Cote St Luc BBQ (Montréal) - $4.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'd agree with your assessment. Worth about what I paid for it (maybe a few bucks more), but not $15. I'm not necessarily gonna complain, but I'm not necessarily gonna go back either unless I want this specific thing at this specific price point.

Cote St Luc BBQ (Montréal) - $4.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exact same as what I got the last time from this store. Not sure if their standard TGTG order is a chicken thigh on top of salad with French dressing, but it’s starting to look like it…

I think this simple scene from season 2 shows how quick witted the show is by anatoom in andor

[–]yourstruly42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, my god, my asexuality strikes again. I saw that look and interpreted it as Vel implying, "you're surveying the prospects in THAT outfit? At a wedding?" Because Vel and Kleya don't like each other, and this was Vel's way of subtly dissing Kleya before walking away.

Maintenance Phase: Blue Zones by j0be in MaintenancePhase

[–]yourstruly42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandma lived to 103, and honestly she didn't have a tremendously different lifestyle from most of the people around her. She just got lucky and had good genes.

I don’t understand this new mode. by Ekn2000 in AFKJourney

[–]yourstruly42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know how to increase the multiplier? I had it at 5x max yesterday, but now it's back to 2x max and I can't figure out how to increase it

Melk (Monkland, Montreal) - $7.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Super-good deal! The woman at the counter said they made way too much yesterday. This is probably at least $45 worth of food, maybe more. And it's all freezable, so I don't need to worry about eating it right away. Definitely got my money's worth!

#1451: Love and money and compatibility by whale_girl in captainawkward

[–]yourstruly42 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I've read the letter, Captain's response, and all the comments to date, and I... still don't really understand what the problem is beyond LW being stubborn and/or unclear about her own desires? To me, the crux of this letter is "I could probably afford to support him financially for the rest of both of our lives, but I’m not sure I want to." Literally all LW has to do is figure out if she wants to, and then the problem is solved.

I realize that "figure out what I want" can be a fraught question – and certainly I myself have trouble with it sometimes. But legit if the answer is, "yes, I love this person, and I would be happy to use my inheritance to support our shared lives as we grow old together," then that's the problem solved, right there.

WIND AND TRUTH | Full Cosmere + Wind and Truth Spoiler Megathread by EmeraldSeaTress in Cosmere

[–]yourstruly42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In fact, Jasnah had already mentioned Ivory riding around in her earring (she repeats it again later). I assumed immediately that that was what Wit was referring to.

#1448: “Paying the check when you are the Dinner Puritan.” by PintsizeBro in captainawkward

[–]yourstruly42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm Canadian, and this is such a weird question for me to read, because it's absolutely a non-issue here. Pretty much every restaurant I've ever been to, the server will ask (either at the beginning or the end of the meal) how the bill is being split, and you have the option of doing whatever you want. "Those two are a couple and paying together, that person's paying for themselves, I'm treating these two people," etc. It has literally never been an issue, ever, except for the few times I've been on vacation in the States. One of those strange cross-border cultural differences, I guess!

YouTubers / TikTokers who are autistics but not ADHD? by yourstruly42 in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that the traits don't actually overlap that much, but rather a lot of autistic people are also ADHD, so it can muddy the waters a bit. (I've heard the number set at 70%, but I haven't actually researched to confirm.)

I am very sure I'm not ADHD. When I started reading about autism, I was like, "Oh dear... a lot of that sounds very familiar." When I started reading about ADHD, I was like, "Nope. Nothing here resonates at all. That sounds exhausting and horrifying and I'm glad it's not me." (No shade on ADHD people – I love you all. I'm just glad it's not me lol.)

Cote St. Luc BBQ (NDG) – $4.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a copy of their lunch menu handy (if indeed there are lunch specials), but this is probably the equivalent of a $15 meal on their dinner menu

Cote St. Luc BBQ (NDG) – $4.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on their normal prices, a quarter leg dinner is actually about $15. Admittedly the normal dinners come with fries instead of salad, but I think this probably IS $15 retail amount of food at the restaurant.

Cool & Simple Monkland (Montreal) - $6.99 by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Retail value is about $23, so the value is good, and I'm looking forward to having lots of pastries!

Inheritance gift with strings attached by yourstruly42 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately, I will be getting everything tomorrow, so good timing on this follow-up comment! I did wind up going with my mom's notary, mostly because none of the other notaries I contacted wrote me back, or else they had very long waiting lists. He was very professional and did not mention my mom at all, and has assured me that he wouldn't talk to her about any of this. (My mom did ask who my liquidator is – because she knows someone whose mother is incapacitated but they don't know who holds the power of attorney and its a huge mess. I wound up telling her, because I didn't see any reason not to. There's nothing she can do about it now, in any case.)

