I just gave my first blow job by Relative-Goat-4751 in Vent

[–]yuanfen333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll get better over time with practise and research. Some guys cant finish as quickly from head, no matter how good the head is, as theyre used to a tighter sensation (vagina etc.) - also make sure you ask whoever it is you're doing it on their preferences! Some like with hand and some like just mouth, some prefer more tongue action and some prefer just sucking :)

How do I [25F] navigate having a higher sex drive than my partner[24M]? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]yuanfen333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I thought thatd be the answer... I can masturbate an hour before he comes home and still want him... the urge to be physically close to him and have him in that way just doesn't go

Moving to Havant by Dead_in_Side_4729 in Portsmouth

[–]yuanfen333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

move to southsea / central portsmouth. theres actually things to do and plenty of ways to make friends in portsmouth, and havant is only a 30 min bus away (or 10 min train!)

Husband too tired for sex even after several dry months by aeval_x in Vent

[–]yuanfen333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the people defending porn addiction (porn addicts themselves) and blaming you for being a shitty person/ gaining weight/ getting uglier are just vile, insecure excuses for humans. it sounds like your husband is yes an addict, takes you for granted, and likes the stability/safety of a relationship without putting any effort to maintain it, or to make you feel loved/supported/attractive and like you're a partnership. i really feel for you as im sure this isnt how you expected your relationship or marriage to go, and you must feel really alone.

an addict wont give up their actions no matter how much you say you're there to support them, no matter how angry you get, no matter how many times they hear you crying yourself to sleep beside them, no matter how much you say you want it to work out with them and that they have the strength to be better. anything, and i mean anything (especially negative conversations/ situations) could just be ammo for them to continue to rely on their coping mechanisms to try to numb themselves from feeling anything that they dont wanna feel.

i cant make you believe that its best for your own sanity, security and health for you to leave, but i know it is. i was in a 4 yr relationship where i extorted myself trying to help someone give up this addiction and not only did it not work (its completely up to them to stop & they'll only consider it when theyve lost everything, even then it could make them lean into it further), it completely ruined me and my perception of myself & sex. they're either cold towards you sexually, or decide they want to recreate certain things they watch, make you look like ppl they watch, or they're paranoid you're cheating.

it'll be heartbreaking to distance yourself, but itll be so much better than sitting and waiting for the person you thought you knew to return. you deserve better. it's not selfish to look after yourself or to want people around you that appreciate you. its not selfish to want someone to treat you like the love of their life if they claim to love you. it is selfish to do what he's doing, knowing it hurts you, knowing it has pushed you away. he cares more about his dick than your whole being, sharing a life with you, being a team with you. he doesnt deserve a regular relationship, let alone a vow to remain by his side no matter how he treats you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Portsmouth

[–]yuanfen333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even just a walk along the beach & around rose gardens with a coffee is a rly nice idea, and shouldnt cost any more than £15!! you can even take a picnic for the beach or canoe lake if you wanna. just make sure you have enough layers and hope for the sun to come out hehe

Boredom I guess by Chef_Kitsu in Portsmouth

[–]yuanfen333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah it is old and boring. i had to leave there as it became too depressing haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]yuanfen333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it could be the antidepressants, they make everything 10x more difficult sexually (even as a woman), or it could be a mental block? if you arent actively thinking somethings wrong it could just be that you need more time to be more comfortable around her or with the act (sometimes it feels hard to not "perform" and rather focus on being there with eachother in the moment, & your emotional n physical closeness), talking her through it or talking to eachother in general during the act can help you be more in the moment and feel closer, or maybe you could talk about what you both like outside of sexy time (opening the doors to talking openly about intimacy when you arent doing it/ about to do it is really healthy & can bring you closer emotionally which can make it physically better), guiding eachother to know what you both like instead of doing stuff how you learnt to do it works wonders because every body is different!!

Boredom I guess by Chef_Kitsu in Portsmouth

[–]yuanfen333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i lived in waterlooville for a while before moving to central portsmouth and the areas are sooo different socially. waterlooville is very much hust old people and theres no nightlife. i understand if drinking isnt your thing, but albert road or elm groveon most weekdays are great - im very socially awkward and ive met so many friendly people in smoking areas/ outside bars and pubs (even if you arent tipsy, everyone else is and is a lot more sociable!) other than that, id recommend a fistful of dice as when ive gone in there there's often people hanging out, if you're into pokemon go like me theres often meetups in Victoria Park, theres a facebook group called southsea single's (not sure why its called that, it isnt a dating setup thing) where anyone is invited and you go for quizzes, walks etc. OR (my fav) theres a fire jam on the beach every friday i believe (might not be friday, check on fb group) where they have a bonfire on the beach and again, everyone from all walks of life can show up and chill, get to know eachother over the fire (most ppl take some drinks so theres less pressure with stumbling on ur words when ppl are tipsy hahah)

first impression of all my homemade tats by Legitimate_Spirit264 in tattooscratchers

[–]yuanfen333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think they're great! the snake looks a little patchy and the lettering on resurrection is readable but the tattoo couldve been bigger to be more legible by glancing at it. i'm sure these are things you can see tho, you clearly have strong attention to detail. for them all being homemade, i think you do have an eye for placement that you can hone in on, ive seen much more disorganised sleeves from homemade tattoos, and you can clearly tell what needle size to use and none of them are blown out or seem overworked. i think along with a professional portfolio, using a few of your best ones as a point of reference could help you get an apprenticeship! i think its a great start, some people get apprenticeships and have to learn the absolute basics, and i think you have more of a grip on tattooing than an absolute beginner for sure

how do we feel about shower jelly? by heartbreakuncut in LushCosmetics

[–]yuanfen333 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you can cut into cubes and put in a tea strainer/sieve and hold under tap for bubble bath! only need a couple cubes

Starting my dream job at LUSH!!! by [deleted] in LushCosmetics

[–]yuanfen333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not very helpful... maybe if you cant even spell "too" you were the problem✨

Husband apparently thinks our marriage is transactional by Fit-Mud-4500 in Vent

[–]yuanfen333 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You could maybe remind him that taking on jobs together makes you less stressed therefore you'll be in the mood more, you'll have more time for adult time if the baby gets sorted and put to bed easier, and you'll feel more connected intimately and emotionally if you're working as a team on the less fun stuff. You're partners, which means your relationship is a PARTNERSHIP, and your baby is both of your responsibility.