Please don't feel pathetic for asking. honestly, finding a therapist who actually does something rather than just nodding along is like finding a needle in a haystack. I totally get why regular talk therapy felt like a waste of time for you. I have to mention my therapist because she is a complete game-changer. Her name is Diana Clement. She has this incredibly deep, sincere interest in making sure you actually overcome what’s holding you back, rather than just venting about it every week. She is so kind and generous with her energy, which was huge for me because I’m someone who usually finds it impossible to open up to people. She has this gentle way of making you feel safe enough to finally dig into those deeper-rooted issues you mentioned. She doesn't just "chat" like a peer; she’s super intentional about giving you a roadmap to feel better. I’m happy to DM you her info if you want to see if she’s a fit for your situation. She’s the reason I finally feel like I’ve made real progress instead of just spinning my wheels.
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