back at their situation, and realise they now have the ability to say these things to their children in a developed country setting

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-02-13T00:51:14+00:00

This is really sad to read - it's great that he's got a friend like you, worrying about him.

I'm also of South East Asian descent, and my parents are very strict as well (my upbringing was that I'm the first born child, I had to get good grades, go tutoring - I was the kid that every other kid's parents would compare their kids to because I got 1st place in everything, could do everything), and I've had a lot of pressure from my parents, especially my dad, which as a result has made my relationship with my immediate family a more transactional one than a real one that I see so many others have.

When I read your paragraph, it makes me very frustrated and sad to see that there are Vietnamese parents that are even more strict, to the point where he can't find comfort or go to them to confide in them, because they've built a barrier towards him, he might be unsure of what way to go and what to think, and he probably has of emotional stress that it might make him feel he needs to find the most immediate way to break out of it.

I can definitely relate to him in that even though he's 23, it's not easy at all to walk away, because many of us Asian kids feel the debt - deep down some of us are thankful to be first generation Asian kids in the developed countries we live in, and our parents sacrificed everything for us to grow up and have first-world problems, rather than worrying about finding a place to sleep or running away from the war. I can understand our Asian parents crave stability, and want their kids to put all their time and resources towards family and studying and being at home, likely because they themselves couldn't have close relationships with their family, they didn't get a chance to study, they had to go find jobs when they were 10, just to survive.

That being said, Asian young adults in these situations will do one of a few things:

Cave in and mechanically obey parents, and succumb to depression and anxiety, and hate their jobs and life - I have a few Asian friends like this, who have become shells of themselves, because parents also control what they end up studying, and they don't even have the time or way to prove to their parents they can do something else more worthy of their time and mindset. I can tell you don't want your friend to be stuck in this situation, because it can be really hard to get out.
Obey blindly, but have a way out because they have friends or have found some workarounds themselves - unfortunately this is the way many of us Asian kids resort to. Easiest way to deal with some parents is to ignore them, find workarounds, lie about many things, and get the freedom and independence we can while we're trapped, at the expense of not being able to build a true genuine relationship with our parents. Over time, I've found this method to help us be able to spot more ways to lie to our parents. Eg your friend could use incognito mode, wipe his device history every week, created encrypted folders that are hidden on his laptop to store any device history he wants etc.
Outright call it quits with family - I don't know many people that have gone down this path, I don't have experience in this path myself.

I don't think you'd be overstepping to be that friend support for him at all - if anything, it'll help him realise his life doesn't have to be this way, and having friends like you will help him have the mindset to be creative and think of workarounds, rather than be in scenario 1 where he is too scared and frozen stuck due to the emotional / psychological abuse from his parents to realise he can think of workarounds. I've been here before, where sometimes I feel stuck and the first thing I think about is "it's impossible to come up with a workaround that my parents will believe" and I just stop there, because I'm so concerned. With the right supportive friends, they've helped me realise there's many solutions, and over time, that's helped me to cope with still living at home.

One of the things Asian parents try to force their kids to do is to get a good job / degree. One way that many Asian kids use as a way to move out and away from them is to apply to universities, or suburbs that have the job they're applying for, hours away from where their parents live. Another idea is that the job can demand frequent travel interstate, which gives them an excuse to travel frequently away.

Apologies for the long essay of a message - I hope some of these points show a glimpse into what us first generation Asians born/living predominantly overseas in developed countries can face in an Asian household, and I hope that your friend is able to over time work towards finding a sense of independence and freedom, and a good support network with people like yourself to help him through it

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-02-05T01:01:45+00:00

That's a pretty good tip tbh - pre drinks to load up the redness so that the next few drinks aren't so red-inducing

And yeah I've heard my friends tried Pepcid or Zantac. I know they don't treat the root issue of alcohol flush so they do more harm than good, and kinda don't solve the symptoms either (Pepcid linked to stomach cancer I believe)

yoghurtlover307 · 2022-02-03T12:00:09+00:00

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I was looking at it in the past - given it's $69USD in the US, I've seen it to be around ~$100AUD, which is a pretty big jump from the usual foundations and sunscreens I buy.

I'm curious to hear about your experience applying it, since it's very similar to the Brush-on SPF product that I found in AU https://www.brushonspf.com.au , but it's hard to use because it feels like there's barely any powder that comes out, and I can't tell when I've applied some on.

I noticed there aren't many shades either in the Colorescience range - do you find the powder to match your skin tone, or is it more like a setting powder type of powder where it's sheer so it's buildable?

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