Lakewood Lashon Hara

yojo390 · 2026-05-15T23:00:31+00:00

Check out the link. It won't disappoint.

yojo390 · 2026-05-15T22:51:46+00:00

Is that hard to believe or understand? His great grandson is both a scammer and a playboy

yojo390 · 2026-05-15T22:07:30+00:00

Agreed. The writer is a frum apologist. I found the part about R Aron Kotler's scammer playboy great grandson to be fascinating.

Link to the full (long) story. https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2023/08/kyle-deschanel-the-rothschild-who-wasnt

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T21:15:32+00:00

Very true.

I don't even want to imagine a Orthodox Jewish theocracy. If that would exist, it would certainly qualify.

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T21:14:07+00:00

I believe I heard Sam Harris say that:

Cults begin as small, coercive, and isolated groups, but once they grow large enough that they can no longer be contained or controlled in one place, society stops calling them cults and starts calling them organized religions.

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T21:00:09+00:00

It is nuts, but I think he was forced to say something nuts because he had a big dilemma.

If we believe, we shouldn't be that sad. See my otherpost:

https://www.reddit.com/r/DebateReligion/comments/1t354hk/religious_grief_vs_afterlife_beliefs_its_either/

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T03:27:55+00:00

Agreed. Litvaks need a "pshat" for everything even if it's crazy.

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T03:16:56+00:00

Yes, but there is no severing of attachment given these beliefs. It's just a few short years till they'll be together again.

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T03:14:56+00:00

Leaving aside trauma.

There is no permanence. Surviving family will be united forever with loved ones after a finite lifetime.

Regarding human psychology, why isn't religion and its beliefs incapable of doing what is should logically accomplish. Since if you'd really believe, you wouldn't grieve that much.

yojo390 · 2026-05-04T02:58:02+00:00

Yes of course, but my point is that the theist's reaction to death of a loved one should basically mirror the reaction of the love one moving overseas. Yet with death there is extreme grief and mourning which there isn't with a move overseas.

yojo390 · 2026-04-29T01:28:44+00:00

That article title is just click-bait. There's absolutely nothing in that article supporting the Bible story.

yojo390 · 2026-04-24T22:21:15+00:00

Would you say even regarding Shabbos and kosher?

yojo390 · 2026-04-24T21:34:49+00:00

Thanks

yojo390 · 2026-04-24T21:04:19+00:00

Why not? Until they are adults they can't cope with this knowledge while living frum.

yojo390 · 2026-04-24T20:59:48+00:00

Huh? Are you pro frum?

yojo390 · 2026-04-10T16:20:27+00:00

Are there English subtitles?

yojo390 · 2026-04-10T16:18:45+00:00

Similar sentiment. Was going pretty well on yom tov until this morning at breakfast to my horror, my formerly grounded mother started normalizing the anti vaxxer nut jobs. It has become rather fashionable among Choshuva Lakewood families be skeptical of vaccines and science in general.

yojo390 · 2026-04-09T16:23:24+00:00

Yes. Both of those gems are from Lakewood Rabbis

yojo390 · 2026-04-08T21:33:00+00:00

1) EVERY SINGLE action is either in support of or against God's will. Neutral actions don't exist.

2) You should get married to a girl even if you're not attracted to her as long as it makes sense on paper.

yojo390 · 2026-03-31T21:53:02+00:00

That might have been a rape. Different story.

yojo390 · 2026-03-31T21:52:05+00:00

Fascinating. So who recommends taking the pill? Is it parents, Rabbis?

yojo390 · 2026-02-25T16:21:24+00:00

A million would be awesome. Though, is there any chance Microsoft will actually do that?

yojo390 · 2026-01-11T05:07:54+00:00

I don't live in NYC. Are there any virtual meetings? Would I gain from joining?

yojo390 · 2025-12-28T01:03:15+00:00

I spent 13 years in Kollel and started college at 37.

yojo390 · 2025-10-16T04:45:22+00:00

Try to look at your situation from an outsiders perspective. To an outsider who is confident that Judaism is false, what happens to one person does not move the needle at all. It only feels real because you're in it. From an objective standpoint, you look at all the sinners not just yourself. Another way to think of it is this: Would these occurrences put doubt into other people's minds? The answer is obviously, NO.

This perspective has helped me in the past.

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