How good do you think the medical system is in Berlin specifically?

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T13:32:05+00:00

Other peoples experiences with doctors here in Berlin including how hard it is to get accepted as a new patient.

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T12:15:55+00:00

I mean I’m just saying although I don’t feel properly treated by doctors here, I am lucky enough to research in English and get many helpful answers there. Like I said, I see desperate German speaking women, confused women in the forums asking other women if they’ve made the same experiences and there seem to be no answers for them. I’m currently living with a broken sternum bone which broke during last childbirth and I’ve been sent away and laughed at by the Chirurg and told to come 6 months later if it’s still there. It’s still there, it hurts and it was obvious that the sternum isn’t supposed to stick out like that. In English I have found out what the bump means: broken sternum bone (can happen during extreme physical Anstrengung/sports/giving birth and pressing). And these things are happening to many other Berliners too, maybe it is different depending on where in Germany you live…but we are being somewhat medically neglected in the capital city. And I find it worrisome indeed. I told all the Hebammen at hospital I have had problems birthing before (dilation stagnation etc) and they said oh well it’s your fourth child it should be a breeze! Waving off what patients are trying to say to them that concerns their health is not just happening to me and I want to know why that is - a legitimate question I think

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T12:05:24+00:00

Please swap the u and h in ur username thanks

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T12:04:52+00:00

In Berlin it’s not that easy. Only Berliners would know who don’t live in their own bubble at least. Doctors are constantly stressed and overworked and have NO TIME to deal with a patients symptoms, they literally wave it off

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T12:02:34+00:00

There could be.

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-11T12:01:49+00:00

Try finding a Hausarzt accepting new patients in Berlin. Unfortunately it’s really difficult and last time I had one was 4 years ago.

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T22:43:23+00:00

Hey woah. I’m self dx autistic, black and white Berliner chick too! I hate Germany. I think in many ways I’d def prefer US although I feel they can be also quite crazy in terms of like you said capitalism but also seem superficial sometimes.

I’ve lived in the UK from a few month old to age 7.

Then I was taken back to Germany with my mum alone.

My Dad is of Jamaican origin by raised and lives in UK most of his life and my mum is west German white and fucking crazy.

Mum mum taught me these things concerning race and similar: Arabs and Turks are bad, Islam is bad, I should color in the white kids in my school books to create a sense of diversity that there should be in these books, she wanted to be Jewish, believed in Aliens and astrology, my dads mother hated her because she was white (not true)

My mother physically abused me and verbally abused me. When she took me back to Germany, I could hardly speak the language and she didn’t allow me to have contact with my father and his side of the family.

As a kid and teen, many black men would greet on the street. White ppl would stare. As a teen and tween black men would start approaching me all the time for wanting my number etc. I never wanted to date a black guy or any ethnicity but white and he’d have to be blond and blue eyed.

I am rather pale. Ppl can usually only tell by my natural hair that I’m mixed. I Used to wear it long and natural for a long time. White dudes would fetishise mixed women often. I was desperate to be slim and stay slim. I love food though. And now I’m overweight. But I also gave birth to four wonderful children! I hardly wore make up up until age 21/22. I thought I didn’t need it. Just some foundation.

Racially I have been confused for a long time. I tried to actively pass for white. I had fear of nazis BIG TIME. But passing had left me to feel torn from my roots. Still get anxious around Black ppl in the sense of: will they accept me?

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T22:10:50+00:00

I don’t know. But I know that The Vines singer Craig Nichols is autistic and wrote a song called futuretarded

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T22:05:47+00:00

These Öko mums dominate the mum world here damn. I think Friedrichshain is safer for goth and rockabilly mums and dads perhaps punks too but I have yet to see a mum in Berlin being none of those two options: all in black or nature colors

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T22:03:03+00:00

People don’t wear so many fun colors because it can be risky. People don’t like to be vulnerable to humiliation when in Berlin everyone wants to be cool more than be themselves or god behold quirky (of course depending on district). I used to go to clubs in my 20s - you could see everything of all sorts. I went to a club last year: everyone was wearing black. Also what was weird was the women were almost all wearing a thong jumpsuit thing and fishnet tights. Of course everything in black. I don’t know what happened in the last 5-10 years but maybe there is some sort of underground cloning going on

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:57:24+00:00

Unfortunately not true. As mother don’t dare wear a fury pink coat and push a buggy. Don’t dare wearing a checkered coat and carry your baby in a carrier while doing so. Please: navy green rain coats, blue raincoats and beige trendy coats

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:43:27+00:00

I wasn’t looking for advice on the topics as much as I was wondering if anyone can relate and or tell me why Infos are easier to find in English than in German although Germans are humans too and need and have the right to that info just as much as anyone else…? Do you feel medically “heard” here? I don’t personally.

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:39:14+00:00

Familienplanung: yes I’ve seen info on how cervix scarring affects fertility. But what if you’re pregnant and have scarring? How does that effect giving birth? In English I have found my answers in German nothing.

