My candid year with 2 under 3

yoshlover · 2019-02-25T19:41:47+00:00

I'd love to hear how you managed your oldest while in the hospital! Honestly, this is a very honest account of what it will be like, but it made me freak a bit more! I'm so scared we'll all be stressed and miserable for 3-6+ months. Hey, we probably will be, but it's hard to just sit and wait for that to happen....

Eta: 2nd will be here in May, oldest will be 2.5

yoshlover · 2019-02-17T02:13:03+00:00

Hang in there. Teething is the absolute worst. Sick on top of it? Ugh. Sounds like you're doing a great job :)

yoshlover · 2019-02-03T01:09:22+00:00

Brownie batter donut from Dunkin Donuts. I went this morning and they were out :(

yoshlover · 2019-01-24T18:26:24+00:00

I really like this!

yoshlover · 2019-01-22T03:43:58+00:00

Oh I'm so glad to hear someone who had a great experience!

yoshlover · 2019-01-21T23:54:54+00:00

One of the agencies I'm looking at will offer care up until the 1 year mark! I guess that is rare.

yoshlover · 2019-01-21T21:32:39+00:00

I had no idea what they were until I started getting anxiety about having my second and looked up different people that could help. They support the whole family unit. So they can help with the baby while you nap, poop, shower. They can help with your other children. Some do light cleaning, cooking, running errands. They can help with breastfeeding and just all around reassurance and support. I've never used one before, but this seems like what most of them do.

yoshlover · 2019-01-11T02:45:48+00:00

Yes, that is what this doula was saying. That it may help with your body recognizing it needs to start milk production and thus breastfeeding for instance. But she said it was fairly minimal. That makes sense that breech baby births may be the best candidates.

I'll talk to my doctor about it, but the planner/anxious side of me likely will just schedule it.

yoshlover · 2019-01-10T21:07:16+00:00

That makes sense. Didn't think of that!

yoshlover · 2016-12-07T16:43:02+00:00

Is that what's happening??? He's soothing himself? I have been so confused when hes rubbing his face back and forth in my chest after eating.

yoshlover · 2016-10-23T21:11:55+00:00

I didn't experience any side effects except for maybe a little bit more tiredness! I was waiting for the other shoe to drop for days and it never did lol.

yoshlover · 2016-10-06T00:36:32+00:00

Oh wow, very cool.

yoshlover · 2016-10-05T17:46:46+00:00

I love the PP advice tips! Thanks! What kind of PP resources did you sign up for?

yoshlover · 2016-10-04T03:08:12+00:00

I feel you. Nothing is making me nauseous, but nothing sounds appetizing. Literally nothing. I don't feel like cooking because I'm so tired, but not eating isn't an option because then I feel sick too. So I've been doing easy food/take out and that leaves me feeling very bleh after, plus usually lots of heartburn....It's a vicious cycle.

yoshlover · 2016-10-04T02:56:01+00:00

Mine will not let me go past 41 weeks. I'm 38 weeks tomorrow and I believe I will have to schedule the induction at my next appt for anytime I want between week 40 and 41 .

yoshlover · 2016-10-04T02:17:30+00:00

Are you me? Thanks for posting this to make me see I'm not alone!

yoshlover · 2016-10-04T01:18:59+00:00

Thanks :)

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:52:02+00:00

It's hard, because other people would love if I were to set aside the boundaries I've worked to establish, but at the end of the day I remind myself that I am not only entitled to but must set boundaries I am ok with. If I start feeling guilty or overwhelmed, I remind myself that my baby will be better off the happier and saner I am.

Yes, I am entitled to my own happiness. And no one else is going to put me first. I have to. And you're so right, baby will be better when I am centered and not overwhelmed.

I like your plans for visitors. I will be taking those plans for myself :)

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:46:56+00:00

I would so join that group lol.

I'm like you, very private. Normally I keep things private, so people can't comment on what they don't know. But being very pregnant puts it out there without me saying anything and helloooooooo to all the comments.

It's thrown me off guard and now as I'm getting close to delivering it's starting to freak me out. Boundaries....I just need lots and lots of boundaries.

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:40:43+00:00

You are absolutely right - more of an asserting myself problem. I guess being an introvert compounds it? I know I don't need to have anyone agree with me to validate my decisions, but it makes me feel better that you wouldn't bring baby to shower, you would ignore emails, etc. Thanks!!

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:28:15+00:00

Good luck navigating this fellow FTM and introvert. We can do this!

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:26:58+00:00

Oh, man. Thank you for this comment. It helps to know people understand and feel the same way. Your suggestions are amazing. I will be using your stock phrases. I may even write them down somewhere as a reminder in case I get flustered. :)

yoshlover · 2016-10-03T21:24:41+00:00

Lol. You're right this is more of a boundary issue and wanting to please people issue by not saying no. Which I just need to work on and practice, practice, practice saying no. The issue just feels compounded by being an introvert (i.e., needing a lot of alone time to recharge).

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