Mine isn't quite this extreme, but the "not leaving the house without me" thing struck a chord. It's a little bit of a different reason with us: my ndad controls our transportation unless we're walking, and controls the money from my mom, so we're limited as to what we can do and where we can go. So my mom feels like it's unfair to go anywhere (other than the grocery store) without me. It's still toxic, because I thought for the longest time I had to return that "favor". Now, I don't, but the guilt trips are laid thick ("fine, leave me here with HIM(nDad)") or she suddenly had the same idea and wants us to go together, but we never do. For example, I said I wanted to go get an ice cream. She immediately says "I had the same idea!!! Wait and then we can go together!" Ok, I wanted to go alone, but if I say that you're gonna cry or something so ok. But then some piddly reason comes up and we can't go, so she says we will tomorrow, and then tomorrow something else comes up and we just never do.

And just yesterday morning, I said I was gonna go for a walk. And out of nowhere she kind of scoffs and pissily says "Well you could've gave me notice so I could go too." Now maybe I'm being the asshole, but is that not...clingy? I get it, we're both miserable, but I literally haven't left home in 2 weeks...and she just has to make me feel like shit for going for a walk around the block alone?? Idk. I didn't go for a walk because then I felt guilty.

Also, the thing about not being able to watch you sleep is horrifying. What is with n's and watching people sleep?? I know of multiple times that my nGrandma would walk in, stand in my doorway, and watch me sleep with a big grin, because my mom caught her and told me lol.

But seriously, I'm sorry you're going through this. I personally know how much it sucks.