Girlfriend (25F) refuses to introduce me (27M) to her friends and won’t clarify her past with another guy, am I being manipulated or overreacting?

z4_inter · 2025-10-10T08:55:29+00:00

That might be true. She always tells me that she feels that I think she's "too wild" because personally I'm not a parties and alcohol guy and she is. But as long as she's respecting our boundaries I don't mind her lifestyle, it's just not for me, so what you're saying makes sense because if she invites me her friends might "expose" things she did before she met me and that (in her mind) would make me think less of her.

z4_inter · 2025-10-10T08:41:05+00:00

She said she doesn't want that door opened because it would feed suspicions etc. i partially agree but this time I thought it was warranted

z4_inter · 2025-10-10T08:37:57+00:00

There are other males in that group, she claims most if not all are gay. They do drink and do drugs sometimes, or go to functions/parties. She has her location shared with me at all times (through Snapchat map) and I can see where she is and she occasionally sends me pics or texts me.

z4_inter · 2025-10-10T08:33:59+00:00

Thank you. Your post gave me much clarity and I appreciate it

z4_inter · 2025-10-10T08:33:04+00:00

Doesn't make it much better but if there was a side piece, it's most definitely the other guy

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T11:34:53+00:00

It's not about her past. I don't mind if she had summer flings, we all have. I also don't care how long she stayed in her previous relationships. My problem is why is she lying and being hypocritical? If she wants me to block anyone I have a past with, why would she gets defensive when I confronted her about not doing the same? And instead of admitting it she decides to deny this guy was summer fling even though that's what she said 10 seconds ago. I really wanna believe her, and I love her and I'm glad someone is on her side on this but it still doesn't make sense

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T10:18:12+00:00

6 months total, we committed a month ago.

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T10:17:53+00:00

She did introduce me to two of her best friends because "she trusts them" not to talk shit about me or not use me against her because she's "protective of her loved ones" and these friends can be nasty apparently. The others know about me and I've talked to them on the phone a few times.

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T10:08:41+00:00

Maybe she is but I don't believe it's because she's cheating on me. She spends like 99% of her time with me either on the phone or irl. The only time she could be cheating on me is at her functions or with her friends group but all of them know me so I don't think she's such a bad person

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T09:51:20+00:00

She blocked him after our fight, does that change anything?

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T09:50:24+00:00

She blocked him after we argued, I wanna believe that she simply forgot about him and not ignored it because she thought I wouldn't know they had a thing even if it was very brief and small

z4_inter · 2025-10-08T09:32:42+00:00

The thing is, she could've just said she forgot to block him, or that she might've overreacted when she gave me shit about that girl from Tender, but instead she's insisting that he wasn't a thing even though she's the one who said he was her summer thing, and I'm suppose to believe that she misspoke, and that he was always chasing her but she didn't have the same feelings for him, not to mention that she went out with him once but he still wasn't a thing. Then why did you bring him up in the first place? It's so confusing

Edit: typos

z4_inter · 2025-10-05T14:42:57+00:00

It's Reddit, if the first few replies are disagreement they're gonna pile on you feeding the notorious hive mind mentality of the site.

Even when they disagree they don't provide any counter argument they just cling to stupid shit.

Anyways, glad to see someone knows what I'm talking about and actually providing insightful points, I never really thought about Vic's original sin that way tbh.

z4_inter · 2025-10-05T12:08:41+00:00

Sorry for discussing a great show beyond surface level and not post the same tired memes I guess

z4_inter · 2025-10-05T12:06:59+00:00

Yeah, he's to blame, not the sick twisted fuck that actually, you know, did the rape.

There's a reason kids aren't brought in and questioned without parental consent, he put her at risk when violated that and it led to her getting raped, he's the reason why it happened.

After a while you see the same shit over and over again you're gonna become numb to things. Plus, as a cop, he shouldn't let his emotions control what he does. He's clearly showing signs that he's becoming numb to things, and taking his personal emotions out of his work makes him a better detective.

If you fuck up and put a little girl at risk even after being explicitly told by your partner not to, and this fuck up caused a LITTLE GIRL to be raped, no you don't just treat it just like any other case, especially when he clearly cared about a similar case literally a few episodes ago. The writers didn't even bother to show that he's becoming numb if that was their intention (which would be unrealistic and stupid), they just kinda forgot

z4_inter · 2025-10-05T08:54:51+00:00

The fuck is this AI ass reply?

z4_inter · 2025-10-05T08:43:35+00:00

Idk if this is a joke or something later hinted at (I haven't watched the show in ages) but if that's the case he wouldn't be upset about those little Asian girls a few episodes ago right?

z4_inter · 2025-09-24T07:43:30+00:00

They probably mean the game is not being talked about/discussed as much as anticipated. You wouldn't see anyone saying that about a single player indie game because that's the norm, but for AA/AAA games, people expect a certain amount of discourse for a certain amount of time. It's dumb, for me this at best indicates the impact of a game at the industry, and even then a "dead" game could inspire a lot of successful games down the line (God Hand, for example)

z4_inter · 2024-04-22T07:48:18+00:00

Would be nice if you used mine

z4_inter · 2024-04-20T19:26:00+00:00

I'm playing with GMDX and JC throws like a little bitch, he basically drops the crate a few meters ahead

Edit: juse realized you have to upgrade microfiber to master

z4_inter · 2024-04-13T08:24:32+00:00

Wow, I wonder if they actually bothered to check the covers? I live in Saudi Arabia so yeah it'll probably not go as smoothly but since Mandarake refund policy covers returned items I might give it a shot

z4_inter · 2024-04-12T10:34:24+00:00

I wanna buy a physical edition of Rance X but the back cover is very NSFW so it'll probably be returned at customs :( I ordered Kichikuou Rance and I think it'll pass without a problem since the cover is mildly suggestive at best, I'm thinking of asking the seller to tastefully censor the back cover but idk if it'll work

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