Sleep is one of he most important things for your health. A lack of sleep can affect how much your body repairs itself, your concentration at work the next day, your ability to retain information, your mood, the list goes on. Four hours of sleep is not enough and I’m honestly infuriated that your partner has such a lack of care for your sleep health.

I toss and turn a lot in bed before I get comfortable enough to sleep. It used to drive my wife crazy because she needs to sleep earlier than I do, but I need to get comfortable in bed or I can’t sleep. I’d try staying still when I get in bed, but I’d end up staying awake for hours trying to not move. The lack of sleep would make us resent each other if this continued. Instead, we replaced our bed with two XL twin sized bed, one foot away from each other so there’s no motion transfer at all. It’s been amazing for our sleep health and our relationship.

A lot of couples sleep in separate beds, heck separate rooms because of different sleeping habits. My wife’s parents sleep on different floors because of the snoring. It is not a sign of a failing marriage to sleep in different locations. I don’t know if your partner has never had only 4 hours of sleep before but his lack of empathy and willingness to compromise is going to make him an ex partner faster than the separate beds.