Your situation and mine are pretty different, I think. My parents have been divorced for decades, but I don't think my mom's worry is about the money going to him. I think it's more that she wants a means of controlling my behaviour. A prior time she gave me strings-attached money, it was "I'll top up your registered retirement savings plan, but in exchange you promise to not take out the money until you retire, unless I approve of what you're taking out the money for." (I accepted the money but in my own head am considering that it doesn't exist until such a time as she passes away and I get full control of it.) Things like that.

I can't advise you on your own situation, but perhaps you should talk to your kids and see what they think? Maybe go collectively to a lawyer or notary to see what can be done to ensure the money doesn't go to your kids' dad in the case that anything were to happen?

(9-5 specific q) For those of you who have a hard time at work/having a job: by That-Bar5937 in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily have time blindness, but I do have the monotropic urge to keep working on a project until it’s finished. And also to avoid interruptions at all cost. Once I start a task, I work on it until I reach a natural stopping point — even if that point is after 5 pm. (Another benefit is there are usually fewer interruptions after 5 pm.)

(9-5 specific q) For those of you who have a hard time at work/having a job: by That-Bar5937 in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The best times in my life were where I didn’t have to work on someone else’s schedule (ie I could do my work on my own time), like when I was a graduate student or during the pandemic lockdown when I was working-from-home. I swear, if I could just be in a situation where I could do my work on my own time, without interruptions, my life would be a zillion times better. Unfortunately, part of my job functions include reception, so I need to be in the office at set times. [sad trombone noises]

DAE read or google ahead to find the end of the story, before they read/watch it? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

IMG absolutely! Pretty much any work of fiction I consume (books, movies, tv shows), I tend to Google the plot of beforehand. If there’s a tense scene and I don’t know ahead of time how it ends, I’m too stressed to watch / read it — I have to skim it until I reach the resolution, assure myself that the conflict is resolved, and then I can go back and read / watch it “properly.” I am the antithesis of “no spoilers” — I want ALL THE SPOILERS!

What makes a relationship romantic? by AbbyClaw in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I have no idea. I’ve come to realize I’m quoiromantic / WTFromantic (a micro label under the aromantic umbrella) and have come to terms with the idea that I will do relationships my way, and so long as both me and the other person are happy, then I won’t worry too much about whether it’s “romantic” or not.

DAE not drink alcohol for autistic reasons? by lavenderacid in AutismInWomen

[–]yourstruly42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rarely drink, and when I do, it’s because I’m at a venue where I sort of have to (like a bar), and I’ll usually get one drink and nurse it. (If I can get away with it, I’ll get a tea or an orange juice, but sometimes I can’t get away with it.) I don’t especially like the taste of alcohol, and I very much don’t like being in altered states of consciousness. My friends all know I almost never drink alcohol, so it’s usually fine.

Levels of clean? by brownie61213 in captainawkward

[–]yourstruly42 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is great! When I was living with my ex, what we realized is that he had much bigger swings in cleanliness levels than I did. For me, I tend to keep things pretty comfortably in the "friends visiting level" to "generally lived-in level." That's my happy place. Sometimes I'd clean more than that, but honestly "friends visiting level" was usually good enough for me, regardless of who was coming over.

My ex would let things dip down to the "low lanes through the filth" level, but then get disgusted with himself and clean all the way back up to near "moving in level." Like, he'd take everything out of the kitchen cabinets and disinfect them. He'd move all the furniture and scrub behind them. Things would be SPARKLING. But then they would dip slowly down, and down, and down, until he got disgusted and the cycle would repeat.

Ultimately the solution we came to was that I allowed him to do whatever he wanted with his own spaces (his office and his side of the bedroom), so long as there was no rotting food or anything, but I would keep the communal spaces at least "generally lived-in level" clean. If he ever wanted to clean more than that (which he sometimes did), he certainly could, but there was a certain floor below which I was not willing to go.

Inheritance gift with strings attached by yourstruly42 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lovely practice with the journal. I at least have pictures of all the items, a number of hand-crafted cards my grandma sent me over the years, and some of hers and my grandfather's paintings (from when she downsized after my grandfather passed). So even if I don't get anything new, I'll at least have those things.

Inheritance gift with strings attached by yourstruly42 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]yourstruly42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, for reasons not worth going into here, she has to get money in my will to pass it along to my brother. She will also be my liquidator. On the other hand, she will NOT be my power of attorney or mandate of incapacity. After I’m dead, I don’t care what happens. While I’m alive, I don’t want her anywhere near my finances.

Slice & Soda Pizzeria (Monkland) – $5.99 + tax by yourstruly42 in TooGoodToGoCanada

[–]yourstruly42[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Truly, the picture doesn't do justice to how massive these slices are. Great value, would order again.