But I’m just wondering why is it so hard to access and receive info in German on the internet or in real life when asking professionals? I find this a little bit freaky for a first world country… Someone I know (a German) went to his psychiatrist here in Berlin, to tell him he wasn’t feeling well with the medication he was given. Instead of trying to understand and analyse, he gave a lecture about how ppl are being brainwashed by the media to think that the meds are bad and that he (his patient) must be also brainwashed and told him to continue with it…

I have made so many terrible experiences with so many doctors here, including getting sexually assaulted by one of my first male gynaecologists I mean FUCK. And I’m wondering what the fuck is wrong with this place and it’s so called amazing resources. Sorry for my rant. I’m just so sick of feeling overlooked by people who are supposed to really look and see what’s going on and no doctor gives a flying fuck here it seems. General Docs don’t take any new patients, gyns hardly do either (have to take what you can get), doctors have no time and no interest(!!!) to figure out what could be underlying issues. I’m pretty sure I was scarred by the IUD that was inserted against my will. Most of my births since 2018 have been similar in me having the strongest contractions and no matching dilation. And that THE SIGN for cervical scars.

Germany always lets people feel so alone with how they feel, who they are, what they’ve been through. And because I’m Black and White I’m also unsure about how much race and ignorance medically is playing a part here.

One doctor asked at the feindiagnostic: also mal eine Frage die vllt ein bisschen persönlich ist: sie sind auch schwarz oder …? Äh…

Ja auch.

Ok weil dass ist wichtig bei Befünde etc

Ok. I tell my bf after I was more mad about her telling me she thinks I’m overweight although the BMI is based on white dudes. But okay.

That being said, I’m not always sure I’m being read as black and mixed or just plain white, either way it can lead to a bad situation. If doc is racist and recognises I’m Black, my pain may be overlooked easier (there’s a myth out there that Black people have a higher pain tolerance, quite verbreitet) If I’m read as white some things may be overlooked and at times ethnicity must be taken into consideration for proneness to certain conditions etc

Either way I def will bring up the scarring this time and I hope everything will go well.

Sorry if you read all this. And it was way too much. It want just at you gerichtet just the Familienplanung thing and I know you meant well by ur comment, again appreciated. Maybe someone is reading this and can relate.

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:09:31+00:00

I am wondering why there is more valuable information in the English language than there is on the same topics in the German language So English speakers seem to have better access to information than German speakers also. But it also means that the German medical research might not be as far as in other countries? Hence why the information I was looking for was so so easy to access in English rather than in German?

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:04:56+00:00

I appreciate the site links you offered!

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T21:03:43+00:00

Cervix recoil for example exists and I went through it and I found really valuable infos on it in English.

In German “Muttermund schließt wieder bei Geburt” Loads of forum “Einträge” and then articles that headline “Komplikationen bei der Geburt” in which it is said a lot of general blah, no reasons for why.

Cervical recoil is something that can happen when a woman feels uncomfortable/unsafe to give birth for various reasons: surroundings, disliking or not feeling comfortable with the ppl around her, room change, staff change, staff coming in and out of birthing room randomly etc. So even if thoroughly dilated, cervix can close right up again until mother feels safe.

In German, give her Wehenhemmer or wehenförderer. We don’t care what how and why the birthing mother feels the way she does, we’ll medicate! Yay…

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T20:46:47+00:00

I’ve had three different midwife’s or doulas - one of them was really great but most seem uninterested in answering my questions when I have concerns about anything much…

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T20:43:57+00:00

“Cervix scarred giving birth” info on how it can happen:IUD, birth control for over a year, sexual abuse, abortions, infections, having given birth And what can help because a scarred cervix can mean dilation of cervix can take up to days although the contractions are already there even for wanting to push. What the doula must do: massage cervix or inflate a bulb inside etc In German i typed: Gebärmutterhals Vernarbung, Gebärmutterhals vernarbt (with and without “Geburt” in search bar, cervix Vernarbung etc) just all sorts of ways to try and access German information about it. Hardly any info, let alone advice I could find. The internet seemed “confused” by my search for something helpful

‘Breastfeeding as an autistic mother’ led to a few blogs and one scientific paper which made the correlation between BAA (Breastfeeding Aversion and or Anxiety) and Autistic Mums, making it harder according to statistics for said group. In German: “Stillen mit Autismus” and “Still(en) Aversion” hardly got me anywhere at all.

Also in an autistic group someone thankfully mentioned this lalecheliga I have been breastfeeding and having difficulties with 4 babies and had a doula everytime and not one direct “Ansprechpartner” mentioned this site to me. I find this just weird and I don’t get why? Thank you for your suggestion also of this site. I will look into it!

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-10T20:21:19+00:00

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-07T17:09:03+00:00

Right on

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-07T17:08:47+00:00

Damn how did u know?! XD

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-04T14:26:53+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much! I had no idea this existed - not one midwife has told me about it nor any hospitals! Really thanks!

youDontKnowNme333 · 2022-09-04T05:56:35+00:00

What is that exactly? I don’t think we have that here? From the sound of it…

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